View Poll Results: Should we have a "Moving Back To The Uk" Forum?
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So it seems to some that we should not have a section to help members whose time in Adelaide has,or will be cut short through varying circumstances,some of which are very stressful.I wouldn't like to get wounded in no mans land with one or two on here!
Here is another good article on Repatriation from Expat Exchange, a wonderful site for Expats.
By Katie Dotson
Summary: Just returning from a two-year stint in Belgium, Dotson is working on reassimilating into American culture and finding a sense of normalcy back "home."
I can remember moving in 6th grade. The feelings of anxiousness and fear ran down my spine every time I thought about the first day. What would I wear? Who would I sit next to at lunch? Would I fit in? Though a fragile time, I survived. It took longer than I like to admit to assimilate, but I did it. But what about the adults that move away and have to come back and fit in? What happens when you leave everything you know and are accustomed to only to be thrown back to the wolves two years later? Stephen and I accepted the job in Liege, Belgium as a newly married couple. The thoughts of traveling Europe were very attractive, and to do this with the one you love was the icing on the cake. Naïve to think the move would be easy, we learned rather quickly it wouldn't be a cakewalk. Liege resided in the French-speaking region of Belgium; Stephen and I spoke about two words upon arrival. We learned survival phrases and got by. As a married couple we were stronger than ever; nothing fixes communication issues better than moving to a country where your spouse is the only other English speaker! We tackled the adventure together, he and I. We eventually found friends, became part of a social network, traveled extensively and became part of the "group." We also missed two births, an engagement, a death and countless other events in the lives of our close friends and families we'd left behind. We couldn't wait to get back, but couldn't bear the thought of leaving. We invested so much of ourselves in finding new friends, and to leave them without knowing if you would see them again was heart-breaking. We missed so much in the lives of our family and friends here that we felt like outsiders.
This dichotomy made the move seem impossible, when in reality the repatriation aspect would be our biggest hurdle.
The Saturday before we moved, we sat in a revitalized salle, toasting with our friends and colleagues. The smell of homecooked Indian food and Belgian beer permeated the air as we recalled funny stories and hysterical mishaps during our two year stint. We laughed and cried as they played the video montage of our adventure. We said our goodbyes and left, not knowing when, if ever, we would see these people again.
For months I had missed the creamy taste of Jif - the perfect pairing of Ranch with any and every edible item. We requested packages left and right, praying the comforts of home would seep through the cardboard. Now in a matter of minutes, I yearned for more time here. For more waffles and amazing chocolate... for more sweaty and smelly bus rides, clinging to the rails in hopes I wouldn't swing into an unsuspecting hairy pit. I longed for another boulet a Liegeois and a lukewarm Jupiler. In a matter of minutes my heart ripped out of my chest. Leaving for good.
The movers arrived as scheduled, packing up our things with precision and delicacy. They utilized the typical European elevator to transport our belongings and comforts out of our 3rd story window to the ground below. For weeks we prepared for this moment. We sorted and sifted, packed and stacked. Now, we watched patiently and emotionally as this chapter of our lives came to a close -- too quickly.
Repatriation: (v) to restore or return to the country of birth, citizenship, or origin; to return to one's country
Since the beginning of time people have moved from country to country, repatriating upon return to their native lands.
The Indians evacuated their homelands due to force, then returned on their own accord some years later. Every veteran had to repatriate after their assignments, sometimes bringing their visions and dreams of the war with them, adding to the stress of life back on home soil. Immigrants are frequently repatriated as a matter of visa issues or illegal status. Repatriation as a concept dates back to the beginning of time. Why would I have an issue with this?
Ruth van Reken, co-author of Third Culture Kids: The Experience of Growing Up Among Worlds, states that "every transition involves loss… even when there is gain." Coming home was difficult. Stephen had to stay another week in Belgium, so I tackled the first hurdle alone. Flying with Gracie, our dog, proved to be a godsend. I think the emotions would have gotten the best of me if I had been completely alone. My family greeted me at the airport. I felt innately happy to see them standing there, elated in my return. Everyone around me spoke English -- I could hear every conversation. They understood me. The lack of challenge instantly hit me -- jolted me back to missing Europe and my husband.
"More people find coming home to be a more difficult transition than going abroad," writes Alan Paul, author of Expat Life in the Wall Street Journal.
I think it could be a good idea too. It probably crosses many peoples minds at some point and to know a couple of facts may help make their mind up up one way or the other.
Our plant managar who has been here for over 25 years returns to the UK next month, he just didn't want to retire here in Oz, his children returned to England as soon as they left University. I guess all I'm saying is: any of us could start to consider returning at any time, and knowing where to look may be useful.
Not sure where this thread is going now . I think alot of people have made their feelings quite clear, either in favour of or against the idea. Now I get the impression that it has become about bashing those who agree or disagree. And as for posting info from other sites...I think the link was enough. That person was on that forum and posted her info for those people, not for all and sundry.
I can see your points of view, still don't agree, still don't expect you to agree with mine. But I am starting to get a bit sick and tired of all the little digs
Hello again all. There is nothing personal meant by my comments just my view. If someone posts a question that i can/could help with then i would. As someone else has put it if you/I dont want to read posts then dont. And its by no means a dig at people going home as it must be very hard and very worrying to make this decision. Its a shame some people cannot take different views without getting personal. However my view to the origional question stands as once again in my opinion it is not required but hey that is just my opinion.
Living In Adelaide Since Jan 2012 And Loving It
Sorry I thought this site was meant for information sharing Expat Exchange, Expat Women, etc are sites for Expats worldwide...yes, for all and sundry!
Originally Posted by Libby1971
Libby, if you're not interested, why bother posting. You seem to have a very disagreeable attitude towards anything you are not interested in.
I've noticed many folks on this site who end up moving back. I was only suggesting one small section, not split up into sub-sections. That section could include a sticky post with a link to the above as well, but at the end of the day people's feelings should be validated, and discussing what they're going through with others (who they know from being active members of this forum) helps.
Originally Posted by Tim
I don't see why people should be having a go at what is actually a very good idea from Suzer. Some of the best advice and encouragement I've had has been from people who made the move back to the UK, and their experiences are all valid and worthy in guiding others to make these difficult life choices. If this forum is all about helping and supporting others, why is giving advice about moving back less important than advising people on the move out here in the first place?
Once again, it seems, some forum members only want to see the positives posted about Adelaide, when in fact a more balanced view would be to show prospective migrants a clearer picture of reality...what can go right as well as what can go wrong once they get here. :(
Perhaps we should take a democratic stance and have a poll to see who is for or against such a section being added.
In true democratic style, with many differnet opinions on the matter - I've added a poll to this. Give it a week and then we can decide!
I actually put a request in a couple of weeks ago for 'a returning to the UK' section and was told that they would think about it. Adelaide doesn't work for everybody. My husband is a Carpenter. We did tons of research before we came but didn't realise that not having a licence (he has to wait 2 years) would have such a huge impact on his salary and salary expectations. We didn't come with enough money to keep us going for 2 years. He was offered a couple of jobs but not enough to keep a family going, pay the rent, food, run cars and because our children were way ahead of their peers in education 'private school', not to mention prescription charges. We can't even meet our costs. I think that this kind of information is invaluable, particularly to other Carpenters who are thinking of making the move.