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Thanks everyone, this is all so helpful, having advice from people who really understand what we are going through
Great reading all your posts we are here 8 weeks now and even thou our 22 yr old son was happy to come and give it a go hes hated it since we arrived.Left a girlfriend back home and i think thats de biggest reason he wants to go home,has been adamant he is going home in january but 2 days ago he announced he might wait till july to go home (huge break thru)Id be heart-broken if he left cos i know there is nothing back home for him,NO jobs,NO prospects,NO future...he done his white card last wed so hoping to get onto a site after xmas and start mixing wit ppl and getting a few bob in his pocket along wit a nice summer im hoping he will give it a chance and stay,not easy having no mates and at 22 dont really want to be doing stuff wit us...lol...
Emigration, and all the possible issues around it, is not something many people go through and whilst you can do all the research etc only people who have been through it can share issues like those involving kids, missing rellies, settling in etc.
I hope all your kids eventually settle here, even the ones that go back. It can really suck being a parent some times.
I guess you have to work out whta is most important for you all, and if he goes back if you are happy to have him 10500 miles awais y. My son who did not want to come but a lot younger, he hated the first three months but now loves it. I am the one who now hates it. We did say to him we would go back if he did not like it after a year but we never siad that for the adults. LOL So you never know how things will work but if you move families across the world you have to understand there us a chance that you will end up with a family at great distance from each other only you know if that is the price worth paying if it is teh end result!
We came over 5 years ago with our 17 year old son and his 5 year old sister. We knew he was dead against the move the moment we applied for the visa . Sometimes as parents we tend to forget that it may be our "dream" to up sticks and travel 12000 miles for the chance of a new life, but not our kids. As a 17 year old he had a big network of friends that he had built up over the years and didn't want to lose them.
Once he started year 12 here he met some good mates who introduced him to the great Oz life that many youngsters here enjoy. My son eventually joined the Airforce in 2009 and is living life to the full. Skiing, Surfing,fishing, pilot lessons and having a ball. I guess our story has a good ending, I wish the same for you and your son.
you could always convince him of the car front, if he doesnt have a lisence it's relativly easy you have L's and P plates not as focussed on the theory, but its cheeper my brother has quite an old car (no mot's over here) and is the same age but he pays alot less then they do in the uk for insurance. True at 17 it may be harder to build friendships buton here i see alot of people meet up. There is also the clubs which everyone goes to.
On another note the university, have you applied or asked about it, and he may need to do a foundation course. I should warn you as residents (which I am assumning you are) you wont be able to get commonwealth support, so its upfront payment but a lot cheper than the uk. You may be able to get around it but I'm currently in the middle of it and I'm not sure so check with the university on that.
To be fair, the friends thing, you make friends at uni, I have had friends here from school but I hardly see them. And it's the same for the UK, you'll be with people with the same interests.