I just wanted to say thanks to everyone for the kind messages of support and offers of help, and to update and also this information may be of benefit to any other single parents out there
Ive got a rental, which is actually next door to me and i move in next weekend! Ive bought another car (much cheaper and economical), which will be much better for me and Alex.
Sorted out centerlink, which was a bit of nightmare and involved lots of tears lol. I wont get the parenting payment as i havent been in aus 2 years but i will get family assistance A.B and rent assist. The paretning payment was $90 a fortnight but they want to see your wage slips all the time , so in a way im glad i dont get it as its too much hassle. also find out today if i will get my bond payed for for my rental...it all helps!!! oh and a healtchcare card which reduces the cost of prescriotions and doctors fees.
In Australia you also have to use the child support agency otherwise they reduce any extra help to a minimum, ive done the calculator and its a laughable amount, but its better than nothing and im sure the ex will contribute to his sons upbringing. They can trace people abroad as well with this.
Anyone looking into divorce, you have to be seperated 12 months before you apply for one, and there are only one grounds which is the marriage has broken down.
Hope this information is useful, its such a sad thing to happen but ive heard of 2 other couples splitting up recently so it may be of help.
Would be lovely to get together with others in my situation, everyone i know is all coupled up:(