I shoudn't laugh but heheee
Originally Posted by The Waite Family
OMG laura has told her!
She said the same thing about my Mum
She also said that she was going to go years ago but she couldn't possibly have left her poor old mum all on her own
She also has a friend who was an Australian policeman and he said there is more crime in Australia than there is here!
Then she cried and I told her that it would be about a year yet because we want to go on holiday to Lanzarote agaiin at Christmas and then she cried again because we wouldn't be spending our last Christmas with her
Then she sat outside in the car for about half an hour (presumably crying)
Then she rang OH at work and..................... well cried
Oh well its done now at least we can talk about it!
Awwww hun, well at least its all out in the open now no more pussyfooting around.Good luck with the rest of the time you have with her!
P.S hope your mum is doing ok now.
For goodness sake, you have got a plateful. Tell your daughter to use rescue remedy, most people (especially us women) fail our driving test because we are nervous, you can buy it in boots. I have spoken to another PIA member recently who has stopped/cancelled the whole migration process due to pressure from family/friends. Just stay focussed on what you are doing and why you are doing it. Your MIL made a choice not to emigrate all those years ago and has lived her own life, sounds harsh, I am sorry. Don't give in to emotional blackmail, you are not responsible for the actions of others. I am sorry that your mum has had a stroke, I hope she is recovering well. I am sure you are not responsible for this. You are showing real strength and determination to get through all of this and still keep positive about your move.
Hope to see you in Adelaide when we get there (hopefully by end of 2008 latest), keep your chin up and emphasise to your mum and MIL that you want to spend time with them now and enjoy their company and not feel pressured.
Just thought I'd update:
Mum much better and getting out and about again - even managed to persuade her to get some goldfish (to keep her company)
She's decided she wants to go into sheltered accomodation when we go so she wont be on her own
laura passed her driving test yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyy!!!!!!
And Mother in law - : her only daughter (OH's sister) emigrated to Brisbane today! Has told her she is coming back in six months yet taken 29 boxes with her and is having her Lexus shipped over so I think it might be a bit of a fib
Went out for a farewell meal on friday night and MIL said that her friend emigrated to Australia but had to come back after 4 and a half years because she couldn't get over her fear of spiders AND her daughter was murdered whilst she was there!
I think she spends her time thinking of things to put us off but I knew she would so we are just ignoring her stupidity.
Can sympathize, personally i'm leaving it til the for sale board goes up, dont want to lie outright an i think they might notice by then. Would it be cowardly to send text message from the airport do you think!!!!! joking honest.
It is so nice to come on this site and see others experiencing the same problem as yourself. I decided to tell my mum as soon as I accepted the job, due to the drama's that would and I must say have followed. I thought give her as much time as possible and one day in the distant future she might be happy for us!!!
When I told her you would have thought someone had died we had tears, moaning and she thinks I am the most selfish person in the world to leave her and my dad, just because I want a better life. So I have prepared myself for a good few months more of emotional blackmail, tears and tantrums.
Will keep you all informed and good luck to all.
Maybe someone could set up a place on the forum where we could go to have a screaming fit! ;)
It could be called the screaming room and we could go in, scream aaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggggggghhhhh hhhhhhhhhhh and then go back out again with no reason to explain yourself :)
Or we could set up daughter/daugther in laws united!
I'm so sorry, but this is really making me laugh!! Are you sure we've not got the same MIL??
We were open from beginning said we'd been looking etc showed MIL pics of posh houses..lol (not that we could afford em, but its all about the house for her!!) after a while she realized we were serious, and she grabbed my eldests hands (her favourite) and wimpers to him, ..'you won't go and leave your Nanny, what would i do without you. You stay with me i'll look after you!! go on you tell em you don't wanna leave me'.
Daft thing is, she really is useless..never looks after em , never comes to see em (5 mins away) never does em dinner, or has em over night.!! She is the worst!!
She then got so jealous that my mum may come, she started telling Blake (eldest) she didn't want him to go see her at xmas as he doesn't wanna be with her anyway, cos he prefers his other Nan!!! HE'S 9 FFS!!!!!!!
Oh well made that easy then didn't it!!!!!!!!!!