Don't go back!!!
I know everyone has different reasons and at times it can be really hard but please work as hard as you can to make it in Australia.
I grew up in Adelaide and are good friends with lots of poms who have been there a number of years. I have never met a kid who has been in Adelaide more than 5 years who does'nt thank their parents for making the move.
If you ask the main reason why we make the move it's for a better life for our kids. If in 15 years Australia is not 100% better than the UK then our kids can choose to go back!!! (But I bet they won't!)
Wicked post, I agree, we moved to Oz (Tasmania) in Nov 07 and only lasted 6 months, it was all my fault to come back to the UK, I was really home sick, missing my husbands family (feeling the kids needed their grandparents) and my brothers and their families badly, and also what I thought were really good friends. My hubbie saw how sad I was and we decided to pack up and come back to the UK as it was making our life so miserable. With hindsight now I wish we hadnt come back to the UK (I also didnt realise I was 6 wks pregnant with my littlest now 6 months old). Since arriving back in the UK all the reasons we wanted to get our kids out of the country for have got worse, we hardly ever see close family (my brothers are an exception, indeed one of them and his family are in the process of applying for South Australia State Sponsership) and the so called friends have only contacted us a couple of times in the year that we have been back!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It was the biggest mistake of our life pulling our kids around again and moving back to the UK. We are now in the process of coming back to Oz and are heading for Adelaide at the end of Sept 09 and cant wait, the kids are so excited too, this time our heads are clear. This time its for keeps, we are a lot of money out of pocket and know that the homesickness is hard but we will get through it, many do. To anyone thinking of throwing in the towel dont do it, you will end up one of the many ping pong poms that we have now become too!!!!!! remember the reasons why you wanted to immigrate in the first place and dont loose sight of them, the leaving is the hardest bit. It will take time to settle and you definately need to give it at least 3 years. Good luck everyone. Thanks Corinne xxxxxx
Corinne it is great to hear from people who have experience of this. Good luck for september, i bet you cannot wait
Nikkic, its very hard for some. It's easy to forget i guess. It would also depend what life you had in the UK.
Your comment is spot on....... go back to the reasons why.
We can all think of family and friends, and i know people have special bonds....... but you only get one shot in this life, sometimes it's best to be "selfish" and do what is best for you and yours.
GREAT POST....I did EXACTLY the same ...pinged back to the UK after just 6 months too!!!!
Originally Posted by bishop3912
Good Luck with your move back to Adelaide!
Corinne is right...I needed 3 years! Still didn't feel anywhere near settled here even after the two years people told me to stick it out. With things the way they are back in the UK, I wouldn't and couldn't go back now. You learn to settle for fewer material possessions in your life, in exchange for safety and a better environment to live in.
Originally Posted by cunnah10
It would be intersting to me gill to hear if you regret going back, we met once in the uk and you seemed to be the most keen to get here i have great days and poor ones and often think going back would be the best thing for me but my kids are having none of it what are your feeling now you are back there (if you don't mind me asking )
Yes,but also there are some who go back because they feel they simply do not belong here,and realise home is where the heart is.Comfort in familiarity can sway people into returning home,even though they fully realise life here may have so much more to offer.I think its all down to where we want to be,not where we feel we should want to be.
you are a great example of this DEB......soooo glad things have worked out for you hun...took a loooong time...BUT you got there in the end!!!!
Originally Posted by Deb17
although we havent been yet, we are 100% going to give it everything we have got, and we are going to be very lucky when we get our visas and finally go because Bishops (Corinne) is our family and we will have each other to lean on, i am married to her brother and we cannot wait to get out there and settle and hopefully enjoy a better quality of life with our children.
Hi...was it the Warrington "Meet up" that we met all that time ago?
Originally Posted by massive
Yes you are correct I WAS on a mission to get to oz AND i tackled every hurdle along the way UNTIL we eventually got there!
Really hard to put into words the situation that we are now in .... we have been back in the UK now for nearly 4 months AND yes i do have huge regrets!we came back for a number of reasons (some personal) and my parents ill health played a big part in my decision to return!
Life is soooo hard sometimes AND we do what we think right at "the" time!!
I never hated the UK....and still don't ...BUT as a mum of 4 young kids coming back has brought it home to me "why" we wanted to leave in the first place.And I think that I "HAD" to come back to the UK to realize this!
BUT I can also relate to what others say....being out of your comfort zone...guilt over leaving parents etc...
For some people it is really easy relocating to the otherside of the world...BUT for others it is not the case.
I have heard of quite a few ping pongers lately....AND I wish them all the best of luck!