Putting aside the legality or otherwise of unmarried relationships in Dubai (and I have a few friends who have co-habited prior to marriage there and had the authorities turn a blind eye to it) ........ the question that popped into my mind was:
What was the not-yet-ex husband hoping to achieve by informing the police of the situation?
Hmmmn! As you all know i am loath to enter such controvesial debates..., however........................
She broke the rules...............and she must have been aware that arabic law is not very female friendly! And befor anyone jumps down my throat..........it is a statement of fact rather than a judgement!
The husband used this system to exact revenge, and we all love a little retribution dont we?
He has acted in cold blood................rather than give her a good slap, and her lover a beating, and given himself a bit of dignity.He probably had some information about the affair and was able to plan effective measures.
I for one dont think i could be quite so calm about being cheated on............i would want his dangly bits for earrings; and himself would be just as outraged.
I really dont want to be judge, jury and stoning official here, i am in no position to hold the moral high ground over anyone; but i think she got exactly what was coming, and her stupidity leaves me speechless!
Your origins are begger all to do with this, and it serves as a reminder that rules is rules, wherever you are.....................
Not so much Arabic law, as culture, is responsible for perhaps what could be seen as less female tolerance. Dubai is promoted as a relaxed holiday destination. And yes, it certainly has a bit of glitz. However, you must remember the laws state, and this is religious law which is also the law of the land, no adultery. Dubai is surrounded by other countries which have expressed a concern about the looseness of behaviour in Dubai. There are also different Sheiks who rule...what one Sheik thinks is acceptable, the next may not.
Morally this may be wrong. However it is not wrong legally, and certainly not in the eyes of that country. In the UK, adultery is still grounds for divorce and so is against the institution of marriage. And legally you can go to prison indefintely for setting fire to a church.
I have no confess to not quite understanding what all the fuss is about. Yes the wronged hubbie could have gone about things differently but who is to say what is wrong or right. What would have been the most correct course of action for him to follow? Bearing in mind human nature, distress, wronged partner, etc...
The fact remains that Adultery is against the LAW in the Arab states. Not moral judgement, but LAW of the STATE.
The UK uses adultery for divorce purposes, but until about the 1950's even there adultery was used in favour of the Husband, and women couldnt cite it as a reason to divorce a man!!
This woman has commited a crime, as has her lover, according to the state.............that is why they are in custody.
The estranged husband................let's be clear that this marriage was effectively over, has used this advantage to the fullest.
It is a calculated act of retribution, and one i suspect many would take advantage of if we had the chance; so much better than sewing prawns into the curtain hem; cutting one arm of his best suit, or sending intimate photos via text message to all on your contacts list!!!
I dont condone either of the actions.........................and i pity the poor children in the middle of this.
Bored now with this....................................
not one of you mentioned the children (with exception to scousemouse) you should be ashamed of yourselves... you have no regard for the children, if no children were involved then yeah (morally wrong) but i'd have no issue with him going to the police, but to have your own CHILDREN'S MOTHER locked up for anything up to a year.... that's not justified simply because they both are British, if both of them decided to renounce their citizenship and live there again that would be different..
If my wife had an affair I'd resolve it and if one of them was to leave her then fine but I'd not go to the police to see my daughter without a mother over something that would not could not happen in the UK.
You obviously don't care about the welfair of children who are involved in messes like this.
Sorry to disappoint but I am not in the least bit ashamed of myself and I don't think anyone of us has the right to judge anyone else. You cetainly have no right to condemn me for not sharing your beliefs or morals etc.
He did what he thought was right. I've told my OH that if he ever does the dirty on me, I'll leave and take the kids with me. I will not support someone else playing mother to my children. I don't care if that makes me wrong or right, but it is the way I feel and if that bloke felt the same, fair play.
Libby, i dont think you have anything to be ashamed of...........................in fact i applaud your argument.
Look, the whole story centres on the fact that another state has a BRITISH subject in custody for breaking the law of that state..............................typical daily mail xenophobic vitriolic BS.
To counter the banality of their report, the rag gives her marital history...........married to another man when she met estranged husband............now has a lover that SHE paid for to go to Dubai...................giving evidence to her moral laxity. BUT, shes a BRIT and therefor above such archaic rulings(?)
We should be grateful we are in loving monogamous relationships, and for the time being, not considering an affair d'amour...................and for that matter desperate and sad and wealthy enough to fund such actions!!!!!!!!!
I think everyone on here has thought about the children but did she when she was breaking the law? Probably not! They still arewith their father, even if he did dob his wife in he may be a very good and loving father. She obviously had no regard for the children when she was spending money (that could have been spent on her children) flying her lover over to dubai to break the law. I don't really understand your moral high ground on this. Do you have children? I have 4 (nearly 5) and would never knowingly do anything that would take me away from them. So in my eyes (and it is only my opinion asa mum) she knew she was breaking the law and could get 'put away' for it yet she is the one, (and she is all grown up and able to make decisions) that chose that course for her life. Yes I feel sorry for the children but its her fault and she should have known better.
Just shows you can take the slapper out of the country but not the slapper out of..... well the slapper.
Delphi, your bolt hole is closed, i like they way you thought of the kids.......... i only wish she thought as hard.
No sympathy in the this thread.
She obviously had her children in her thoughts while she was getting.........well yeah.
And despite what everyone has said to you about this BEING THE LAW OF THE STATE!!!! You still harp on about it being unfair??
She KNEW the LAW and she BROKE the LAW!!!! End of. No sympathy. If she wanted to be treated like a brit, the she should have gone back to Britain, daft mare.