all you guys sound as though you are getting great good luck with the next 6 months
all you guys sound as though you are getting great good luck with the next 6 months
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Thanks everyone for your updates, its always good to hear how you are all doing. Good luck to you all and I look forward to hearing more, and when we arrive posting my own experiences.
its great to see how everyone is doing and settling in :)
clare 39 clinical nurse educator, Rn/mhn, Alex 7
We arrived on 2nd May, so it's around the 6 month mark for us too.
On the plus side, I have found a great job with a bunch of really nice people. We have met some other Poms In Adelaide, and found the majority of them to be really sound people and we are glad we managed to make friends with people so quickly. The weather is now warmng up, and that's a blessing, as because of the timing of our migration, we had "enjoyed" a wet UK summer (2007), autumn and winter in the UK, and then straight into autumn and winter in Adelaide. The houses here are soooooo cold and not built for winter, be prepared to have whatever heating you have on for a lot of the winter. In our unit, we only have a gas fire as heating, so we were ecstatic when our shipping arrived with an oil filled radiator as we could then heat the bedroom. Be ready for electric blankets and hot water bottles a plenty!
I have settled far better than Matt, but I strongly believe that it has a lot to do with your work position. He went from being self-employed for 12 years in the UK to now being a casual. The life of a temp is not a settled one, and it is something he has found hard to adjust to.
Also, be ready to have that "8-week hit". So many people I have met, no matter how long they have been here, say that after 8 weeks, you can have a really bad time, and we both went through it. I don't miss the UK per say, but I do miss the people I love back home, and all the phone calls in the world don't make up for a night out with the girls, or a shopping trip with a long lunch and a few cocktails and laughs.
Will we stay in Adelaide? I have no idea. If not Adelaide, where else? Do you become a nomad moving from place to place every couple of years and never feeling settled anywhere? We shall see.
If you are planning to do this brave and crazy thing we have all done, the best advice I can give is to spend your last few months in the UK not obsessing about moving here, but embracing all you have in the UK and the people who are special to you there. Not everyone will have the time or money to be able to pop over to Australia and visit you so spend some time with them whilst you can and arrive here with no pre-conceived ideas of how it will be. Go and vsit those places you have always wanted to go to, as once you are here, Europe is a VERY far away place!!
The most important thing is to enjoy the opportunity we have all been given. There are people who would give their right arm to do what we have been given the chance to do, so be happy and don't be afraid to be emotional and ask for help.
Traci xx (and, of course, Matt)
Well I have been here same amount of time as you Claire. I love south australia, love our new lifestyles, love our house and the SUN!! The biggest difference to us as a family is family time! brought about by my DH being home at 4pm everynight instead of 8pm!
As you know I have had a wobbly couple of weeks, not related to being here though, more personal issues.
My biggest struggle I have to say is not having a car, and therefore not getting out and meeting people, missing all the meetups and then feeling totally isolated and lonely ;-( We are going to get this sorted but it will take a little while and I hope to keep my chin above water in the meantime.
We are also thinking about doing the camping thing. I think we will buy some stuff for Christmas with the money we will save from not buying everyone and his dog in the UK a present then try it out after Christmas.
We arrived about 10 weeks ago and everything seems to have been plain sailing we managed to get a rental after 1 viewing & jobs after 1 interview each.
Jak had hit the 8 week meltdown but she is back to her usual self again.
We found work difficult at the start and both thought about calling it a day after about a week but we battled through and we seem to have settled now, companies here seem to just let you get on with it and it is a case of sink or swim and we are swimming now.
We arrived when it was cold & wet and could not believe what we had come too but within 2 days the sun was out and it just looked like a different country, I suppose a bit like the UK when it is sunny it is fantastic and when it is wet it is c##p.
We have met plenty of friendly & helpful people both Australian and British who go out there way to help you.
Returning to the UK has never entered our heads and we never think of the UK as home now,we call Adelaide home and we think this has helped us settle as well. Don't get us wrong we really miss our family and friends and we still get our parents saying " Oh you are still enjoying it, so you are staying then".
All in all we know we have made the right decision and we are looking forward to eventually making it to a PIA event so we can meet everybody.
Derek & Jak
Good to read everyone's v different experiences. Ours is different again...
We've been here 6 weeks, it feels like v much longer, and strangely normal. Weird though because we are surrounded by more family than we have ever been before, and most of them live about 10 mins away, or at the most, 45. DH, Matthew, is from Sth Plympton originally, and we have moved into a rental about 5 or 6 mins from his parents (not entirely intentional but working out ok! :) ).
Ben our eldest has started at Tabor, and I am still enjoying the novelty of a 10 minute school run (and having far less uniform to deal with, but still trying to understand all the things we need to do at home, getting used to the teacher's show and tell system, what day the spellings come home etcetcetc!).
Our biggest difficulty has been finding a church but we have, after 6 different sundays finally found a brilliant one. If you don't go to church you may not understand but the amazing thing about church has been finding the right one, being accepted as family by those we don't know yet, and it felt more like 'home' than any house ever can... weird sounding but true I am afraid! It was like we hadn't moved, even though we didnt know any of the people yet.
Matthew is still looking for jobs , has applied for 1 and submitted a tender for another, but we are in a dilemma about whether he actually goes through with the Newstart allowance claim, because we don't really feel that we want the employers he is contacting, being contacted by Centrelink chasing him up and trying to find out whether he is telling the truth about his applications or not. Does anyone have experience of that? Meanwhile I have received 1 parenting payment, and they are saying they won't pay any more, and will cancel the claim, if I don't give them a tax file number by tomorrow I think it is...EXCEPT I HAVE DONE MY APPLICATION FOR A TAX FILE NUMBER WITH THEM.....
Just a thought about the toys I see someone else giving away - we have resolved that when our stuff gets here, we are going to sort through the boys' toys with their help and make a box up of toys to donate to Centrelink at Marion. It is a terrible place if you have kids, and so far, for our 2 claims, I think we have had to drag our kids there about 4 times, and none of the visits have been less than an hour....... and our children are v well behaved but boy was it a struggle in there to keep them occupied? The people all seem nice (if a little slow, and not very accurate at times) but the toys are few, and terrible - and there is nothing child friendly about the place... and then I think that actually most of their 'customers' are likely to be there with children too....... So, we're going to do some other poor kids a favour and give them some decent toys.....
So apart from the centrelink stress (and dilemma -will we actually bother, particularly if they cancel the claim it took me ages to get processed and have to start it again??????) we have settled in great, just got to get some work for Matthew. Oh and our neighbour lent us his mower when he heard Matthew trying to fix ours - and then offered us a swings set for the boys for the garden. And landlord said they don't mind us having it.
We've had fun bailing out the 100+ litres per wash that the machine in the house uses, but finally bought a hose to water the lawn from the grey water, so water saving has started round here and certainly feels better than tipping it all down the drain. Thought we'd killed the roses but MIL said they were scorched in the heat, so the washing powder gets a reprieve (its phosphate free so should be ok).
The hardest thing for Matthew is finding out that some friends (even ones we have stayed in fairly close contact with while he's been in the UK) have changed, and not all for the best. We are discovering which friendships are ones for the future and which ones are past their best which is sad. I have made a few early contacts through church and also through a music group I took the boys to the last couple of weeks (Mainly Music in Unley) and on Sunday I met another expat and she knows some more, she gave me her number and also said she'd give me a ring. Apparently there's another family she knows who have moved here from Bristol and they have 3 boys the same ages as us.
As for homesickness- our friends are v supportive of the move, but like others have said, its not like getting together over a coffee. I think family struggle more with it but they aren't really saying how they feel so we can't really address the issues with them unless they do.
Am trying to convince my parents to visit at Easter. Anyone got an idea of the temperature range for March? My mum doesnt want to come when its really hot........
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