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      Friends returning after 6 years here

      Our friends in Victoria are returning back to the UK in a weeks time after 6 years over here.

      The husband wants to return, which I think is more unusual because from things I have read and seen it tends to be the woman who is usually the one that feels the pull to go back.

      My friend loves living over here and has a good job, but feels she has to support her husband and as they have 2 young children she wants to keep the family together. Although I think the reality is setting in now and he is already talking about coming back to Australia and they haven't even got to the UK yet!

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      Quote Originally Posted by Jessica Berry View Post
      Our friends in Victoria are returning back to the UK in a weeks time after 6 years over here.

      The husband wants to return, which I think is more unusual because from things I have read and seen it tends to be the woman who is usually the one that feels the pull to go back.

      My friend loves living over here and has a good job, but feels she has to support her husband and as they have 2 young children she wants to keep the family together. Although I think the reality is setting in now and he is already talking about coming back to Australia and they haven't even got to the UK yet!
      take if from somebody who knows....IT IS A HUGE DECISION!!!
      and he may well regret making the move back...Although for some that i know it was the right decision to move back!
      If he is already even thinking of moving back to Australia after moving back to the UK then i would be very worried if i was his wife!
      It can financially cripple you being a PING PONGER!!!
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      Quote Originally Posted by Jessica Berry View Post
      Our friends in Victoria are returning back to the UK in a weeks time after 6 years over here.

      The husband wants to return, which I think is more unusual because from things I have read and seen it tends to be the woman who is usually the one that feels the pull to go back.

      My friend loves living over here and has a good job, but feels she has to support her husband and as they have 2 young children she wants to keep the family together. Although I think the reality is setting in now and he is already talking about coming back to Australia and they haven't even got to the UK yet!
      We moved back home after being in Adelaide for a year because my wife missed her family a lot. We had similar thoughts to your friends prior to leaving Adelaide. Within weeks of returning home we realised we had made a very costly mistake and moved back to Adelaide the same year. Generally, both my wife, me and the kids are now very happy.

      I can confidently say that had we not become "ping pongers"my wife would not have settled here first time around. An expensive mistake yes, but one that we have definitely learned from.

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      Quote Originally Posted by Jon T View Post
      We moved back home after being in Adelaide for a year because my wife missed her family a lot. We had similar thoughts to your friends prior to leaving Adelaide. Within weeks of returning home we realised we had made a very costly mistake and moved back to Adelaide the same year. Generally, both my wife, me and the kids are now very happy.

      I can confidently say that had we not become "ping pongers"my wife would not have settled here first time around. An expensive mistake yes, but one that we have definitely learned from.
      Our friends flew back to the UK this weekend, so it will be interesting to watch how things pan out. We returned to the UK for a holiday for my brothers wedding after being here 18 months, a week in Nottingham was all we needed to know we had made the right decision. I don't think until you emigrate you realise the pull of being away from friends and family and I think this is probably the number 1 reason people go back. In our friends case, that was not the reason for returning.

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      Definately nothing wrong with coming back the UK, except the cost of it all, because if I had not returned back here then I would still be miserable in OZ, atleast now I will go back with more appreciation and acceptance, I didnt allow myself to be happy in OZ, how could I when I was pining for home? you need to come back when you feel like that to get it all out of your sytem so to speak. I dont regret coming back to the UK (been bk 2yrs now) as i know next time il be in OZ happier and in a completely different mindset, which will then help with the peace of mind of the rest of the immediate family, I hope I can in turn assist someone else who goes through what I went through!

      Mayjess
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      We are in the UK on a three week holiday and still two weeks to go - thank goodness! I am loving being back in the UK - it is SO beautiful in the Northamptonshire countryside. I am loving being back in the family fold too and will find it very hard to get back on the plane. If it wasn't for Bill, I wouldn't be going back. Good luck to anyone making the decision but England isn't so bad. I do miss the sea, but that's about it!
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      I agree the UK isnt so bad, reasons for moving away have to be personal for you & your family, the UK is where our history is, such as were we went to school, our families living close by etc etc its familiarity, and thats what we miss when we emmigrate, so deciding to move away has to be for the right reasons, and for those returning, I empathise with you, its really hard, but can be done, and for those returning bk to OZ thats just as hard as going in the 1st place, were all on our own little journeys in life, no one is always right and no-one is always wrong, explore your own lives in your own ways, I would never be influenced by one person saying OZ is the be end and all end, then another saying its the worst place on the planet, go decide for yourselves, dont think your life will be worse or better until you have a try!!!!

      Mayjess

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      We got friends moving back to Scotland having been here in Adelaide for over 7 years, got 3 kids and just decided they had enough of Oz living!! Not sure they making the right decision but each to their own!!

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      Quote Originally Posted by mayjess View Post
      Definately nothing wrong with coming back the UK, except the cost of it all, because if I had not returned back here then I would still be miserable in OZ, atleast now I will go back with more appreciation and acceptance, I didnt allow myself to be happy in OZ, how could I when I was pining for home? you need to come back when you feel like that to get it all out of your sytem so to speak. I dont regret coming back to the UK (been bk 2yrs now) as i know next time il be in OZ happier and in a completely different mindset, which will then help with the peace of mind of the rest of the immediate family, I hope I can in turn assist someone else who goes through what I went through!

      Mayjess
      You have been a great support to me on here...offered me lots of advice..AND made me realize that I wasn't "mentally unbalanced" after all (although my hubby would disagree)!
      It was great to hear from somebody who had been through it also AND could relate to everything!
      Although we have not had the chance to meet up....I want to thank you for your support!
      And everything is going to plan for us now!!!
      Gill xxx

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      Quote Originally Posted by cunnah10 View Post
      You have been a great support to me on here...offered me lots of advice..AND made me realize that I wasn't "mentally unbalanced" after all (although my hubby would disagree)!
      It was great to hear from somebody who had been through it also AND could relate to everything!
      Although we have not had the chance to meet up....I want to thank you for your support!
      And everything is going to plan for us now!!!
      Gill xxx

      Gill you are very welcome, and ditto, you have also helped me, especially with estate agents (coming round Fri) im so scared, but seriously, I dont think anyone can predict or presume how anyone will feel regarding moving away from your home, some ppl may think they know how they will feel or some ppl may think that those ppl who move to OZ and return are absolutley off their heads or didnt give it long enough or didnt even try etc etc etc, but you cannot begin to imagine the heartache homesickness brings unless you have been there, but it can be dealt with and even overcome, were living proof of that, seen as though were giving it another go!!! so the thanks are straight back at ya Gill.

      Mayjess

     

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