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Wondered if it's the same in the UK???
Worst time was when a woman verbally ripped in to her kid in the street, he was in his pushchair so could not go anywhere. He was crying, little ones do but he hadn't done anything I could see to get what he did from her. She screamed and ranted at him using just about every expletive in the book and was horrible, just horrible about him to him. I was gobsmacked hearing her and felt for the kid. She carried on screaming at him all the way up the street, didn't seem to care who heard her.
Having said that, not all unkindness or mean treatment is done in such a clear cut open way. Plenty of mental or phsychological abuse or meanness is done in such a way as most people would not even think it abuse or think a parent were being unkind perhaps. But hearing it enough, done in such a way, negative all the time or constantly blaming kids, finding fault, often for just being kids, kids start to get worn down by it.
In my earlier post, I commented that, "
"..if I see, or hear, a kid having a meltdown, I usually have every sympathy with the parent. The only exceptions might be if the parent starts screaming, slapping the kid, because then I wonder whether the child is merely showing a learned behaviour"
but I have just come to the conclusion that that is just as judgemental. I have no idea what's happening in that person's life. They could have suffered a loss, have something like anxiety, depression, PND, suffering violence in the home...who knows?
I think what would make the difference in how I viewed people in that situation, came down to language, and how feral they appeared. And that's just wrong.
So, thanks PiA! I've learned a bit about myself...and I'm not sure I liked it lol!
"Knowledge shrinks as wisdom grows." Alfred North Whitehead
When my kids were little,I would get them to help me shop!Obviously not picking up glass jars,but the non breakables definately.Treat it as a kind of game and they usually don't find it that boring!
As far as restaurants/cafe's go,I feel kids should behave.You can't really stop a toddler from having a tantrum,but you should expect older kids to sit reasonably quiet and behave.
Be Happy!Its one way of being wise!