As the title suggests, I'd like your feedback on whether we're being overly sensitive about a few things related to our son's time at school. Thomas (recently turned five) was at kindy last year and is in reception this year, and the school (probably no good reason to name it) seems to tick all the boxes and is appropriately caring and supportive. It's just that occasionally there'll be something that jars or annoys us and we're not sure whether to mention these – very minor – things to the school or let them go.
Here are a few examples: last year it was arranged for the kindy class to make a CD of a song one of the teachers had written. They went off to record it at a local studio and it was all very exciting for them. What irritated us, though, was that the leaflet promoting this to parents was headlined with words along the lines of 'our chance to be famous'. Of all the positives that could have been mentioned – performing together as a team, going on a great adventure, learning something new, making a great song etc – being famous wasn't one I'd have thought was particularly important to highlight. It perhaps said more about the desires of the person writing the leaflet than any value I'd want the school to help foster in the kids.
Yesterday, the reception class made Valentine's Day cards for parents (Thomas for his mum, so I assume the girls would have made one for their dads). It was a pre-prepared template and the words on the inside of the card read something like: 'I love my ....' (Thomas inserted 'Daddy') and then on the next line: 'but most of all, best of all I love my ... ('Mummy') We think it isn't the school's role to suggest to a child that they should love one parent more than the other, and last night we spent time explaining to him that we love each other equally. It seems to me that there are a thousand better ways of phrasing the intent of the card less clumsily.
These examples seem minor, I know, but I can't help think that some care needs to be shown with the words that teachers use and some understanding of how powerful their effect can be.
We're now wondering whether to mention our concerns, or if we're seriously nit-picking. Any thoughts?