Just wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation but I really could do with some advice.
We sold our house last year in Sept and as our visa had not yet come we went to stay with my mum. We both gave up our jobs as we were told that we should have got our visas by the time we moved out of the house.
To cut a long story short, mum's house as big enough to house us and would not interfere with her day to day life. We kept ourselves to our rooms in the evenings to keep the kids out of her hair. You would know when she had enough so we would take the hints and we would scarper. Sometimes we would take the kids to tescos just to get them out of the house. We paid toward the bills and bought most of the shopping.
Our visa just took ages, and to be honest mum thought that it would not come. So in Feb, mum and my brother decided to stop talking to us, gave us silent treatment for 1 whole week. Not to mention that during the time we stayed there, there were many arguments mostly her shouting at hubbie, for no reason. But we had no where else to go. She would not even let us claim job seekers there!! We have been living off our savings this whole time.
Enough was enough and in Feb we decided that we had to go. So we found a studio flat, paid deposit and moved in. I got a text message 1 week after leaving to say happy birthday. After 2 weeks of moving into the flat, our visa came though. My family called me to ask why I'd left and how we were coping I just told them that it didn't work out. Kept it simple. Family said they would call us to arrange dinner and see us before we go. We have our last few days now and absolutely nothing not heard from them at all.
So question I am asking myself is do I go back and say goodbye. We have pretty much accepted that we can't come back for some time (years). The kids had really bad experiences that they don't even want to go to mum's (nani). They feel so happy to leave but won't go back to my mums, do I take them kicking and screaming as it's the right thing to do. I haven't spoken to my mum or my brother since Feb????