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To a lot of those people that whinge about having no life............hey thats what happens when you have kids!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!........things become more difficult....they are your responsibility after all. You will find though, that in oz lots of socializing is done at home...so you can take your kids ............albeit you cant let them run riot and still have to look out for them.......but this means you will still have a life!
Last edited by smit; 09-10-2009 at 06:37 AM.
I chose to stay in Adelaide because it had the least amount of Poms in at at the time. I figured, why come all the way to Australia and surround myself with Brits? That would have defeated the object of coming here! I think that is probably why I found it much easier to settle. My first couple of years were the best years of my entire life. From the moment I got here, I absolutely loved it and within weeks, I felt like I knew half of Adelaide, lol!
Of course, normal life stresses always kick in at some point and it has been a roller coaster since then. However, the crappy stuff would have happened in whatever country I was in. I find it really weird that so many Poms make such a huge move to the other side of the world but don't seem to make the effort to get to know the 'locals' once they are here. It's no wonder some of you feel like you are struggling!
So, to those of you that don't feel at home here, I really recommend stepping out of your comfort zone and meeting new people. Don't just socialise with other Poms, get out there and integrate! And no excuses.... for every reason you can think of not to do it, I guarantee I can think of 10 reasons why you can and another 10, for how you can!! :o)
And if anyone out there wants to meet another Pom living in the North East, please do give me a holler. I may have an English passport, but I have an Aussie one too and I'm as much an Aussie as I am a Pom (so almost a local)!
PS - To The Pickles..... I'm a Womble too....good on ya for making the move out here, Summer is on it's way and I'm sure that perfect job is just around the corner!!! :o)
I think it is easy for someone to say don't mix with other Poms but not everyone is in a situation to mix with Aussie's. I go to an International college and mix with Asian students of whom I am old enough to be their mother. Additionally I do not speak Cantonese and probably 90% of the English is not good enough to converse with. So for me I don't give a hoot that the only few friends I have are poms. It takes away at least some of the terrible loneliness that I have endured. I too came with the attitude to try and only mix with Aussie's so that the Aussie experience is more authentic. I soon realised that it just was not going to work that way for me and unless I found friends no matter what nationality my mental health would certainly suffer.
Joanne (43), Ged (41) & Bella the cat (8).....and now Brian the dog; the only Aussie in the house. Arrived 8/1/09 from Oldham, Gtr Manchester.
Rented in Findon, SA for 22 months built own house & so now moved to Seaford Meadows. Became citizens 9/12/13. Life doesn't get much better
....I said dont 'just' socialise with other Poms. I didn't say, 'don't' socialise with other Poms. There is a difference :)
I also started out in Adelaide as a mature student at an International college for a year and I was the ONLY person who wasn't Asian. However, I made some good friends (even though their English was pretty bad!) and 9 years later, I am still in touch with some of them.
We have all been through some very difficult times and wondered whether we could carry on. I am just suggesting that the wider your circle of friends, the more support you will have and the easier it will be. I really do hope things better for you :)
I can understand both points of view...we have been here 7 months, and had our fair share of ups and downs and a few months ago I really wanted to go home, we had the worst possible start in Oz for us...with the loss of a baby. But...life goes on and we are actually loving it here now! It's starting to feel like home and already has memories, but if we could fly our family out to live here to, it would be even better! Looking forward to our first summer here too!
The cravings for Sainsbury's & M&S food and Next clothes subside...lol! You get used to what you have here. But at the end of the day, life is what you make it, and everyone is different...stay or go, just make the most of life.
I think if you adopt a positive attitude you can do really well here. I went through the homesickness thing and i have to say the first 12 months were terrible. I split with my husband and moved house changed car jobs etc. I even booked my flights back to the uk and handed my notice in at one point but you know what, i think how much of a better life it is here for my lil one and ive turned it all around. Its so bloody easy to be negative if your surrounded by it, youve got to pick yourself up and get on with it. Im now planning on going back to uni to study and im happier than i have been in a long time, its not easy but if i can do it alone with a 3yr old im sure others can :)
And as mylie cyrisy said lol, its the climb!!!:)
clare 39 clinical nurse educator, Rn/mhn, Alex 7