Thank you all for your replies, so good to know that others have the wobbles, and that im not the only one!
The OH has done so much around the house, reno'd 2 bathrooms, redecorated, rendered the ugly yellow brick, he does do a huge amount to keep things going; He gets casual work as a labourer, and has taken a book-keeping course which resulted in some work....we are a team couple, and as luck would have it; for the 19 years we have been together, HE has done ALL the ironing,( well i may have done it twice in that time lol!) Would not consider anyone a "stirrer" for making the suggestion, and its reassuring to know other guys are willing to take on the day to day chores!!
Getting "out there" is a bit easier said than done.........it isnt that we havent tried, its just some of the folks we have met are a bit "up themselves"......golfers eh??? Sort of puts one off.
Honestly i have met some fantastic people here, and PIA members too, and they are so kind.......even if they're not scousers, haha. I am lucky to count them as friends!
The option to gain citizenship is likely to happen sooner than later; we have to keep an open mind for the kids, and the uni fees are a BIG part of those options!!
Yes, I have been back to the UK, in may 2012......it was grim. The shining light was seeing my grandsons and meeting my sons partner. Seeing old friends and family was lovely.........but getting back on that plane was a relief; so Adelaide IS my HOME now......thankfully. sometimes though, I miss the people i grew up with, both workwise, socially and familiarly, some days more than others.
Those of you who have offered to meet for coffee etc, give me a few days to pm you, arrange something......just gotta get out of the doldrums first, cos normally, i am a happy person!!!
Thanks all for your support!!