Well since getting our visa last week we've not had much luck, our 7 year old was not entirely convinced and now certain quarters of the family have gone utterly ballistic. They have known we were doing this from when the process began 16 months ago but have buried their heads in the sand and chosen not to discuss it or ask us anything about it til now and all hell has broken loose. We have no problem with them being upset about us going and we understand how hard it will be, but it's more than that saying we haven't thought it through, they'll never come out and visit etc etc has anyone else had this situation and how do you get through it with your sanity in tact? It's putting awful pressure on us and feels very selfish (as they've never once said 'I can see why we're doing it but...') and I feel we're being emotionally blackmailed. This forum has been so good to us I hope someone out there can help!