Going back ???

[guest569]

Sadly there seems to be quite a few people returning to the uk and having to sell off all their aussie belongings. Whats going on ??? Were all these people unhappy / unsure from day one or what ???
Adelaide was not what i expected it to be as i had never been to Oz before i came blind. It took me 3 years to join the "love it " brigade although all the time i knew it was better than where i had left behind, it was not the paradise i expected.
Even if i had hated it i would have stuck at it for the citizenship for my kids !!!!!!
Is it really all that bad for people to pack up after such short amounts of time ????
No offence meant to anyone in the returning process as i'm sure they all have good reasons and only they can decide whats best for them and theirs ...

[ozzieclare2be]

my reasons for going home are nowt to do with australia, well some of it is.

[Devon]

For us I think if we had been on pr from day one it would have been a different story However after three years had finally given up on the constant fight to stay. Now although we have just got pr if we don't go back now we would never be able to afford to if things didn't improve financially. I would now be able to go for the jobs I wanted to do but unfortunately it is too late now. It is great here but to be honest it has made us appreciate the life we had before. We didn't hate the UK and had a good life there. Just wanted something different. I now miss being able to pop off to somewhere in Europe for the weekend like we used to do. There are loads of things I will miss about Adelaide especially the great friends I made here when I was finally allowed to work. It was an experience though and some of the people I got to know are already making arrangements to come back to the UK and visit with one already having actually booked and paid for her and her husband's flights so I'm even boosting the UK tourist market When we first made arrangements to go it was weeks away but soon goes quickly. Only four more sleeps to go

[Scousemouse]

Oh, Guys, thats so sad!

You gave it a go, and thats the important thing.
Oz isnt for everyone; and not all have had positive experiences, but i take my hat off to those who are brave enough to go back.

Like Maggie, this lady aint for turning, even being this fresh off the boat, i know going back isnt an option for me.............................

Barring family issues, i dont wanna even go back for a visit, and having elderly rels, some of whom are on their lazzies, i dread the fact.

GOOD LUCK to each of you, and VIA CON DIOS

xx
Jane

[thebaddeleys]

You know on the poms in Oz forum they have a section for people who are considering going back home or have already gone back.... maybe its time we got one too??? x x x

[mayjess]

There are lots of reasons why some go back to the UK, a lot is to do with the pull of home,and the familiarity we miss, faces we know etc etc, personally my reason to come back was missing home but also it being so tough to settle in OZ, getting a job you like, having decent friends, and the kids settling, one of mine settled great the other did not, also having someone very close diagnosed with a terminal illness didnt help, so yep there are tons of reasons why ppl choose to come back, I dont think there is just one reason, its a number of reasons that all add up until one day its the final reason thats the straw that broke the camels back! I personally dont think there is enough help for those who struggle to settle, like a community based organisation just for Brits who need some advice and do some networking! (maybe there is my chance to get something up & running)

Anyways lots come back the UK, get themselves sorted mentally and then decide to give it another try, like us! we want to give it another go & maybe we are wiser and stronger emotionally and emntally to make it work this time, who knows, at least we are going to try.

[sueoc]

Good Question.Hmmm!Each of us arrived here in different circumstances, some have little kids,some have grown up kids,some had a job to come to,some not ,some have visited before,some never knew what to expect,some had a reasonably good life in the UK,some did not,and some have prospered here,some not,and some miss family/home too much,so obviously its not for everybody.There are a thousand different reasons why people go back,and each family that does knows that its the right thing for them,and i respect them for that.Good luck to them,its their descision,and they do not have to feel they need to explain themselves to the "Adelaide Appreciation Society."Personally,i like Adelaide,and after 8 months here,me and my wife still dont know what lies in the future(we came here for a better future for our teenage sons)We both now have decent jobs, and so do they,but then we had a good lifestyle back home,so i can really see the turmoil we all go through,as we decide.Best of luck to those who stay,and best of luck to those who go back,at least we all gave it a go,whatever the outcome will be.

[Fancy a Beer]

Even if i had hated it i would have stuck at it for the citizenship for my kids !!!!!!

Yeah have to say I dont get it either, all that hassle and hard work to get here and some give up so easily to go back, maybe they are not the fighters they thought they were??

[mayjess]

Yeah have to say I dont get it either, all that hassle and hard work to get here and some give up so easily to go back, maybe they are not the fighters they thought they were??

Thats really easy to say when you have a family member dying back home and a child crying to go home everyday even after 12 mths of being there! like i said before everyone has their reasons and everyone has the right to decide what they want to do, if that means come & go 10 times before settling in OZ, then so be it, then thats what they want to do, doesnt affect anyone but themselves, so I personally cannot see the problem!

[Libby1971]

Oh come on, that's not fair. Sticking it out for citizenship is fine when you are on a PR and only have to wait 2 years. For those with temp residency, there is the stress of having to fulfil visa requirements including hours to be worked, without any income through family benefits which causes alot of financial worry. For some people, being here is hard, very hard, and if they feel that there is something better back in UK, neither you or I can or should judge them.

I knew I was coming here to get citizenship and that would take 2 years. I felt very low about six months and only the thought that I had 18 more months to go max made it manageable. If I had thought I had years to go before citizenship, I think I'd have been tempted to go.

We came and it was esay for us. No parents or grandparents. One sister, one brother and an aunt. Close enough to love but not close enough to leave Aus for. If we'd absolutely hated it here then we'd have gone somewhere else but our life in UK was horrible anyway.

I think it takes more guts to go back than stay. Having to recreate a life you had before, how do you do that?