Originally Posted by soccer65
In NLP terms there's no such thing as failure only feedback!
OMG what a post & it's great to hear so many different opinions but i suppose it does all boil down to personal circumstance yadda yadda i find after 7 months it's all still new yet getting old if that makes sense hubbys at work kids are at school well apart from my 'lil' man & settled,adjusted & happy (well as happy as a 10 yr old with bratitude can be!!) yet i'm so up & down one day to the next somedays i absoultely love it & others i am an emotional wreck somedays i think i can cope others i think i need sectioning to the nearest nut house i'm just hoping thats normal haha!!!!
BUT on going back to uk could i do it at the moment....yes for a few weeks maybe & i would love to spend time with the family & have a good night out with mates & just spend some time doing the things i have got used to over the last 30 yrs of my young life ;0 but in reality life wasnt that great there, don't get me wrong family & friends are a big pull but the place dull,grey & getting ugly day to day life was pretty similar i spent alot of it with the kids home alone & weekends sheltering from the rain or trying to think of things to do that didn't cost a fortune & that was our reason for coming a better life & in all honesty we have that wonderful free beaches places to explore & plenty to keep kids busy so no it's definately not all rosy but im thinking after reading these posts there is light at the end of that long tunnel so pull yourself together girl & get on with it what will be will be live for the moment & like the song says by good old nickleback (my saviour on the bad days) "Each days a gift & not a given right,leave no stone unturned leave your fears behind & try to take the path less travelled by that first step you take is the longest stride".
So to all newcomers starting your journey i salute you,too those struggling keep your chins up,to those who've made it my hats off to you all & to those who have gone or are going home best wishes & i hope you find the happiness your seeking my sermons over haha & god i feel so much better have a great weekend all Tess x
I dont care what anyone says, you can do a ton of research and reccies, but you will never know in a million years what homesickness is like until you actually live somewhere else! Homesickness tho, can be lessened as long as you try to look for the positives (which I didnt) as eventually, what you view as negatives may start to become ok or even a postive, if you get what I mean. For the people who are missing home, I think you should save up & return back for a couple of mths (if poss) as you will most probably see Adelaide in a different light. It took me a few mths of coming bk to the UK to start missing Adelaide & wishing id just coem bk for a long hol, Hindsight is a beautiful thing aint it?
To soccer65, can you not let you hubby & child return for a little while before making such an expensive & drastic decision of coming bk the UK for good? it will be money well spent believe me.
To those who cannot get their heads around the missing the UK brigade, and why they emmigrated in the 1st place, the reasons are so vast, a few are:-intended to come to OZ settle immediately,feel at home,get a ton of mates adn a job they love, BBQ`s sunshine the whole cabudle, but reality kicks in & some get lonely, a job they hate (which drove me bk amongst other probs) friends that are users,and sometimes a member of the family who will not or cannot settle.
Couldn't agree more (having pinged back to the UK ....been there just like you....got the T shirt so to speak....and head all over the place AGAIN)
Originally Posted by mayjess
You poor girl. Well done for sticking with it. And no, you are not in need of sectioning to the 'nut house'...what you've been going through is entirely normal. Good luck with your life here. It will get easier (and I never thought I would hear myself say those words! )
Originally Posted by Bakers