Thanks everyone, Anne B, I'm not expecting a miracle lol, but just more opportunity to be outdoors. I don't mind him watching TV or playing games on the computer, but would rather he had more interestes along with those.
Reccie is out of the question as one we don't have the money as it is so costly to come to Australia, i would rather waste my money and do the move and then return, than do a holiday that costs a fortune and wastes the equity in our house. One of the reasons we want to come (there are many) is my husband is out of work so often so we just don't have the time to save. Two we are running out of 'age' time, which again relates to the work issue of not having the time to save and come before.
My husband doesn't see his mum as we live in England, it's just the thought of not being able to get to turkey in 4 hours if something happens to her that puts him off. And we can't put our lives on hold for one day in hers. I didn't say he wasn't keen, he is up for moving, he is not dragging his feet, but he hasn't the passion for it as he has said already 'I have emigrated already' and knows it is not easy, but he can see that here our children have a bit of a bleak future at present. But if you met my husband, you would know that he is a 'the glass is half empty person' and there is not a lot he will give 100% too lol. If you read my other posts, you can see that it is not a quick decision that we are making and we are trying to get as much information as possible before coming. (If it all comes off that is, we are still thinking about it).
Too much to explain over one forum page.