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Interesting to hear all your thoughts, both negative and positive. We are just a medical away from our Visa being granted (delaying a bit as i can't finish work til next Sept) and are actually having doubts / second thoughts a to whether we are doing the right thing. We both know the ideal situation would be to move over and be able to settle in straight away and make loads of new friends. Kids settle into school ok and we find a nice house etc. All of the negative thoughts we are having at the moment are being mentioned in this post. i think we will end up coming over regardless because if we don't we may regret it for the rest of our lives. A very big step and stressfull move but i's got to be better than living in the UK under that idiot, Gordon Brown. I would hope though, that after 3 years we will know where we stood.
Ohhh, a real man, that's what you are Graham!
I wonder if Donna is reading all these posts and what she thinks? I guess if you really want Adelaide to work, then you will really go out and make an effort to make friends, join clubs, adopt the lifestyle etc. It's definitely not all bad here - I am really looking forward to the summer - bring it on. Good luck in your decisions Donna.
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[i think we will end up coming over regardless because if we don't we may regret it for the rest of our lives. quote]
the amount of people who said 'ooh yeah we were gonna emigrate to aus but never did due to family/work/money etc..., wish we had done it now!'
me n hubby were determined that we never became one of the 'wish we'd have done that brigade'....so what if we come all this way and move back to uk in 5-10 years time......AT LEAST WE GAVE IT A GO!!!! :) (by the way we have NO intention at the mo' to go anywhere lol). yes emigrating is hard work, and expensive but you have to believe it'll all come good in the end!.
i've had days that i hated everything here (ususally after a row with hubby! ) and i've cried driving to work but it doesn't last, sometimes it helps me to look at clips of birmingham on youtube and then that reminds me why i left!! ;)....when ur down n sad allow urself to have a 'pity-party' and a cry but then pick urself up again and go and do something positive...walk on the beach/in the hills etc.. as someone said on here you have to make urself go out and do stuff and remember why you came in the first place!
i know it's not for everyone but if you can look urself in the mirror and hand on heart say that you've tried everything to make it work and gave it time and then you decide to return to the uk......AT LEAST YOU GAVE IT A GO!!!! ;)
big hugs to everyone, ange xx
I love Australia, I'm so lucky to be here and I REALLY want to stay cos life is genuinely great..... however, after 10 years away, I also miss my Dad cos he getting older and I've only seen him twice since I left the UK. It's very difficult feeling torn between 2 places. I definitely don't want to live in England but I definitely do want to be near my family. I never thought I would feel this way but now I do and it's really, really hard. Anyone got a magic wand (or a private jet!) they can give me, lol?! :)
Think this is the case sadly for a lot of us.....AND always will be...some cope with it though better than others!
Personally I have returned to Adelaide to give my 4 kids a better life...BUT I will always miss my lovely parents & family in the UK...& feel so much guilt deserting them (for the 2nd time).
It is just something we have to learn to live with I suppose ... must be very hard for you...10 yrs here & only seen your dad twice in that time!!!!
we worried about this too but we're extremey lucky as my parents are emigrating out here in a years time (oz citizens anyway) and aso i have relatives in adelaide i could call if desperately wanted a night out!
alternatively my mum (who lived in brisbane for four years with us four kids in the 80s)) used to either use babysitters or /and she was a member of a group of poms and australians (all with kids) who used to have token system - and take turns baby sitting for each other! the token system ensured that one parent wasnt doin all the sitting
i think thats a really good idea - someone you know, someone kids know and someone who has kids themselves!
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It's also a matter of priorities. If you make spending some time away from the kids a priority, then the chances are, it will actually happen. If you don't, it doesn't matter what country you live in cos nothing will change. Plus, if you think life is difficult, then it will be.
If you put yourself out there and meet up with other people in the same situation, they become your support network - like an extended family. Adelaide is a very friendly place and I'm sure that you would have no problem making friends once you get out there and do it! :o)
We have had some seriously cack times since we have been here, our close friends will vouch for that, many a time we could have said nah, not fur us we could have lived this way back in the UK.
We have 2 teenage kids who have been terrible since we have been here, but we also have two lil kids who love it out here and to see them laughing and smiling enjoying the beach, enjoying school, in fact enjoying everything that Australia is offering them that makes us feel we are doing the right thing.
Sure it gets old but as the Aussies would say HTFU !!! pmsl...i say to the mrs put a jumper on or blanket....maybe i am just heartless hehehe...
Sure it IS a big massive change in virtually everything, but IMO its so worth it and compared to the way we lived in the yUK we are far far more better off and have a better lifestyle here...
If you want something bad enough the few negatives are worth it....we have been through the mill this last 17 months or so.....i wouls love some people to take a walk in our shoes....were still here loving it and fighting away.....long may it last.