Originally Posted by Ellie
Great post guys...so sorry hear about the issues you have had.....hopefully it will be onwards and upwards now.....:)
Keep the faith...no one ever said it was easy this moving tp the other side of the world....were all here if you ever need to let off steam.
I hadn't seen it as I've been busy all weekend. Otherwise I may have replied sooner :p
Originally Posted by ozzy wannabe
I sent someone a PM the other day and thought rather than try to rewrite my thoughts again I'd copy some text over and add a bit in here and there.
Actually, I think I'm one who is still UK based who admits to liking Adelaide a great deal but know its not without faults. I've said as much also. I've also visited a number of times and spent not just weeks but months there, so feel comfortable there and know certain areas fairly well. And have seen a more realistic view of Aussie life than many get to before moving over. I know I have an Aussie husband to thank for that ;) I don't have understanding of the visa applications, the job market, the tax system or certain other things so don't comment on those. I do however give my thoughts on moving overseas and how to go about settling in, planning and other things. It is something I've done many many times and up till my return to the UK a number of years back I'd moved 13 times in 8 years overseas! So I do think I am in a position to offer advice, support and thoughts to others thinking of making a move. I also know how hard it can be to settle in a foreign country, learn a language, find your way round the system, make friends and everything else emigrating entails.
We are not moving back to Aus because we think it'll be better or easier to find work etc. Its my husbands home and he is ready to return and so am I. I have always supported him in being here knowing he would one day wish to return. I'm fine with leaving the UK as having spent my 20's overseas I feel no real attachment to living here now and certainly have no desire to live here long term anymore. I realised a long time ago that my life would take me back overseas and I'm fine with that.
I do often feel that Brit's perception of Aus is skewed because of what they see on Neighbours and the moving down under type shows. Once you live somewhere you do all the usual things and get on with life. Work, socialise, pay bills.
It often seems to me, the way it is described, that people are expecting a nightlife/social life on par with a British city. But in reality I don't think that really exisits over in Aus. Mainly as the lifestyle is more geared to outside. I know when I've done the social scene in Adelaide it often has been more about get togethers at people's houses or BBQ down at the beach etc rather that doing the pubs and clubs. So for me, its not about moving to find a nightlife/social life like I am used to but adjusting and adapting to the style of living there.
I do feel also that thinking 'social life?' and worrying that Adelaide means its over for younger people or even older ones. Far from it. But like anything, you have to give it a chance, get out there and be prepared for it not to happen overnight. Adjusting, settling in, getting an understanding of Aussies and how they socialise and then adapting to it. I love the more relaxed social scene in Adelaide.
It also makes a huge difference to happiness if you actually like/love where you are living. The town/city, its a huge thing if its not a place you don't feel comfortable or happy in. It can really get you down. I think visiting a place before moving there is always wise but realise that many don't get a choice or cannot afford to etc. So if it turns out to not be the right place, then making another move makes sense. I'd just say visit where you would like to move to if you can then. Rather than possibly find you've moved somewhere new and again are not happy with it.
I don't think I've ever said moving is easy and will usually say to people emigrating to remember those first few months will be hard on them. Trying to settle in, find their way round, meet people, get kids into schools (if they have them), all of that will mean things won't be an instant hit. But to give it time, support each other and ensure they all have a talk over dinner every week or so to see how things are going and that anyone who is struggling with something has the support of them all and can be helped. I lived overseas for many years and know how hard it can be to settle into a place. It can take a couple of years even to really feel like you are 'home'. So don't give up on a dream. People put a lot into their move and once in Aus it will only get harder for a while.
I'd also like to add that I joined here to ask about certain things I am trying to get a handle on with regard to moving. I realise I am lucky in many respects as I don't have the whole visa application issue to wade through. I also don't feel like I need information as to if Adelaide is the place we want to live in Aus. Its about the only place we want to live there For a number of reasons, even with its faults. It's my husbands hometown, his (large) family are there or not too far from it. And we want our son to grow up knowing Australia and his family, being Australian and to enjoy our lives together there. Rather than here. England doesn't hold my husbands heart, it lost mine years ago.
I'll miss a few things about the UK. The main thing will be the rural countryside I grew up in and around. Crisp winter mornings with a hard frost. Those things I'll miss. I love the south west of England for that and know that there is nothing in Australia to compare. I don't enjoy the dust clouds from the outback that sit on Adelaide in summer or the dry intense heat when it gets to over 40C then. But I know I'll adjust, even if I never like that side of things :p Much like here not liking certain aspects of our weather. Rough with the smooth.
I am one who is big on making the move totally. In mind and body. I always stand by that. It does no good for me to hanker for things back in the UK as I find it doesn't help adjusting to life elsewhere. So I make the move, bring both feet over and jump right in. In my experience with ex pats, those who leave one foot back in the UK, who keep comparing countries, towns or cities or grumbling about how things are different and so on, those are the ones who never truly settle or find it harder going. As has been said by others here also, life is different in Aus. The mentality of the people, the way they socialise, it all makes for it being different. So its a case of adapting to being there and finding your feet in it all.
I plan to do as I've always done when moving overseas. Plan as much as I can, save some pennies, book those tickets and get on the plane and not look back. And when I land at the other end, its a fresh start, clean slate and what I knew I try to leave well alone and just think of with fond memories and a smile but never let myself linger to long with those thoughts. Just long enough and then back to my new life and living it.
However I do appreciate that how I approach things is not for everyone and of course people will do what works for them :)
We lived in little village near Cheltenham.....just down the road from the race course.....it is a very very beautiull part of the world and the furtheer south down the M5 you go the better it gets...then you hit Devon and Cornwall and its quite breathtaking.....
Cold frosty mornings....scraping the car to get to work.....dnt miss that lol.....
where bouts are you guys?
It is isn't it :)
Originally Posted by HEAPS GOOD !!!
Right now, a few miles outside of Bristol. Hubby got a new job and meant we had to move here as the commute was awful for him and us as a family. Before that we were on a farm just outside of Dunster. And before that, on the edge of Exmoor (5 years). And before that, living on the Quantocks, a village called Crowcombe. All that since 2000
I love rural England but the reality of living in it these days is far different from when I was a kid. I don't mind the town we are in now, its great if you have kids but I don't feel any great love for it or wish to live here long term. Its perfect for the next couple of years till we move to Adelaide. Near to Bristol for hubbys work and now mine. Great playgroups for our son and other facilities and also the city is 15 minutes away for a night out if we want. Plus I can walk from our house and be in the countryside within 15 minutes. And the shopping precinct in 5! So yeah, it ticks the boxes.
Given a choice I'd be back on the farm or Exmoor but realise that won't happen any time soon. Am ok with it, I at least had the opportunity to live there when I did. Adelaide is a change for me I know but I'm really ok with it. I like its smaller feel, its layout and the slightly slower pace of life. I can cope with that just fine :)
Superb post,well said.
Originally Posted by ozzieclare2be
That's a two year old post,perhaps Clare has changed her views now????
Originally Posted by sueoc
Its taken ages to read through all the posts today (in between looking after Henry our 8 month son) and i just want to put in a little post of my own. Lately ive written a couple of threads or answered a couple of threads and afterwards wished that i hadnt and yesterday i really thought to myself that i would leave this site alone for a bit - but today curiosity got the better of me and again i creapt back on to see what new threads had been posted.
Were just at the beginning of the journey and its felt like ages already to be honest. Chris my OH has his moments of wanting to head over and then not - i think that he's felt some sympathy for having to take the 2nd ielts again which may seem as nothing to some people but it is very very stressful and im glad that its over and fingers are crossed.
Anyway im rambling but what i want to say is that im thankful to the majority for being honest about life in Adelaide and the setting up of life over there. Im now aware of the need to try and set up a temp rental for as long as possible for when we arrive and i understand that finding a long term rental with dogs is not going to be easy.
Luckily ill have a job to start straight away after arriving that is not badly paid but im aware that this may not be exactly what i want and a step down from that of the UK but im ok with that as long as my shifts allow me time with my family as thats important to me. One of the main reasons for leaving the UK is that im/we are tired of the work work work ethic with no money or time to spend enjoying life and although both my oh and myself work hard now and will work hard, the future reality of dropping my little one off at 07.30 at nursery driving an hour to work and picking the little one up again at around 6.15pm to put him to bed an hour later five days a week is depressing and not one that we want to see ourselves doing for the rest of our lives.
I guess the worrying thing is that of selling the house over here in the UKand finding it too expensive to find somewhere decent in Adelaide, by decent i dont mean having a swimming pool or tons of bathrooms but having somewhere with room for the three of us, the dogs and that means a garden. Not necessarily neghbours on our doorstep nor shops close by but somewhere decent enough that wont kill us financially.
Anyway ive said enough but again the honest threads and posts are appreciated and at times if im honest they make me think twice about being so stubborn about givng everything to head over but i really do think that it will be worth it in the end.
Hehe so those posts are. I read the most recent ones, went back and read the first few and saw the comment about people in the UK not replying and thought I had better catch up. That'll teach me not to read the forum when I am a) tired b) been out all weekend and c) tired
Originally Posted by Tyke
Still its a good thread and still relavent today as it was a couple of years ago :)
Reading this thread reminds me of when my family emigrated to Adelaide in 1970!!!! I really don't know how they managed it back then!I was a small child at that time,with 2 sisters and 2 brothers!All my parents had was a 2 page brochure about Australia!!!!Of course there was no internet back then to do research,no-one to ring in Oz for reassurance/info,it would of been too expensive anyway!My Dad had no work lined up(Plumber by trade)and we arrived at Adelaide airport,were transfered by an old coach to the "hostel"(which my parents fondly nick named the concentration camp because it looked like one).We stayed on that hostel for 10 weeks.We were lucky,some families stayed for a year or longer,I don't know how they did it because it really was'nt the nicest place to be.Gawler back then was a "country town"and from Elizabeth to Gawler was just paddocks.So perhaps to those people who are experiencing tough times,if you give people like my parents some thought,it may make the load abit lighter to bear,and be grateful you emigrated when researching ect is a whole lot easier!:daydreaming:Over time things do level out,my parents ended up doing really well for themselves,and often smile now when they recall those "Good old days".Be realistic in your dreams and be patient.It all takes time,and as each day passes it will get easier!!xx