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I don't think it comes down to lovers and haters. I genuinely feel that there are some for whom things click into place, and most people who get that feeling haven't been here long. Some have to work much harder to feel that things are settled (I think Laura Girling is an example of this) and so they don't feel clicked per se.
For those who are incredibly enthusiastic about Adelaide/ Aussie life, hearing others air their doubts or troubles causes two reactions: one, let me help you so you can feel the same way I do or two, b*gger off coz I can't be bothered and neither should you be coming/ staying. When we went back to UK recently, I wept buckets the night before we left saying I could not bear to leave Sainsburys and if my OH loved me, he wouldn't make me go back to Foodland!!!!!! Now this sounds idiotic but I promise you it did happen including OH falling off the sofa laughing at me, but it wasn't Sainsburys I was really talking about but what it represented, security, safety, ease. I hate having to go shopping and try to work out things out, I bl**dy hate it.
The concept of perseverance is perhaps a quality that is lost in the society in which we live in which we want everything now, and preferably yesterday. People want the Aussie dream, the life that makes all the dreariness of having to make ends meet and going without worthwhile. A feeling of self worth if you will. And when they get here and things aren't as rosey because the rentals might be more expensive or you can't go into One-Stop-For-Everything-And-The-Kitchen-Sink-TESCOS, and employers aren't interested that your job is on the MODL then things can get bleaker.
I think Greg and Karen got a raw deal...I usually offer shop staff my receipts for them to have a look at which then stops them looking in the bags at all.
As for your response to what I have said, it is my opinion, I have explained it, if replying be polite as I have tried to be. Arguments are unnecessary and unproductive. I have a very grown up head on today...can you tell?
Last edited by Libby1971; 18-01-2009 at 06:34 AM. Reason: new word created which was unappreciated
Some of us have a better way of putting into words what they want to say than others. As I am not one of those sometimes I think I am better of not saying anything at all in case offense can be taken or maybe re-read the post a few times to ensure no insult is given.
We are all different people and not everyone can find well paid jobs straight away. we are 2 months in and no jobs and although we have money in the bank, every penny we spend is money taken from the profit of our house sale and less we can put into buying again. We get no help as are on temp visa.
This is a different country to the UK, just because it is English speaking and drive on the same side of the road we all need to remember it is 'foreign' to us and therfore there will be a lot of things that are different and if we all want to settle we need to make adjustments, for our own sanity if nothing else. We need to adapt not the Australians.
Last night I was at a 80th birthday party and met a lot of people who migrated here in the 60's and 70's and I keep telling myself no matter how hard I may find it they really were brave to make the move then. We have technology now to make the move easier eg I can see my 3 year old neice on MSN which really helps me as opposed to waiting weeks on a letter from home. Nobody told us it would be easy and for some it is harder than others and if things don't add up financially then no matter how much you love the place you will not settle if you can't pay the bills. But we should all count ourselves lucky that we can go onto forums and find out the information we need.
We all have the choice to take the advice or leave it but no offense to anyone on here but advice given by strangers would not make me decide to stay in the UK or to make the move that is something we need to decide for ourseleves, We can only listen to peoples 'stories' and hope we may learn by some of their mistakes or take on board some of their help
I have re-read this post and can not find anything to insult anyone but if I have please accept my sincere apologies
I think there will always be the lovers and the haters of everything. neither will ever convince the other that "their " opinion is the correct one.
What does amaze me is the people who need to reply to 'every " post wether they have something constructive to add or not. That is how the majority of arguements will be started.
Just my opinion of course.
I can't think what to say that might not cause offence to Simon. Do I say what is on my mind or not in these sensitive times?
Either way, the spelling has been changed
Last edited by Libby1971; 18-01-2009 at 06:37 AM.