Your story is so very similar yet so different to ours. My OH had a job to come out to and I made the decision to stay at home until the kids started school, giving up my new career as a qualified health visitor. Rich has had a terrible time as his UK medical qualifications count for nothing in Aus and he has been told he has to redo all of them....only 12 months from consultancy in the UK........
I thought life was great for us, that he loved his job and everything despite the setbacks was going well, until Rich dropped the bombshell that he was really unhappy and wanted to go back.....in 6 weeks!!!! He hadn't told me as he knew how much I love it here, so away we went marching round like idiots in the middle of the night sorting stuff out for our return to the UK and last week we had flights arranged, sorting out a UK rental, Rich had a job to start in August at the LGI in Leeds, and I got my old job back at the hospital; we told no one (not even family in the UK) it was the most awful few weeks. Actually, it just added to a really crappy recent time here. Everything we seem to do ends up in rejection or disaster kind of a 0ne step forward three steps back kind of feeling...all the time.
Our only saving grace has been that we have the most amazing friends here who we love dearly, as much as to class as family and we have a beautiful house by the beach that the girls adore and they enjoy a wonderful life here. And when we walk along the beach and watch the most amazing sunsets, the crap does, even if it is just for a moment, disolve into a feeling of pure happiness and contentment.
We were sat waiting to finalise things with the job in Leeds when Rich just said that he didn't want to go back and was willing to give it his best shot, for the long haul. So here we are again, flights cancelled, jobs declined and back on track here in Aus.....this time for the long haul.
I want to wish you all the very best of luck in your return to the UK, I understand how difficult these times must be for you, you have given it your best shot here and you can return home with your head held high, proud that you were brave enough to take the plunge and try out your dream. Go back and start your new dream of making your family and see where you end up in a few years time.....
All the very best of luck to you all