Hello, just thought I would write an update as I haven't been on for awhile. We are a family of four and moved to the southern suburbs of Adelaide March 2015. We have all been through so many emotions over the past 10 months. There has been amazing times, but also really difficult times!!!
Before arriving you play everything over in your own mind, you accept that you will have to take a step back with work and earn less money, but are willing to sacrifice that to move to the other side of the world. At the time your thinking of only lifestyle changes for the better and a great opportunity for the children, but upon arrival you realise that it is hard to take a step back! it does mess with your mind! You realise it's harder than expected to Leave familiar surroundings, surroundings that you have been use to seeing daily for the whole of your life.
The first couple of months seemed easier than the next few months that followed. Arranging your life, buying cars, choosing a house, looking around schools, all these fill you thoughts for the first few months, therefore you don't have time to think about anything else really!
The next few months after that we spent in the winter months! And after months on this site saying oh the winter won't bother me I'm from Cumbria, the wettest place in England, sitting beneath Scotland, I lived on the coast which was absolutely freezing! I thought oh an Australian winter will be an absolute doddle!
I was so wrong! Ha ha...although the temperature is not as cold, the houses here are not made like the ones in the UK! I can assure you! You will think (as we did) oh I won't need dressing gowns, warm clothing ect! I promise you that you will! Bring everything you can. We had never owned an electric blanket in the UK, we all own one here...I know it sounds crazy, but it's true!
So that didn't help our mood, it was cold, windy and rainy we had been through an English winter and now had to go through an Australian winter, I would reccomend people arrive in September! If we were to do it again September would be our month of choice to arrive.
we were lucky as my husband found work as a joiner within two weeks, but is now on his third job in 10 months which would never have been the case in the UK...but he's pretty settled with the company he's with now. I worked in retail for 9 years in a well know homeware and fashion shop, I was a sales leader and I am still struggling to find a basic shop job here. I am having no luck! Had an interview this week and another rejection. I'm prepared to do anything to be honest, but still rejections. It does get you down! But it's out of your own hands so you have to try and deal with it.
We just remember that we are lucky that Craig has found a good role.
We have met some amazing people, we have a great group of friends which we spend so much time with, it is true that friends become family....definitely.
we applied for a couple of houses and are lucky enough to have had a choice, and we do live in a beautiful 4 bedroom house with a pool, it is lovely and the kids use the pool nearly every day.
The kids started at the local public school, the fees were approx $400 for both children. My oldest starts the local public secondary college in February which is a it more expensive but not too bad.
They both settled extremely well, especially my 6year old, she just slotted straight in, my son took a little bit longer, but that was to be expected as he is 12 years old.
overall I think they have found it a lot easier than us.
The summer months arrived and like back home, the sight of the sun automatically lifts your mood. We now had time to reflect! We could sit back and take a look at exactly what we had been up to over the past months.
We did feel proud, while your here you just get on with it....you forget that you have moved to the other side of the word and started from scratch! It isn't easy....that's for sure. But we do believe it's definitely worth it.
You go through so many emotions...happy, sad, questioning what you have done, feeling guilty for those you have left behind, beating yourself up for taking your children away from all they have ever known, will this be a better life for them, will we be happy here, have we wasted all that money for visas ect, have we done the right thing????? You send yourself a little bit crazy, overthinking goes into overdrive! Especially when you are struggling to find work! Ha ha.....you have to laugh a little in between!!!
this is all natural! It is a HUGE move, it's a BRAVE move.
after a wonderful Christmas and a lovely new year we finally feel a lot more settled. We have never once said that we want to go home. You do look back at England with rose tinted glasses I'm sure, you watch the English TV programs and think how beautiful the uk is and question why you left....but that's the answer! You chose to leave and it was hard work to get to Australia, so it can't have been a rash decision.
we love the south of Adelaide, it's so beautiful, it has amazing beaches that literally make you say wow every time you go! We say we could never go back now. For us all life does seem so much better here. I hope this post is useful to somebody planning to make the move. Good luck to you all