family sceptics..............help

**hopefulnurse** · 14-03-2007, 09:26 AM

hi guys,

could somebody please shed some light on one issue for me, i have heard from friends on this site that as things get closer and you start to tell family that you intend to make the move, family start to throw spanners in the works. My father-in-law has set the cat amongst the pidgeons saying that if we do go that our three boys will have to do 2 years national service once they are 18. Not sure if he is right or trying to put us off with proceeding.

Anybody out there know the truth?

Jim N Angela

**Jane.Mason** · 14-03-2007, 11:53 AM

Hi

Yes the inlaws and parents like to make you feel your're making the right move and abandoning them in their years of need, mine definately like to lay it on thick and what with the 50 repetitive questions and quick comments I can't wait to go. :roll:
Has the Visa Arrived? When are u going? we'll never see you again? Why are you selling the house? The grass isn't always greener? What if you don't like it? You won't make freinds at your time of life? What about the sharks? It's such a long way? The schooling's not as good? We'll never see you again :( :( :(

Can you tell they've been up this weekend? First time since XMAS.

Back to the subject after my rant. As far as i'm aware National service is voluntary at the moment although the aussie government have discussed the option of National Service becoming compulsory. Much the same as the UK have discussed it.

Jane

**Tyke** · 14-03-2007, 02:40 PM

Originally Posted by hopefulnurse

hi guys,

could somebody please shed some light on one issue for me, i have heard from friends on this site that as things get closer and you start to tell family that you intend to make the move, family start to throw spanners in the works. My father-in-law has set the cat amongst the pidgeons saying that if we do go that our three boys will have to do 2 years national service once they are 18. Not sure if he is right or trying to put us off with proceeding.

Anybody out there know the truth?

Jim N Angela

No such thing as compulsory national Service here in Oz.

Tell your Father In Law he is talking Cr@p from me.
I'll give him my email address if you pm me.
I detest this sort of emotional blackmail!!

Lived here 7 years now.

He is only scare mongering.

Hope this helps.

**dglamoore** · 14-03-2007, 06:42 PM

Originally Posted by Tyke

No such thing as compulsory national Service here in Oz.

Tell your Father In Law he is talking Cr@p from me.
I'll give him my email address if you pm me.
I detest this sort of emotional blackmail!!

Lived here 7 years now.

He is only scare mongering.

Hope this helps.

I take it thats a no then Tyke :lol: :lol:

It must be a parent thing - every time Oz was mentioned to my mum before getting the visa the subject was changed and anything I said was ignored meanwhile my father was telling anyone that would listen that it is a pipedream and we would not get the visa - now we have the visa he is telling everyone it won't work - God is he going to have a long wait :roll: 8)

You will get negative comments - normally from those who wish they had the courage or chance to do what you are doing :)

Lisa

**graandjac** · 14-03-2007, 09:35 PM

Hi All
We told our parents right from the start and they have backed us all the way they recon that we should have made the move years ago maybe we are lucky to have this kind of support
TRA under way Graham ,Jacqui, Holly and Owen

**jen&ian** · 14-03-2007, 10:30 PM

Don't get me started on this one ! It's my personal rant of choice at the moment :evil:

Joking aside I'm glad someone else has brought this up as I was about to myself. Whenever migration was mentioned in my mothers presence untill recently she would always say she couldn't understand why we wanted to go at which I would want to scream HOW LONG HAVE YOU GOT? but would just have to bite my lip. At one stage she even suggested we leave our children behind as they were obviously cramping our globtrotting style, the red mist came down pretty damn quick on that one I can tell you :evil: :evil: . Now we're down to every day emotional blackmail similar to that already described.

Lisa you are absolutely right about the reasons behind it. Those of you who are receiving unconditional support- Lucky you!

Anyway I feel better for getting that of my chest-Ta

Jen

**dglamoore** · 14-03-2007, 11:20 PM

Ok I now have a new rant - my parents have stated for months they cannot possibly go online to keep in touch as they cannot afford the internet each month (we even offered to pay for a year and bought them a webcam :? ) so would be up to us to call them.

Tonight thought I would give them a call as not heard from them for a few weeks to be told they have just sorted out getting Sky TV :twisted: :twisted:

Obviously watching TV is way more important than keeping in touch with their daughter, son-in-law and grand daughter :roll:

My rant over too :lol:

Lisa

ps phew this ranting feels good

**Jane.Mason** · 14-03-2007, 11:30 PM

Hi All

Really sorry, My rant earlier has started the snowball effect.

BUT HEY DOESN'T IT FEEL GREAT :D TO GET IT OFF YOUR CHEST AND KNOW OTHERS ARE GETTING THE SAME S***. :!:

They must all be a looking at the same list of phrases as quite a few seem to be singing (wingeing) from the same song sheet.

Jane

**hopefulnurse** · 15-03-2007, 12:25 AM

LoL, so glad i chose a topic that would get us all going. :D

So I take it that its a no about compulsary National Service :D :D :D

With being a nurse my mother has now decided that she has early onset dementia, and is telling my 5 siblings but not me as she knows that i will hear it from one of them, if I confront her she will say she did not want to worry me :P
And if i hear her say one more time that Australia is full of racists and chauvanists and that by taking three impressionable lads to a country like that is asking for trouble when they get older, (such a placcid soul my mother).
(God this does feel good to get it off your chest) i do agree with some of the threads, and am glad as said earlier that we are not the only ones being harrassed.

Let the fight continue

Jim N Angela :lol:

**Tyke** · 15-03-2007, 12:44 AM

Phew!

After reading the posts on this thread it makes me spit.

I do think there is a bit of selfishness on the part of relatives.

As well as moving out here for ourselves there is the kid's future to consider.
Trouble is that relatives know they are impressionable and an easy target.

We had some of this when we were coming across.
Funny how relatives want to spend lots more time with your kids when they know you are leaving.Especially when they did not bother much before <sic>

Most kids take to this life like ducks to water.Little Tyke is now a full blown Aussie girl and is so settled here - I'm seeing this with a lot of other kids too.

It is a better life for them in general once they make friends here and let go of some of their UK ties.

Trouble is it can start up again once the relatives visit you in Oz - I have recently heard some awful tales of visiting Grandparents .They were saying some silly things to the impressionable Grandchildren.

My family were not too bad,my Brother was very pleased for us and understood our need to move here.
I'd have loved my Mum's blessing but that came later as acceptance once she had visited us,then she realised why we moved.
When my Uncle and Aunt visited,my Uncle was sat there with me one afternoon looking out to the sea.He said "Your Dad would have loved it here" (Dad passed away a number of years ago)
.That really put the seal of approval on the move :-)

So bite it or whatever - you are trying the best to give your immediate family bright future and decent life.