For those prepared to read and offer any thoughts, I am grateful in advance as I am at a bit of a loss as to what to do. I'll start with some background:
We arrived early January 2008 and hit the ground running! We had three weeks of sorting ourselves out and then my OH got a job very quickly, albeit one with a big commute, and I started the process of getting my teaching qualifications recognised. It was a stressful start in that a few weeks after our arrival we lost my OH's step-father to cancer and his mother didn't cope at all. Relations with her have been strained ever since.
We have 2 kids and they were both young primary at the time of our move. They adapted well, although of course missed family (I have a large and fairly close family). They have both done well at school, one plays for a soccer club and the other a rugby club and the elder is doing well at High School, whilst the younger one will start there in February.
I have a number of friends of different ages, some ex-pat and some Aussies. I am in a choir and work full-time, so it's all pretty busy really. My OH is now studying for a double masters and is working from home whilst doing this. He will qualify next July and then will look for a job. It seems likely that he may not get one in Adelaide, which would mean upheaval for the kids. But as we have talked about the possibilities it has become more and more apparent to us that we want to consider a move back to the UK. I think that perhaps I have never fully settled, despite my parents begin very supportive and spending lots of time with us each year. We have only been able to go back to the UK once - last year - and that required a loan - it is hard to save up $10000 isn't it?
I am so unsure as to whether this would be a selfish and stupid thing to do. We have spent a lot on our house so we don't have a vast amount of equity and the kids are at quite critical ages - mostly my daughter who will be in year 10 next year. We also have a dog.
I have been reading lots of posts of people who have ping-ponged and reckon that moving back to the UK was not great. I do know there are lots of problems and I think the winters would be horrific, but at the same time I know that as the years go on we will have responsibility for ageing parents etc and that will be difficult. I want to enjoy time with them before they're very old - plus my OH's Dad is currently undergoing treatment for a serious condition, that touch wood will turn out okay, but what if...?
Forgive the long ramble. I can't concentrate on much else at the moment, even though we are nearly a year off him finishing his course.
Any thought, experiences, ideas etc would be welcome. It's all a bit difficult having to make decisions like this.. again!