Hurray for Libby!
Originally Posted by Libby1971
You always bring a smile to my face with your fab comments and honesty but today i broke into a loud laugh!
Thank you for cheering me up(again)
I am also in same position as the poor soul who sent this thread about other people's uneccesary hurtful comments!
It is hard enough without other people digging the knife in!
I actually backed out a few months ago and called it all off because of the amount of emotional blackmail and huge guilt trip that i was put on!
But i am back with a vengence!All back on again!I'M ON A MISSION NOW!!!!
Nobody going to influence me this time!I am refusing to discuss it or even be brought into any conversation about it until i am ready to say "we have flights booked".
You guys have inspired me on this absolutely fantastic site!!!!
Thank you all
Good to see you see you are in better spirits now.
I agree Libby has always something helpful to say!
Have a good weekend without nasty comments :)
Originally Posted by thelincolns
Now you see keeping it to yourself is a great idea in principle......but i've got a big gob and can't hold my own water!!!! LOL.
Plus my life is so averagely dull n boring its nice to have something to tell people about!!
Originally Posted by cunnah10
Hi Gill and Family
Great to hear you are going for it. I have been following your plight and emotions since we met at the northwest meet up in January. The pressure you have all been under has been immense and I am delighted that you are all giving it a go. Keep your pecker up and hope to see you on the other side.
I'm finding my parents a bit of struggle at the moment too, well I say parents, mainly my mum. I'm very close to my parents probably more so my mum. However since we've said we're moving to oz it's actually brought me closer to my dad. We chat a lot more now and I feel the need to give him more hugs as I know I won't be able to for much longer. As for my mum, she seems really distant. They both back us and although, obviously, will really miss us and the grand kids they can totally see our reasons for going. Dad jokes with my kids saying he can't wait to be playing with them on the beach in Oz but my mum doesn't even ask how things are going. Perhaps its purely because she's going to miss us rather than the fact she doesn't want us to go but I want to talk to her. I feel like it's a taboo subject. I'm conscious I want to be spending more time with her, making the most of our time together but recently a month passed before I saw her (she only lives a couple of miles up the road) because she was 'always busy' whenever I tried to arrange to see her or 'on her way out' if I popped up. I think it's just me obsessing about it. I know she's worried about flying because she has varicous veins but she didn't tell me, I got this information from my dad. Why does she feel she can't tell me her concerns? I think it's because she doesn't want to influence our decision.
Parents eh, who'd have them!!
Originally Posted by macu68
If nothing else i have come back much stronger!I am determined nobody going to stop me this time!
Thanks you have been so good keeping in touch(even when i was very low and didn't reply)you have given me such lovely kind words of support and that meant a lot!
Hey put house up 2 days ago - got a viewer tomorrow - probably time waster though - but you never know!!!
Can't make "meet up" but thanks for asking!
keep in touch
I know EXACTLY where you coming from and what you are going through!
Originally Posted by Nicky
The guilt and emotional blackmail(not always meant to hurt but the comments that come out really mess with your emotions)is horrendous to try to deal with!It is hard enough trying to get your head around the fact that you giving up your life here to start again the other side of the world!And that decision doesn't come easy for some of us when we have such strong emotional ties!
My mum was exactly the same!It broke my heart the way we aere drifting apart before we had even left for oz so i wrote her a letter(straight from the heart)!
Best thing i could have done!
Just a thought!
Nah not quite i'm not there yet LOL
Originally Posted by The Pottertons
Originally Posted by cunnah10
Thanks Gill. Yeah, I could write a letter. I think my mum thinks that until our bags are packed we're not going. Seeing as our visas are going to take longer to come through than we first thought what with the massive backlogs, we've decided to have a reccie in June for a couple of weeks. We're going anyway, as soon as we get our visas we're off but hopefully after we've had our reccie mum will realise that yes, we are actully very serious about it. Rightly or wrongly we've decided to leave the 3 kids with mum and dad when we go, or should I say when I ask them, as it's going to be a short fact finding stay. I'm hoping that will make them appreciate their time with the kids. Either that or they'll say thank god their going!