How do you tell people you are going to live on the other side of the world? it is so hard, especially for a sole surviving parent in their 70's who have only ever lived in one place and can't understand why anyone wants to emigrate, and definitely will NEVER make the trip to visit. What do you do? put your own life on stop/hold waiting for them to pass-away (a horrible thing to say I know) ? whilst at the same time feel quite resentful of them for stopping you from getting on with your life.
Having to put up with horrible comments from my sole sibling, who is basically saying ''you go off and enjoy yourself, I will be the martyr here and be here for Mum''. Is it a jealousy thing? or am I missing something?
We have already had to return once due to family pressures, and have regretted it every day since .......... probably the worst thing we ever did, but 3 years of phone calls asking ''when are you coming home'' ''your brother can't have a holiday unless you come home'' ''your brother is depressed'' ''here is where your home is'' ''you can have your birthday/christmas card when you come home'' etc etc - was REALLY hard, and eventually we gave in. We so regret that now - it is even harder to try to leave the second time.
Sorry for the ramble .......... but feeling pretty stuck at the moment, any words of wisdom would help!