More homesick now than ever before

[ian mc]

I haven't been on PIA for so long - mainly because things are STILL tough, and in the interests of putting it plainly...we have been here 4 long years...sigh. I know now how the convicts must have felt (and yes, before some wag dives in here, I am aware SA wasn't settled by convicts.) But I am in exile here, still. The long hard road to settling in Australia is still not smooth - but having put up with misery, heartache, and knowing I will never see my family again (they won't fly here and we'll never have the money to fly home!) there is nothing else to do but bite the bullet and put up with it. I still remain so sceptical that our decision to move abroad was anything like a good idea - we'd have been far happier and better off in the UK - even my kids have never settled here - apart from fresher air they never took to the lifestyle either. Added to that, the financial stresses and strains, and the resentment of staying out here when I wanted to go home and hubby wouldn't has been the death of my former 'happy' marriage.

This is probably all very depressing - but I'm really past caring anymore if people want to have a go and tell me I should stop being a whingeing Pom. This is the reality of life out here for some. Some people will never settle; I guess I'm one of them. Whatever your head says, I would say go with your heart...

Good post just lets everyone thinking of coming over its all not rosy here for everyone and some people just can not settle

[Diane]

A good thought for people coming over here is to put some money in the bank - enough to pay for flights home in an emergency - that you don't touch for anything else. I know that's possibly easier said than done, but to be in a place you don't want to be, without the wherewithal to get out, is not a nice position to be in !

[Bluenose]

24 years in Australia and I still miss things back in England and I left when I was 16! It took me about 10 years before I stopped feeling homesick all the time. Never feel that your weird or going crazy if suddenly find something triggers a missing home feeling. For me, it's whenever I watch a doco. on TV about the UK or watching something about the countryside etc. I get this feeling even though I've lived most of my life here.....it's a sadness...as if I've lost a connection of where I'm from.

I too miss my family and friend (yes I'm still in contact with him after all this time) I'm going back in a few months for Christmas.....no matter how good Australia... Christmas just doesn't feel the same here! So I'm going to suffer 2 friggin winters ;)

I f you do think about moving back then I would strongly advise that you go home for a holiday first see if those rose tinted memories are really as rosey as you remember.....Imagine what it would be like to live there again etc etc....and if it's what you want then by all means move back. :)

Cheers

J

[sduffy]

Deb,best of luck with the new job.

Have sent you a PM.

Sue

[katsmajic]

Debs, sorry to hear things are still tough for you. I hope the new job gives you some satisfaction and leads to a more positive future xxx