Is this a certain someone we know well on here??? Spurs fan could be.
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OK I've not checked POA in a long time,simply due to distancing myself from all the posts that seem to paint Oz as the be end and all end of life and in the two years I've been a member I've seen lots of posts where people say ...want a better way of life.....want the kids to grow up in safe enviorment. Plus various other ways of putting it.
I've been in Oz for almost 5 yrs, leave just a few days after we arrived 5 yrs ago. My reasons are plenty but mainly, Australia just isn't home, it's never felt like home, I'm lonely, I find most aussie peeps unfriendly, friendly enough while they think you're just visiting but their attitude changes once they know you live here, they get that....you took a job that an aussie could have taken, NO we didn't, my hubby came here to join their Air Force because the aussies don't want to join, the RAAF had to show the gov just how hard they were finding it to fillthe position with aussies before we were granted visa's.
I stuck it out becuase of our middle daughter, she was at an age where she needed to complete her high school education here or have no quals at all, she would never have caught up with the uk system quick enough to take her GCSE's. Now after many phone calls to see about housing I've found that 5 yrs out of the country means I have to take a 'residents test' before even being considered for local authority housing, we also have to be back in uk for 6 months before daughter can go onto further education for free. Seems by doing right on one hand we've shot ourselves in the foot with the other hand.
A major downside is the cost, $60. just to visit a Dr, paying for children's prescriptions, paying for kids dentists, paying for education, all these things are free in uk, yes I know they're still paid for but it's via NI contributions so you don't really feel the pinch.
I returned to uk for 3 weeks last year and instantly felt like I'd never left, I felt like I WAS HOME, since then I've been saving every spare cent to cover removal and shipping costs and flights,I've also had to save hard to make sure I can survive for a while when I get back in uk, I need to rent privately because of housing laws due to my being absent for 5 yrs but through my deyermination to return I'm going to have enough to cover all costs to get home plus cover costs of resettling when I get there. I nitially we going to leave Nov 25, 5 yrs to the day we arrived but daught's school formal is Nov 27 and it would be so unfair to make her miss out on that, again I'm putting my children first as I have since arriving, we will now leave Nov 28. We'll be leaving the lovely warm weather and landing in a cold, wet, misserable uk. Until shipping catches up with us we'll be relying on family for silly things like plates, inflatable matresses, deck chairs and sun loungers to survive in an otherwise unfurnished house but to us it'll be heaven because at last we'll be home again.
I don't regret moving to oz, I just regret staying so long. Since making the decision to deffinately move back I feel like the weight of the world has been lifted off me, I feel more relaxed and happy. Nothing no-one says or does will ever convince me oz is better than uk, same ****, different country but without the support of family.
Now getting down off my soapbox. Sorry if my post offends anyone but there truely is no right or wrong, eaveryone's circumstances are diiferent.
I hope it all turns out well for you. I thought you had to prove residency for 3 years in the UK or Europe prior to getting funded places in the UK. Once you are settled back in there you will be able to look back and appreciate the better things that you have gained and experienced from being here.
Sailed SS Australis out of Southampton 1977.Arrived October in Adelaide via Melbourne 1977.Liverpool/London 1987 - 1992
Adelaide 1992 to eternity:)and one day you'll wake up and stop counting how long you've been here.
I have not posted on here for some time now, because unless you are singing Adelaide's praises from the highest rooftop, you are bombarded with abuse of some form.
Just to clear the air - new PR visas have changed to make citizenship eligibility a 4 year wait, unlike a previous post on here saying 2 years.
I arrived here in Sep 08 with a pregnant wife and some hope of a better lifestyle for my new family. Leaving the UK was far harder than I thought and I have suffered extreeme home sickness coupled with 3 immediate family deaths, and working in a job I don't like. I witnessed the birth of my baby daughter in a faultless hospital (& staff) in Jan. Since then I have found Adelaide not to be for me, I want to move to queensland and am currently getting on with it. You do not know what it is like (regardless of research) to live somewhere until you actually do it and live there. Adelaide is nice and we like it but we are not completely happy, so rather than stay and moan we will move. We have met some lovely people here and can understand why they like it so much, it's all about circumstances.
So we have not had it easy and we are trying our best to make a go of it. Should it all go tits up at some point and we decide to go home, then so be it at least we would of had a go. If we manage to stay and make a success of it, then good times. The point is everyone has circumstances that are unique to them (that is why we are called individuals) and I think a little more understanding would go a long way. The only thing that matters is whether you are happy, if you are not then you must try all that you can until you are - even if that means travelling the globe more times than you wanted!!!
So for all those going home and staying here, I take my hat off to you and wish you the best of luck, as easy it is not!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hey guys my parents immigrated here when I was 4, and I still get upset when people have a go at the 10 pound poms. My parents and their friends came out at that time really to the most deplorable conditions thrown into nissen huts in godforsaken areas. My boyfriend's parents were loaded into the back of sheep trucks and driven out to Smithfield Hostel which in those days really was in the middle of no where.
The migrants in those days from britain and europe became one another's families, and all moaned and partied, and planned for their returns together. Most stayed, several of the families returned but then returned here yet again. As for being told that they took Aussie jobs, I even remember kids at school coming out with the same. However, we went to school with very few ozzies as Elizabeth was built for the immigrants (I guess so that we wouldn't breed with the locals). I still upon meeting people here to save embarrassment (on their part - I look italian so they think it is open slather to say what ever they think about the poms - advise that I am a pom, I grew up in Elizabeth, my grandchildren and daughter in law are american and that I have a gay son, that usually covers all of the gaffs that you get in a conversation. I have thrown workmen out of the house when they have made comments regarding poms when coming to quote on jobs.
I have lived out of Australia about the same time that I have lived in it, being forutnate enough to have lived all over the world. Home is where you make it and just look upon this as part of the great adventure you are having.
There's nothing wrong with feeling that the UK is still HOME hey I still cry when I land there even now, and I am still very close with my family there, and have been fortunate enough to live there on and off over the years.
I get terribly homesick for the US where I lived for 20 years, and for India for 4. Don't slap yourself up the side of the head for decisions regarding kids and schooling, there are always these loopholes that you don't know about until you make different decisions. With regards to your daughter going to higher ed, it will probably be good for her to have that six months break, what with the uprooting making new friends etcetera she will be up and running and keen to get back to school after the 6 months with a clean slate. Don't you ever feel guilty about decisions you make with your life, once again this was just part of that adventure, and you learn something and meet some amazing people on every leg of that adventure.
I moved back here 5 years ago and since I arrived my husband left, I met someone else who I adored, and he died, my son wife and grandchildren moved back to the US, I had a business go belly up caused by unscrupulous people, but my other business is now going well, I am in a new relationship, and have made new friends (old ones didn't want to know when husband left).
If I had the chance I would move back to the US frankly, but because of the length of time spent here my greencard is no longer valid (took over 10 years to get what a b.........r). I have contemplated moving to the UK also, we'll see. ANYWAY LONG STORY now cut to the bottom line - GOOD LUCK TO ALL OF YOU, AND I'M SURE THAT WE ALL WISH YOU WELL.