Within the first few years of being here, Hubby lost both his parents and his brother. He couldn't make it back for any of the funerals, which was not received well by the rest of the family. Only a year or so ago, my father had a stroke and I was over here, phoning the hospital and my mother at all hours of the day and night and I'm not convinced they were honest with me about his condition. I could have flown back, but as I am disabled, I would have just been a further burden on my mother. We came over here for Hubby's career and we have found ourselves better off in many ways, and certain no worse off in others, but we know that's not been the case for everyone. I admire your decision and wish you a safe trip back to Blighty and a long and happy life with your family.