I felt I just HAD TO respond. I cant imagine what you are going through.
My husband is also from cape town and he fled in 1997 to the uk ( which is how we met) after being held hostage in his own home with a gun to his head. The only reason he got away is that he carried a gun and managed to save himself. We know so many people who have been robbed, raped and murdered
We moved to Australia as we knew that we could never in a million years live in south Africa .... With people who believe having sex with young virgins will cure them from aids ( we have 2 young girls) and who take whatever they want whenever they want.
My husband loves his country but his eyes are wide open as to why we could never live there. I do sincerely hope with all my heart that they will return here quickly and safely.