You have hit the nail on the head big time , and its the people who can do this sooner rather than later who will settle easer, its not easy ...there WILL be tears,there WILL be problems.........but when we were sat on the beach last night at 8.30 with a beer and glass of wine, and fish and chips, kids in the sea.....lol ...............it was bloody amazing
Originally Posted by Suziep
Milk and honey PAH
Its hard work , adapting , alcohol and BBQ`s and thats about it
Sounds like milk and honey to me mate!
Originally Posted by graandjac
Wow. Reading the comments here, I thought it was only me who had it as hard as that, but it is heartening that others have very similar experiences - the feeling of a lack of a support network, homesickness (didn't really get to me, but I do miss the people), but moreover, everything that I had to learn or know, I had to pretty much do by myself. I came here in 2000 by myself.
I was a student and so I was in a different situation to most, I had to apply for PR onshore. That was difficult, then finding a job, plus the whole thing about jobs and PR hinging on my ability to graduate. Living on substantially less money than most was also difficult - with no really big income, getting ahead was also pretty much impossible, let alone 'saving' ! Course fees swallowed everything up with alarming regularity.
The very real threat of one day, being asked to leave with 21 days notice, to get all your affairs in order when they already were here - cars, furniture, stuff - if I got the letter that said "application unsuccessful", which, thankfully, I never did. But it hangs over your head, and I guess that if you are an onshore applicant, you know what I mean. To have tasted something and experienced something nice, it is difficult to give that up and go back to what you previously had (e.g. when China / India / African nations eventually attain Western lifestyles, credit cards, shopping and high protein diets - watch out).
A lot of people at home thought "Australia" in the same way as we watched "Home and Away" or "Neighbours" at home, you know - everyone sits on the beach all day or in the cafe, everyone lives in everyone else's house and the sun always shines. No worries mate (as if !)
They never saw the other side, which is that it was b***dy hard work sometimes, and it all almost fell through several times for me - almost running out of money, almost being homeless, two car crashes - the first two threats still hover over your head now, despite having a rental and earning a wage. I guess that I never want to go back to those days.
So, that's WHY I got involved in this forum. I know what it was like, and I want to be able to help people.
Last edited by Leyland CJ; 28-02-2009 at 09:37 PM.
spot on mate. it is hard, but good, although as i'm ready to board flight 2 of 3 on my way back from my trip home to the US, i'm so not looking forward to the hard parts. that's life for the first few years though i guess. onwards and upwards...says the tired homesick traveller;)
Originally Posted by Leyland CJ
[quote=suzer;73141]spot on mate. it is hard, but good, although as i'm ready to board flight 2 of 3 on my way back from my trip home to the US, i'm so not looking forward to the hard parts. that's life for the first few years though i guess. onwards and upwards...says the tired homesick traveller;)[/]
Its the hard times that we have that makes us enjoy the milk and honey ....were coming upto our first year here and have we been aboard one hell of a roller coaster
Were now looking at buying our own house......
Just to all people coming over dnt expect milk n honey or an easy ride, there is tuff which crops up that are there to test you..........its how you deal with them which shapes how you settle here.
enjoy, fasten your seat belts and hold on tight !!!
But most of all.....chase your dreams...catch them..hold them tight....and never let them go !!!!;)
Totally agree with you Heaps
Well, looking at it like this has helped me to find it easier....
Yes, it is a land of milk and honey, but the cow still has to be milked and honey still needs to be collected, as a consequence I had to accept that hard work and a few stings along the way are unavoidable.
OH has been unable to find a position and we're 6 months in. I don't 'do' homesickness' but I totally get how some find it really difficult to live without their old friends and family around them.
Life IS different and given that I'm probably at the typical 6 month 'hump' (something that almost all emigrants go through at some point, but mostly at 6 months post move) I'm not longing to return to the UK, the honeymoon experience is over and I just feel ambivalent towards life in Australia. We don't have small children, unlike a lot of members of the forum and our expectations/needs are a lot different to those who do.We live in the South surrounded by some fabulous beaches and a lifestyle that goes with.
I'm lucky to have never really worn rose coloured glasses. I never had unrealistic expectations. I've also been lucky to have secured well paid employment before leaving the UK which has meant that I got into the routine of living rather than feeling like it was a holiday, which initially I resented, (I really wanted it to be a holiday!:p) but now I'm grateful to have routine and purpose to my life.
I really love living here in Adelaide I didnt realise before I came just how much of an impact the weather plays in our lives!! Although saying that for me personally there are various things that I dont like about living here, my main one being the driving is shocking here! BUT there are also many things I hated about living in the UK!
We have been really lucky and met some great mates, English and Aussie BUT if we could lift all our mates (not worried about the family :-))in the UK up and plonk them over here we would be 100% happy, instead we are sitting at 85% most days goes up and down depending on the day we are having!!
I forgot to say i do also worry about the opportunities here for the kids when they are older, but I guess we will deal with that when we get there!!
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