The replies sofar have most things covered, so just to repeat really -
It can be hard when you first arrive, much harder than anticipated, and it can take ages to 'settle'. I would have to say, I was ok after a few months, but didn't feel that settled until about 11 months in! I am tons better now, with only the odd day of real homesickness, but we have now been here 17 months and my husband is still really unsettled which is hard for us all.
It is a hard decision to go or stay, and it should get easier for you the longer you stay HOWEVER, sometimes I do wonder you are one of those who is very unsettled if it is easier to go back sooner rather than later, as the longer to stay and start to settle a bit more, the more torn you are in your decision.
I would want a 'reverse reccie' before moving back, but realise financially that may not always be possible.
Reading your post though, your reason for return seems to be more financial than the fact that you havn't settled, and that is unlikely to change in the near future. However, I don't know the true state of living in the UK at present, even though we have been away only a realatively short time, but all our friends there are still ok at the moment.
Best of luck in your decsion.
Originally Posted by Guzzler&Sas
I haven't yet joined any playgroups because all the ones I have found are in the late morning and my daughter has a sleep at that time! But I am still on the look out for one that is in the afternoon?
I think when you come from the UK it can take some time to adjust to things... for instance you talk about people not being bothered what clothes your kids are in... in the UK people are bothered and so we became bothered too (hope that doesn't sound terrible) and we need to get out of that frame of mind I know.
The kids love the beach and they love being outdoors, but it won't be like that in the winter will it? And I have the dilemma of family and grandparents in the UK, would our children prefer to go to the beach or go and see there grandma... how tough is that question!
I think we should all be more honest, as someone stated above this isn't paradise and maybe if some people knew this before they hauled theirs families over here it could save alot of time and money- thats not a dig at anyone who says it is fantastic out here, because in some peoples eyes it is fantastic but you should tell the good, the bad and the ugly!
That is a very good point about going back sooner as it could get even harder to make the decision as time goes on!
Originally Posted by foxychick
I too think a reverse reccie would be a great idea if the finances allowed it, maybe we will save up to do that. Its hard though because my husband said last night "do you think we still would have come if we had done a reccie here first?" and my answer was yes! Simply because when we got here we couldn't beleive we had even thought about not coming, we saw the beach, we felt the sun, saw the clear blue skies, saw the marina and the lovely restaurants here in Glenelg, saw all the kids playing outdoors, saw all the free tennis courts, and saw some lovely houses. And we thought oh my god imagine of we hadn't come here, look at what we have on our doorstep we are so lucky!
That was 3 months ago and the novelty has worn off, and the finances are tight, we miss our family, the children miss their grandparents, and if i'm honest and we put money aside we can't really put our finger on it we just don't see our family growing up here.
I did post on this earlier and have been watching it all day , Kerry I know where you are coming from we got here in Sept my hubby had a job to go to (full time and perminant) so we are very lucky .
Kids clothes are either cheap and rubbish wash out of shape etc or expensive and books are such a rip off so anyone waiting to come who loves reading get to that asda and fill a case as they are about $20 dollars per paper back here , yes people will say go the library but I never did in the uk so don't want to start here.
Food shopping is best done the way suggested going to the butcher veg shop etc I find this not to be cheaper just better quality. We hadn't done a reccie and I have said this many times and get the strangest looks If we had we wouldn't have come and to make it even worse we think it might just be Adelaide (sorry to offend you all that love it ) but this its better i don't get it at all . Yes the sun shines and in the uk on a sunny day we felt better .
I don't want to upset people on here but when we looked at poms from the uk I often wondered why people didn't talk of bad things now I am here its hard to post you are unsure when everyone else is pleased about the move
I think with a reccie, its not long enough unless you can afford to come for a few months, but if you just came for two weeks you would have seen lots of good things and only a few bad things, I feel its only now we are seeing the bad!
Originally Posted by massive
I think this post shows that not everyone is happy here, it is the people who aren't happy that should post on here as they need all the support they can get, the happy people are happy so are in less need of support... i'm not saying the happy people shouldn't post but they shouldn't make people who aren't happy feel bad for feeling that way. Each to their own!
I agree, stock up with books at tesco and asda, then go to NEXT and buy all your children's clothes for this year and the next.. god knows they will need them!
I've also heard that people rarely travel outside of Australia for holidays because its so expensive... this doesn't sound good to me, there is a whole world beyond Australia and I want to see some of it!
Kerry x x
hi kerry i just want to say that when we landed here for the first few weeks i could have easily got on the plane back home, we was in a holiday shack and thats what it was a shack i hated it mozzies and insects everywhere getting bitting alive everynight and i thought what the hell have i done!!! it was the worst 4/5 weeks of my life i had to get the bus the school with 4 kids as carnt drive and they came every 2 hours! ok the beach was 1 mintue walk away but i just felt so hard and sort of lonely at the time.Then the kids school was not what i expected and that was a worry coz thats our reason for being here, then one day i had a breakdown in coles(wont go into detail)
but from that moment on i thought right thats it its only me who can sort this bloody mess out!!!
we sorted a fab rental out, changed schools for when the kids go back and things have falling into place SLOWLY but surely.
we live in a lovely house with lovely nieghbours and my boys have friends who they play out with they love it.we have meet really nice friends which has made a hell of a differance and we enjoying it so far,you read all stuff people write about but untill u land here and live here you get to understand how diffecult it is
give it time hun and see how things go good luck with your decision making and if you want to meet up with the kids that would be lovely
p.s that was my 8 week update too!!!
I don't want to upset people on here but when we looked at poms from the uk I often wondered why people didn't talk of bad things now I am here its hard to post you are unsure when everyone else is pleased about the move[/quote]
Don't be fooled - we've all had our wobbly moments and seconds thoughts.
You wouldn't be human if you didn't.
And if you haven't had a wobble yet........ it's only a matter of time.
Feel free to wobble - we're here to support you .
Originally Posted by thebaddeleys
Have a look on the Playgroup SA website - I used to go to a playgroup which had playgroups on all day from 9am to 4pm for an hour and a half each time. Simply google Playgroup SA and you will get linked to their site.
Of course beach trips and parks are no substitute for grandparents and I hope I never implied that in my reply. It is very hard for some people if they have come from seeing family very regularly to not seeing them at all - I used to see my parents about 4 times per year - they lived a long way from me - my in-laws lived a few miles away.
I have never had a wabble, but that is me and my circumstances. It is very difficult for us to advise others in the UK about what it is like for us here - we all have different levels of what we accept in our lives and what is good housing in a good area, could be someone elses paradise, or someone elses hell ....
We can provide cost analysis but that will only be based on whether it is any good depending on what you earn. For example, I never did any food shopping in M&S or Waitrose - we used Tesco, Asda but then some people only shop in certain places.
There are frequently debates on clothes here and in the UK and you know what? who cares? Because once you have been here for a while, you don't (well we don't!). There are beautiful places to buy anything here but some people don't look for them and just moan about what is on offer.
I will always give an honest opinion, but others may not agree with it and you don't know me, so why take my word for it. If people want to immigrate, they will - I don't know of many people who have decided not to do it because they listen to what is said on here. And the same the other way around - only you can decide what is right for you, your partner and your family.
I do believe I have found my paradise (or what is right for me) - I have a great family who are enriched by living here, a lovely house, a comfortable standard of living, we have a great climate most of the year and you can live a much better life here - but that is only my opinion.
Please feel free to ask and you will get my 2cents worth ....
we looked into the emergency part as we worried about the clause....we were told a cold is emergency...sore foot...any normal ailment and you get treated which has happened...if you need a knee replacement then you have to wait......we have used it plenty of times and its just like the uk thats why we don't have private cover.
You can be as honest as much as you want, as quite a few people always have been, but when people are sitting on the other side in UK , they always tend to ignore ' the bad bits', so people get bored with giving thier views, especially the ones that have been here a while.
Originally Posted by thebaddeleys