Unhappy Teenager....

[Guest JacquiHH]

 

We have been in Adelaide for approx 6 months now and the whole family seems to be having a tough time..... We are all homesick.... Not that I don't appreciate the whole lifestyle on offer here but its proving harder than we thought we settle in....

 

My 14 year old daughter is finding it the hardest and is very down at the moment. Begging for us to go back to the UK. She is going to school at Mount Carmel and we are living on the esplande in Largs Bay. She is getting really good grades and has made friends at school. The problem is that no-one she has met has the same interests as her and she is refusing to do any extra curricular sport..... (she is heavily into fashion, shopping, TV etc) I have suggested numerous amount of different things she should try but she won't.

 

What I really need is to help her meet friends. May be meeting other kids from the UK that are in the same boat might help her deal with the move.... And someone to go shopping with (that isn't her mother!) would be great too.

 

Can anyone help????

[Guest willow1234]

awww bless her, must be really hard for you all. has she got msn or facebook if so post me her address and i will get our daughter to contact her. we have been here 4 months and had to drag our daughter from the uk BUT she absoloutly loves it .. deb.x

[Guest Trakki]

Hi, can't help as my oldest daughter is only 7 but seen a post by MAGS&TREV, they are moving over next week aand have 3 teenagers not sure of ages but maybe you could contact them and get your daughter to meet with their children so show them round and get to know them, may help her as she will be helping some new comers. Just a thought.

[Guest motlyman]

My daughter went through the same thing. She is nearly 17 now and is happy to be here.

I think the worse thing for homesickness is msn. The constant contact with old friends back in the uk really gets in the way of life moving on over here and is always a reminder of back in the uk. Difficult one as you should be able to keep in contact with your old mates.

I think time is the only answer to this one as in time the uk friends slowly fade away and life continues here as normal. My daughter was going back at one stage when she finished school but that has since changed and is happy to be here with her new friends. Her "now" friends. Also i never said i would stop her if she wanted to go back so there was no rebellious attitude towards me forcing her to stay.

I do sympathize with you as i went through it with mine and it hurts.

There are no instant answers i'm afraid. Just time.

 

Colin

[adelaidenow]

I am guessing that as you are all homesick it doesn't help her too much either.

 

All I can say is time does help. You (we) are coming to the end of a long cold winter, once the sun is out etc you will all cheer up I guess.

[Guest Ric & Paula]

.....and if you've been here 6 months like us ,you had 2 long cold winters in 1 year!Not fun

[tina&steve]

wait til summer, being in largs the daily trips to the beach!!!! winter is always hardest!

[Guest JacquiHH]

.....and if you've been here 6 months like us ,you had 2 long cold winters in 1 year!Not fun

 

Hi.... I've been meaning to contact you for a while as you are only down the road.... do you fancy meeting up next week in Semaphore.... Mon/Tues are good for me.... if the weather is OK maybe at Semaphore foreshore?? thanks for the support anyway.... 2 winters have been hard and the worst winters in years in both countries!! x

[Guest Ric & Paula]

Yep sounds good,PM me and I'll send my number.Tues would be best,as yet not been asked to go in work.....Paula

[Guest mandy.p]

Hi there my two fourteen year old daughters and I arrived in adelaide 3 wks ago leaving my 10 year old son and partner in the uk dealing with a nightmare sale of our house in the uk which is becoming a big problem. We are all homesick and missing are loved ones my daughters have started Findon High they have made friends but are sying the kids are boring they dont go out after school or on weekends so they feel like prisoners god love them so do I cos I havnt met anybody yet we are down in the dumps so if you like we could arrange to meet up I dont drive but have been finding my way round on buses.My daughters find the kids have got a different sense of humour here they were used to having a big group of friends in Liverpool who they could socialise with and get out and about so its been tears and tantrums and right now the want to go home x Mandy

[Guest motlyman]

Hi there my two fourteen year old daughters and I arrived in adelaide 3 wks ago leaving my 10 year old son and partner in the uk dealing with a nightmare sale of our house in the uk which is becoming a big problem. We are all homesick and missing are loved ones my daughters have started Findon High they have made friends but are sying the kids are boring they dont go out after school or on weekends so they feel like prisoners god love them so do I cos I havnt met anybody yet we are down in the dumps so if you like we could arrange to meet up I dont drive but have been finding my way round on buses.My daughters find the kids have got a different sense of humour here they were used to having a big group of friends in Liverpool who they could socialise with and get out and about so its been tears and tantrums and right now the want to go home x Mandy[/quote

 

I can add to my earlier post and say that my daughter had this problem also in her old school.

Now that she attends a different school it is now completely different.

Her old friends did not go out much out of school but at this school she often goes from school to friends houses or Marion, Subway etc. At the weekends we don,t see her, she,s at friends having sleepovers.

Not saying its the answer to your problems but it was for us.

 

Colin

[Guest londongirl]

I am here with my 13 year old daughter - we got to Oz three months ago, and arrived in Adelaide four weeks ago. At last she has started (primary!) school and she is happier now she is meeting new friends.

Londongirl

[Guest Peachie]

[Hi all

 

my daughter is 12 (13 in jan) is also at primary school will start high school next jan

she has been home sick and wants to go back but dosen't understand the life we had there is gone as we were only in the wirral due to her dads job and now that job is here so even if we could go back to england it wouldn't be where she has spent the last 6 yrs

she has made a few friends in primary school but is not as comfortable with her new friends and always seems on edge with them she says she always seems to say the wrong thing and they don't get the joke!! she said it gets awkward sometimes I do really feel for her as have had similer experiances at work but feel I'a better equiped to deal with and awkward moments and better able due to age experiance and I don't really care what peaple think of me but thats obviously important to my daughter

 

I also thing she is trying not to get to attatched to her new friends as they are all going to different high schools (she had alot to input into the school and got her 1st preferance) so hopping she finds some friends she is more comfortable with next year

 

deb x