Hi there....we are in the same situation as our 19yr old is adamant she is not coming!!! she is starting a course in sep 08 to do a course that will last 2yrs. we are dissapointed too but she is embarking on her own path in life now and as we have 2 other children feel she can always follow when and if she is ready.....our biggest stress is how she will manage on her own as she still lives at home and has no definate plans to move out and we feel we are "abandoning" her...she wants us to go and understands why we want to but it doesnt make it any easier......not sure if it has helped but you are not alone ....take care..hope it all works out...Sarah..xxx