We kept it a secret until I got offered the job, (didn't even tell Hubby till I got the interview). Told family about 3 days after I got offered the job because I could not get excited about the whole thing till they knew. When I told my mam you would have thought I had said I only had hours to live, but not because we were going but cos we are taking the dogs. my sisters have been great and very supportive. As the time gets nearer I am dreading the goodbyes but that's just one of the things which we all must do before we can live our dream. My mam is getting better, but cant help herself some times but I wont hold that against her she's only human like rest of us. So for all of you who cant share your plans with others you have always got the support and friendship of all on PIA because in oneway or another we share the same experiences.
Good luck with all your plans:)
Our application is a secret with work too- don't want them know just in case we get rejected! Family and friends outside of work all know and they are all driving us crazy asking when we'll know- 475 visa lodged Feb 08 and no news...argh!!
Family have accepted the news now- my brother, his wife and 2 kids are applying tp come out too- he's a master stone mason so a highly prized skill in Oz! Mum & Dad are abit upset about 2 of the siblings going- hopefully Mum & Dad can come over for for up to 6 months a year. My partner Steve's told his boss as he had to sign off the references....
Just waiting for the visa to come through....
Only our close family and friends know about our move. At first they laughed at us but now they know how serious we are. I'm finding it really hard keeping quiet but until my boss at work knows I don't want to say anything to anyone
Told only those who needed to know. Won't miss anyone except my dad and baby bro; his dad...... the rest can go jump!
You have enough to deal with........forms, cost the house, the bank, getting a job out there, why add the concerns of everyone around you. My husband runs his own family business too, his family know of the move, and they have to deal with him not being there; which i think they might enjoy; the customers have not been told, why would we tell them; they are not involved with our life outside the company......
Go for it, be true to yourself and your own needs.
I agree with Scousemouse. Only tell those you are close to, and by that I mean those that care for you. Which, is not always the people you would expect. If people are negative to you or poke fun in anyway shape or form they are either naturally jealous of anyone moving on (or doing anything), or wish they could do it themselves but have not got the guts!!!, better still the ability. Ouch... that hurt! Go for it, you only live once.
Oh! just setting out on our journey, not applying to Vetessess till next year. Thought about Canada a couple of years ago. Went for hols, got a job sponser (HO), paperwork going through and we changed our minds - stepford wives syndrome (not joking) really bad. Nice place to visit though, fab. experience, but thats it.
can I just ask Sarah how you managed to lodge your 475 visa without notifying your employer? I only ask as we heading for that visa and I have to get 3 references for state sponsorship application before we lodge visa - and I need one from current employer but feel scared as I know have at least another year to stay there
I am confused
We didnt tell a single person untill we got our Visas. I didnt want to give anybody the chance to talk us out of it or make us feel guilty. Even when we did tell, i dont think they took us seriously until we sold the house.
I have found it really anoying that people i dont talk to from six month to the next say "i am really gonna miss you"
I have to stay focused on my everyday life. These people are not involved in it, and i can live without them. I dont want to stay in the UK just so i can catch up with people at xmas or a special family occasion.
Hi - we're applying for 475 too, and didn't need one from our current employer. This may be different for you.. but we needed OH's degree certificate and a reference with company structure too. Our agent said there were ways round this if we did need it too. Are you going through an agent see if there's any other way round it.. as the visas are taking so long at the mo! Good luck - Alexis
Originally Posted by Lisado
Thanks for all your advice and support. It does seem easier knowing you are not alone!
Instead of getting an employer reference my agent said I could write a statutory declarion and get it signed by a Notary Public. Was quite simple and had no problems getting sponsorship.
Goodluck to you all.
I have been told to get 3 refs from employers, my current one and 2 from my previous law firms. One of which was no problem and havent asked the other as yet as librarians are close knit bunch in newcastle, so she could tell my boss before i have.
I am going to email agent now and ask her