At the end of the day though, the push and pull factors (the idea of a better life for your kids in Oz is a push; leaving family back in the UK is a typical pull) are different for everyone. Only if the pushes outweigh the pulls for you and yours will you stand a chance of being successful. All the sun in world will not make up for a close relative no longer being part of your everyday life for instance.
If you give it go, it's got to be a "fair go" and you'll need to be prepared to accept that:
Many many things are different here (food, work, words)
You could have 2 weeks straight of temps above 35°C; and three months of cold and wet (ok - maybe not quite that bad :)).
The cost of living isn't as cheap as it's made out to be in the papers
Wages are lower (when converting back to pounds) for many trades
Speed cameras and bad driving is common on the roads
England is 8˝hrs behind and 12,000miles away - it's not easy to keep in touch to your lifelines.
The wait for your visa is typical of the waiting / procrastination you'll have to get used to for so many things over here.
You have to get out there to make it (job, social life etc)
If you're realistic of your expectations for over here and that there will be bad times with the good, you'll do ok. After 3 years, I see this place as home and have accepted many new things that have gone with the move. If you're prepared to make changes to your norm (not all at once of course), you should be right.
BTW I think the orginal comment regarding %age on temp vs %age on PR that have gone back, and the job situation at the moment are very true statements. You cannot really live anywhere without a job/money, and you certainly can't make the most of living here without it (unless you're cashed up I guess ;)). When you first get here, you will be forever comparing things back to how they are in the UK (it does fade after a while - honest), and if you're unable to enjoy the things you came out here for, the pulls will start to take over and take you back to the UK.
Last edited by nishman; 15-06-2009 at 03:32 AM.
Originally Posted by njacinthebox
Looking back (as we came bk the UK) I liked the space, the cleanliness, the aussie people (most of them) and I liked the fact that my kids didnt feel underpressure with the latest fashion, they were more layed back in their attitude, more relaxed. The fun stuff is free, beach, parks drinking wine outside
thats what Im missing
Originally Posted by mayjess
The will to succeed has to be one of the big things that deffo keeps us going..we have had more than our fair share of reasons where we could have jacked it all in ....but no we see the bigger picture and pick ourselves up and dust ourselves off and go again.:)
Originally Posted by cunnah10
We didnt come with a great load of cash i reckon we came with about $12,000 if that and were still here 14 months on and were in the process on building ouir own place.
Bring it on a say....:p
I have been here 4 days and I like the positivity of everyone I have met so far, the laid-back nature of the place, the cosmopolitan food, up and running with broadband and phone inside a day, customer service is excellent so far, sunsets are awesome, can't get the grin off my face.......
have found all of these posts really interesting and we are by no means coming out to Oz with rose tinted glasses.
Although we havent arrived yet, we know it is going to be very hard missing family and friends, BUT we also know that we are going to give it 110 %, to make it work for us and the children, which means not comparing everything to the UK all the time, and embracing life in Australia, and to also give it at least a yea maybe 2 to settle down properlly. I have an Uncle who has lived in Sydney for 20 years and he has told me that even he still misses the family, so i think its just a case of making the good things about living in Oz outweigh the very few things that pull you back to the UK.
Ian (35), Shona (35), Elisha (10), Mitchell (7), and Ty (2)
Nor will you get a sunset like Saturday night back in the UK: respect to anyone who has given life in another country a go and decided it is not for them. They have gone on one of life's huge adventures.
Originally Posted by mayjess
The way we look at it is if we didn't do it now, we would forever regret it. So the itch is being scratched, and the adventure has started: container on the way, kids and wife coming on Thursday, can't wait to get into this life in earnest, without the rosy specs you wear before you arrive!
3 months of cold and rain is eminenetly acceptable compared to coming from the West Coast of Scotland..........!