Well we have told everyone else but tomorrow we are of to tell the wifes parents
I guess its easy for me as i just have a sister and we are not close. She did not take it well but in all honesty im not that bothered. Her parting comment was are you telling mum. I have not spoken to my mum in 12 years so the answer was no. My sister hung up and as my dad died 4 years ago thats my family all dealt with.
Wife is different. She and her brother are adopted. Her brother took it well yesterday but was upset but said if you dont do it now you will regret it forever. We have told all of her mum & dads friends today to forwarn them as they will get phonecalls straight after but tomorrow is going to be a long day.
Her dad is 82 and a really nice guy. He cannot travel as he has had strokes, cancer, and is on enough pills to sink a small ship and is i guess on hes last legs. Her mum is 78 and is a good 78. Loves our 2 girls to bits and is going to be so upset.
We have kept them in the loop as much as we can from our recce 2 years ago but as we progressed the mood changed from we will miss you but understand to i will have nothing to live for when we lodged the visa in jan 2010. Since then they said we dont want to talk about it no more so it has not been mentioned. When we told her best friends today to warn them they said oh they thought you had given up and forgot about it.
The wife is firm, we are doing it for us and our children and is not wavering a bit but its going to be a long day though. Hope they accept our reasons and it does not get messy.
I bet so many of you have been through this and for us its going to be the worst leaving bit by far. Just want it to go as well as it can be.