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OP, I am very gregarious (Tyke said I am a nutter, so that could right!) but can take or leave having friends. I guess that means I am careful who my friends are.
I think that when you're an adult, you probably look for friends that are more reliable and trustworthy so that can take longer to see if someone fits that criteria for you. Many other friends come from our youth so that can mean that some traits that don't annoy you too much with them, can be a real turn off if you see that in a potential new friend.
we can simpathise with you.i personally have made lots of friends through school and kindy but on very few i class as good friends. my husband on the other hand said he doent feel that he has really made any friends. i was talking to one of my "good friends" who is australian and born and bred in south australia and she said dont take it personally but in general its hard to make true friends with south australians as the majority are back stabbers or out to get something out of you!!!!!!!!!!!!!! this took me by supprise as she is a local so it wasnt a pommy having a bad day! we spent 5 months travelling when we first arrived around australia and everyone we met said dont go to sa what do you whant to go there for? they are a breed of there own!! after hearing many pommy experiences about probles with making friends i wonder if this is what the rest of the country has against sa!!!!! we are now looking to move upto queensland we absolutly loved it up there it was the tropical paridise i dreamed of when emigrating and also we have made friends when travellng uo there that have now become very good friends regular calls and we go up there to visit! thats the home calling for me! but all that aside thats my personal experience some people love sa and make good friends maybe there not need ing as good friends as others or aybe there lucky. hope things work out for you.
Funny I feel more like the OP during winter, Not sure if thats coz I hibernate a little.
We have been here for nearly 3 years and have settled in really well but I totally understand how the OP and others feel. I love entertaining but I do get a bit fed up when I seem to do ALL the entertaining. It gets to a point where I stop inviting certain people and wait and see if we get an invite back........It sometimes doesn't happen and then I resent them. I hate how that makes me feel but I just cant help it !!!!
I have tried to make friends with my daughters friends parents but even that can backfire, especially when the kids fall out !!!!!
Still summer is on its way (ha ha ha I hear you say) and hopefully we will meet some more people.
I'm sorry that you are feeling a little lost on the friends front. It is hard to make new friends in a new country. When we first got here (2 years ago) I felt that I did'nt have a friend that I could really confide in, someone who understood me and knew my history (and I still do feel like that on occassions). I don't have that person to moan to when I'm down who will be understanding. But you know what? Sometimes that's not such a bad thing as I plant a smile on my face and go out into the world. I'm sure that if I did have someone to moan to that it would make me feel worse, somehow.
As others have said on here, you can't always rely on making friends through your children's friends.
Also, I find that during the winter months alot of people do hibernate (me included!) and we don't see people as often as we do during the summer.
If you do feel that you need someone to chat to - drop me a PM and maybe we can meet for coffee and cake sometime?
[We have been here for nearly 3 years and have settled in really well but I totally understand how the OP and others feel. I love entertaining but I do get a bit fed up when I seem to do ALL the entertaining. It gets to a point where I stop inviting certain people and wait and see if we get an invite back........It sometimes doesn't happen and then I resent them. I hate how that makes me feel but I just cant help it !!!!
You are not alone in this hun.
I got to the point where I was feeling like I was being used as a free dinner by a few people.
Last edited by Nick11; 15-09-2010 at 04:14 AM.
The thing I find about Aussies is that they rarely move far from home. I knew one lady when I first arrived who had had the same best friend since she was 12! They saw each other everyday and the families met up every Friday! It's hard to blend in when people are that close-knit. When my son got friendly with another English boy, I suggested the two families got together for a barbecue. You can imagine my surprise when the boy's mother turned round and said, "No thanks. We have our own friends and don't really want to get to know you"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I pretty much gave up on families at school after that! We have met some nice people though and we soldier on.
you have to put things in perspective.
In your old life in UK with your old life , your old friends, if someone came to you and tried to make friends and invite you round to thier house, youd wonder what was going on.
Dont forget its 'you' whose trying to find friends. This is why expats end up seeing each other cos everyones in same boat. Aussie friends take longer in most cases.