09-12-2009, 08:52 PM #131
Can we cool it on the comparisons folks.
Sometimes the facts are not there to support them.
It's an interesting thread to say the least
09-12-2009, 11:32 PM #132
With regards to meeting ozzies. We have been here for 2 and a half years. We desperatly tried to meet ozzies but with no success - our social life consisted of poms who arrived the same time as us. However we have just began to make friends with a few ozzies who have accepted us into their lifes and its great. They are extremely generous and very thoughtful - they have opened their homes to us. So be patient... it will happen. Just takes a little time .
10-12-2009, 12:25 AM #133
10-12-2009, 08:04 PM #134
If only that were true...have you not noticed the amount of people here who dont speak english or only speak a little. Before I got here i thought the same as you but almost 4 yrs down the line ......no way! HUbby worked somewhere the other day and they had to bring in an interpreter!
Originally Posted by thebacons
10-12-2009, 09:24 PM #135
Was it because of his accent:)
Originally Posted by sarahsmartiepants
10-12-2009, 09:29 PM #136
Originally Posted by lynsteve
11-12-2009, 02:48 AM #137
First of all thanks for sharing your thoughts…..it's not always easy admitting that things aren't going well.
I have to agree with the very wise responses already posted…..they're 100% correct when they say they can't give you a reason to stay. Because every single person who makes takes the plunge to move to Australia will have similar but ultimately different experiences.
All I can give is a brief account of own experience of trying to cope with living in a new country.
When I first arrived in Australia, 23 years ago, I was a fresh faced and very green 16 year old who was coming to Australia (with my family) for a "better life" I was led to believe that jobs grew on trees and I could pick and choose whatever job/career I wanted. That Australians were SUPER friendly and life would grrrrrreat. (How naïve). The reality was I was on the dole for 6 months….had no money….found it difficult to meet friends and people couldn't understand my very broad Geordie accent! Which, now I'm older, I've realised isn't that unusual as the majority of the people in England have trouble understanding people from the NE…so why would Aussies be any different. ;)
Anyway! I hated the place for 4 years…..I was deeply unhappy….lonely….little ****. I did settle after I met my wife….but would constantly feel homesick. I never went back until I'd been here 12 years…. I really don't know why I left it for so long….but I did.
I had such a great time when I was back….seeing my family and old school friends etc….showing my wife all the places I continually spoke about….my boyhood memories….it really was great. What was interesting was that most of my family and friends were doing really well. They all had good jobs, nice homes and cars etc. which were all the reasons why we moved 13,000 miles away! Something else I noticed was that all the memories I had about England weren't quite the same as I remembered….you tend to have very rose tinted memories of the good things that you miss when you're homesick which is perfectly normal under the circumstances.
It was the trip back to my home (England….I still call England home even though I've spent the majority of my life here) which made me really appreciate what I have in Australia. It wasn't that England was terrible but I realised that I have a good life in Adelaide, Australia and moving back to England wouldn't give me any more or else than I already worked very hard to achieve. I rarely get homesick now….though I do miss my family + friends.
As many people have quite rightly said….you have to do what's right for you and your family. It's not always easy and some will always struggle more than others. My suggestion is this. If you really want to return back to England then try to go back for a holiday first. See if England is exactly how you remember it to be. This might seem a waste of money but it would be far more expensive to sell up in Australia only to find that you want to return. Which has happened to a few migrants that I've known over the years.
One final piece of advise I can give you is this......don't bottle it all up pretending everything is great it'll only make you more miserable.....talk to husband, friends or family about how you feel....ppl do understand....but do it in moderation…If you know what I mean ;)
11-12-2009, 05:38 AM #138
What a great post Bluenose. I luv your comment on your geordie accent. Your honesty made me smile.
11-12-2009, 06:59 AM #139
Fantastic post wish I had read this 3 years ago, hindsight is a wonderful thing !!!
The bluenose signature, is that cause you support Everton? heard my husband say that, he`s an Evertonian!
11-12-2009, 08:21 AM #140
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOooooooooooooo Steve !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Originally Posted by lynsteve
Might be a bit late but welcome to PIA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Noticed you found your way the other day!