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any other "homesick mums of toddlers?!!" who live anywhere near Mitchell Park and fancy connecting occasionally, would be gd, thanks lots:) anyone interested?!!!
This post is so true. I think if I had of been meeting more people though work and study then it would have made it easier for me. I know you are in a similiar position that I was in. I was actually still on maternity leave from my last employer when I arrived in Oz and I just didnt realise how hard it would be to adapt. I had never not worked before and trying to look for work with a toddler and a new baby in a strange country was so difficult. This really added to my homesickness and as a result found it hard to settle as my life in Oz was so different to the life I had in the UK. In hindsight, I should have realised this wouldn't have lasted forever but I couldn't think beyond how I felt then.
Being back in the UK is nice for the kids to have family and friends around, but I am now starting to feel homesick for Adelaide!
I hope you are able to sort things out and do what is best for you and your family.
Thinking of you
Interesting to read this as we're mid-preparation to move out to Adelaide. I know SA is not without its problems, but I thought I'd list some of the reasons why we're hoping to join you all soon:
The UK has run out of money. Everyone's talking about the deficit (the difference between tax receipts and government spending) but the UK's overall debt is far scarier - currently 1 trillion pounds and expected to be close to 2 trillion pounds before the government predicts being in surplus and can start repaying the debt (and you know government predictions are always optimistic so you have to wonder what it will actually get to!). The coalition government hasn't even scratched the surface of the required cutbacks and we already have increasing unemployment and the threat of trade unions coming together to organise widespread disruption.
Inflation is 5% and rising. There's very little the government can do about this. Furthermore, wages are being held or lowered so income in real terms is significantly worsening.
We're still banker bashing and are cutting our noses off despite our faces. Britain's USP is banking yet, to satisfy the thirst for blood, we're intent on forcing the hand that feeds us to take our food elsewhere. I'm not a banker and I think they owe the UK taxpayer a debt of gratitude but I can't understand the self-defeating witch hunt.
The British, like many, are very materialistic. The lust for things we can't afford and the easy access to credit have left many in very difficult positions. I worry that there are many people out there that are only surviving because the Bank of England base rate is 0.5% - what's going to happen if it returns to the more usual 5%?
Our Victorian infrastructure has been poorly maintained and there's no money to bring it up to date.
Our treasured health service is a costly and wasteful luxury. I've recently had a heart operation and know how good the care is once you're in the system but I've also seen how inefficient and wasteful it is. I would much rather pay for healthcare (in place of National Insurance contributions) and be able to choose my healthcare provider instead of having to pay for the NHS.
Pensions - what pensions?
Then there's the weather!
Ultimately, however, it's not about money or lifestyle: it's about my kids and their futures. Gang culture, knife crime, drugs - Kids seem to have no respect for anyone and, thanks to the society we've created (repeating an earlier point), the current generation seem to have developed an undeserved sense of entitlement (hence the recent riots).
Their education is no longer a right and, worse, it's becoming unaffordable. If my kids go to University it's going to cost them £9k a year at today's prices (they're 6 and 3 so I dread to think what that will be in 15-year's time!).
There are many things we're going to miss about the UK - friends, the relatively short distances to everything (whether its the coast, culture, wildlife parks, theme parks, etc.) sport, television.
We're expecting the move to involve personal sacrifices. We just hope that we find a nice place to settle and can make new friends. If so, I'll just re-read this post to remind myself why we did it in the first place.
I know the grass is rarely greener on the other side of the fence - but we have no grass!
Last edited by Dazzlin; 25-09-2011 at 09:10 PM.
Homesickness is a weird thing. When I lived here in the 1990s I suffered badly (and never thought I would). We went back after a year for a holiday and it just made it worse. After 3 years I persuaded my Aussie husband to move back to the UK for a couple years (not a problem as he had spent a year there before and liked it), and we ended up staying over 12 years. However it had always been our intention to return to Adelaide, and this time round I haven't suffered from homesickness at all. This thread has made me think why, what's the difference between now and then and is there anything useful to other people that I can conclude?
Some people seem to have lived with homesickness for years which has never gone away and wished that they'd done something about it sooner. I'm really glad that we went back to England when we did as otherwise life would have become miserable. Going back made me appreciate all the things I had been homesick for and allowed me to get them out of my system. It's as if my cup has now been filled to the brim with all the things I missed and I don't need to fill it again. Some things that I missed have changed anyway with the passing of time. England is no longer the place that I grew up in, I concluded that a lot of it was just nostalgia for my youth and that life moves on wherever you are. The problem with going back though, is that you can never totally go back to how it was before. I love the English countryside and had always wanted to live in a house overlooking open fields - well we did just that and moved to a very pretty village - but found that as a half Australian half English family we didn't really fit in. I started feeling homesick for Australia.
Now we are back in Adelaide I feel I have a history here (which was lacking before), as it's almost 20 years since I first came. When we lived in England we had loads of visitors from Adelaide, friends and family, so there are people here who know and understand where I come from, which makes a big difference.
I am amazed at how many people come over here, not knowing anyone, leaving their lives behind. I struggled the first time round and I had an Australian family and my husband's circle of friends ready-made. I am not surprised that people are finding it incredibly hard, especially if you have young children (I am so glad I had my kids in England). I really don't know if it's just a matter of time.
Backpacked round Australia 1992. Married Australian husband in Adelaide 1994. Lived in Adelaide 1994-1997. Moved back to UK & lived in Essex/Herts 1997-2009. Returned to Adelaide November 2009. 2 kids dual nationality.
I spent a year in oz on a whv and towards the end i was ready for coming home.I have been back 4 months now, the first month was great seeing all my friends and family again. Then came trying to find work, im 22 and its near impossible, im a painter and decorator and i found a few weeks here and there but nothing solid whereas in oz i was moving from job to job with no trouble.
I just cant see any future for myself in the UK, i mean they now look for £30k for a deposit on a house, ill never be able to save that any time soon. Then there's the weather its always crap, over there i loved going to work, here i dont wanna get out of bed. After work straight down the beach get the barby on its just a different (better) life.
I really do envy your position so dont waste it!!
Thankfully im going back next week! i only have a 1 year visa but i am going to do everything i can to stay.
DONT GO BACK
Best of luck Fozdog. Life's too short to be unhappy!
Get the barbie on!!!!!!