We arrived here just over 4 years ago after escaping a hell hole of an existence in crime ridden Cape Town. We still refer to it as the evacuation or escape! My daughter has just bought one way tickets back there.
I have been through the pain of leaving behind friends and family. On the first occasion I left the UK and many years later I left South Africa to move here. Everyone migrating here goes through the same emotions.
What is new now is that I am on the other side. I am losing my daughter and three grandchildren. I feel as though she has made a decision that the children who I see every day will no longer be a part of my life. I was there when they were born at Flinders and they have been a major part of my life ever since.
On this forumn you don't get to hear from the parents and grandparents...the ones that are left behind when the big decisions are made. Let me tell you this...the pain is extreme. It makes my heart sore.
What is so much worse is that they are leaving to live in the murder, rape, HIV capital of the the world where predators watch your every move. We lived in a normal everyday suburb with electric gates, razor wire, armed response, safety cupboards for children to lock themselves in, 3 firearms including a shotgun. They are not going to be living in a normal suburb. They will be living in a township bordering a gang infested area where the police are afraid to enter.
Her decision is made. Her flights are booked. I lose them all in 7 weeks time. I will worry about them every second of every day. We were fortunate to escape with our own lives and I fear for all their safety. I cannot sell up and leave but the prospect of seeing them perhaps once a year is not a situation i want. I know that it's a more extreme situation than when families move here but I just wanted to share the fact that the emotional distress of a relocation is really severe.