Originally Posted by sarahsmartiepants
Thanks for replying. Boy, did you touch a nerve? You certainly made me sit up and take notice. I managed to be supportive till they went and never actually said don't go. But I can't talk to my daughter on the phone and I know she wants to talk to me, so my support has flown out the window. I think I fall into your category of "off" people. I need to think about that. I would like to think my daughter could respect me
for the way I have handled this difficult situation. At the moment I doubt that she could.
I am so glad I posted this query. The answers I have received have already helped me.
Thanks for your reply, your parents sound wonderful.
I have replied to your pm, thank you so much.
Thanks for your Mum's email address.
She sounds great, I look forward to communicating with her.
I am so sorry if I upset you, I certainly didn't mean to.
Originally Posted by The Monaghans
As I said in my original post, I think you are all so brave. I don't want to add to anyones worries about leaving the UK. The goodbyes are hard for everyone. I truly believed it was easier for my daughter as she had her new life to look forward to and all I had was a big gap in my life. But having read all these responses from such caring people I am starting to realiise how selfish I am being. I need to put my sorrow aside and help my daughter.
Last edited by dglamoore; 03-11-2007 at 10:07 PM.
I hope I didnt upset you too much. You have to get past that feeling of not being able to talk to her. Tell her why you couldnt for a while, she will understand. you dont sound selfish to me Carol, being hurt by this sort of thing is so normal, you need to put your sorrow aside so you can help each other.
I just wanted to add to what Sarah said I dont think you are being selfish either. Emigrating is hard for people on both sides of the fence and I think you are right that as hard as it was for your daughter she had new things to think about and do but youwill quite natrualy be focusing on your loss. If I was your daughter reading this I would feel very proud that I had such an articulate caring mother as you. I hope that you will be able to re open comunications with her soon.