
Originally Posted by
Scousemouse
hi Sarah and Simon,
I sympathise with you; my 18 year old son did EXACTLY the same thing in Exactly the same timescale, only it was 3 years ago!
there is so much to sort out, so much frustration for both sides; but now after 3 years, I feel it was the right thing for him to do!
james, my son was very angry, very lonely and blamed us for taking away his life, separating him from his friends and family and really made us suffer
for the few short weeks he was here.........i hope your boy is more reasonable about it.
The move is a huge thing at any age, but for teenage lads, its such a wrench, so try to understand that he still loves you, and you will all miss each other, but there are ways to beat the upset, and keep things smooth!
We had no contact for about 6 months, despite loads of calls, emails etc, but his friends and some family members kept us up to speed with things; then out of the blue, a phone call.............a sensible, adult conversation, something we hadnt had before...and we cried a bucket load.........
Things are better now, and hopefully you and your boy arent quite as bad as we were. My boy, his partner and our grandchild (ren, they are having another), will be here for xmas next year; we talk, skype and email regularly, and he is happy with his decision.
Good Luck, and I wish your son the very best of British, its a brave thing he is doing, Godspeed, young man.
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