Going Back

[Guest Boomerang]

Good luck to all those returning and you can always say you were brave enough to try it and hold your head high.

[Kimbo 10]

I know I haven't posted for a good while, but I always check in and read what's going on. I was really surprised to read your post. I wish you and your family all the very best

 

Kim xx

[Guest cara]

Hello i have only just joined the forum and was so pleased to read your post. we have been here 5 years and have 2 beautiful ozzie children and we are planning on returning next year for a lot of the reasons you have said plus also miss the pubs! I sometimes feel that we are just being too sentimental so glad we are not the only ones. Good luck with the move and the cheap holls in europe.

[Guest sjs]

All the very best for your move back to the UK guys

[jim and adel 47]

... we are planning on returning next year for a lot of the reasons you have said plus also miss the pubs! I sometimes feel that we are just being too sentimental so glad we are not the only ones.

 

Yep, I'm starting to miss the pubs, plus the scenery, the range of shops (never thought I've hear myself say that!), the sense of humour, the close proximity to great European destinations etc.

 

Not planning on going back at this stage, but can really see why some are. SA has its attractions, lots of them, but so does the UK.

 

Good luck anyone who's making the move back.

 

Jim

[lorluc 10]

Yep, I'm starting to miss the pubs, plus the scenery, the range of shops (never thought I've hear myself say that!), the sense of humour, the close proximity to great European destinations etc.

 

Not planning on going back at this stage, but can really see why some are. SA has its attractions, lots of them, but so does the UK.

 

Good luck anyone who's making the move back.

 

Jim

 

 

Have to say i find myself agreeing with you...

[Guest cara]

Jim and Adel yes yes the sence of humour. we are going home in 6 weeks to UK and Ireland (which is where I am from) and I am really looking forward to a night out where you wake up the next day and your face is sore from laughing.

maggie

[ian mc 10]

Yep, I'm starting to miss the pubs, plus the scenery, the range of shops (never thought I've hear myself say that!), the sense of humour, the close proximity to great European destinations etc.

 

Not planning on going back at this stage, but can really see why some are. SA has its attractions, lots of them, but so does the UK.

 

Good luck anyone who's making the move back.

 

Jim

Could not agree more went back on holiday twice last year just to try and get it out my system settled for a while also got family coming over on holiday been here 13 years and still feel home sick

[Guest mayjess]

Speaking as one who done the going back business,, I can honestly say I have it out of my system,, I dont miss anything except my family,, the pubs here are good enough for me,, I find its the company you are in that makes the night fun not the pub itself, I have had many a night out in my home town and it has been dull sometimes, then had nights out here and had a ball. Its so easy to THINK you are missing something when you are here, I should know I drove my family back to the UK thinking I was missing pubs, shops and so called sense of community,, it was all crap !!!

 

I must say though if it is all you can think about then you should go back,, as you will never settle until you do.

 

Mayjess:mad:

[Anne B 10]

Speaking as one who done the going back business,, I can honestly say I have it out of my system,, I dont miss anything except my family,, the pubs here are good enough for me,, I find its the company you are in that makes the night fun not the pub itself, I have had many a night out in my home town and it has been dull sometimes, then had nights out here and had a ball. Its so easy to THINK you are missing something when you are here, I should know I drove my family back to the UK thinking I was missing pubs, shops and so called sense of community,, it was all crap !!!

 

I must say though if it is all you can think about then you should go back,, as you will never settle until you do.

 

Mayjess:mad:

 

As a fellow ping-ponger I totally agree. I was homesick when I moved here 16 years ago, went back for a holiday to England after a year but was still homesick. In the end we moved to England for what was meant to be 2 years, stayed 12. I've totally got over missing pubs, old buildings etc (never really missed shops). I really like England, loved being able to pop over to Italy or Spain, but in the end the bad weather and the overcrowding got to me. Once you've lived here and lived a different lifestyle, then the things you don't like about the UK just seem worse. I now feel totally settled here, my husband is happily back with his family and friends, it's only my family that I miss.

[Guest sunnydays]

Speaking as one who done the going back business,, I can honestly say I have it out of my system,, I dont miss anything except my family,, the pubs here are good enough for me,, I find its the company you are in that makes the night fun not the pub itself, I have had many a night out in my home town and it has been dull sometimes, then had nights out here and had a ball. Its so easy to THINK you are missing something when you are here, I should know I drove my family back to the UK thinking I was missing pubs, shops and so called sense of community,, it was all crap !!!

 

I must say though if it is all you can think about then you should go back,, as you will never settle until you do.

 

Mayjess:mad:

 

 

I can't agree with you more!

[Guest Peachie]

I have read this post with interest and it is nice to see people supportive of others even if they don't agree with the post!! more of this attitiude would make me log on more frequently than the occasional nosey!!

 

The thread has given me pause to think about my own personal reasons for emergrateing they are by no means unique and reflect on how these pros and cons effect my day to day life the answer is not that much!!!!! I still work cook and clean ect I was reasonbly happy in the UK but peed off with the cold and wet weather my job was harder than it should have been ect here my job is easier and my lifesyle is on apar but yes I felt awful when my parents were ill but I lived away from them in the uk and still would have had difficulty visiting them but they could have visisted me! other than that we are happy with our lot here but anyone in the uk should know that life here is not always better but just different

 

good luck to all those who are returning to the Uk and the exchange rate is great so that should give alittle peace of mind but if possible try for citizenship as it things change in the future it would be easier to come back. This thread has shown that things and prioities can change for anyone and the best thing for you family changes each year

 

be lucky Deb x

[Guest Messua]

I think you are absolutely doing the right thing! We came here 11 years ago and within the 1st 4 years we lost 3 family members. It was traumatic and tragic and deep down, Hubby and I still feel bad about not being there at the end. My father had a stroke a year or so ago and although I regularly contacted my mother and the hospital, it wasn't the same as being there. Our three sons were very young when we came here and so have grown up not knowing their grandparents. One pair have passed away and the other have been here only once and are probably not well enough to do so now. For us, financially, coming here was the best decision and we don't regret it. The boys have had a happy, healthy life here, on the whole and to their credit, both sets of grandparents understood that we were doing what we believed was in our children's best interests, but we are not only children and we did not leave parents alone. Some things I wish we had done differently, but part of this process is living with the decisions made. The very best of luck to all of you and best wishes for a happy pommy future.

[Guest The Hadleys]

Good Luck Liz & family

 

your posts are always good - and were helpful a few years ago when we were setting out on our adventure.

 

 

Hi

 

Good luck with everything .. if you haven't already got an agent to sell your home, I work for Elders Real Estate, back in the UK I worked for Halifax Property Services would be more than happy to give you some advice.

 

Regards

 

Dawn

[antlet 10]

I remember you guys, especially when we wre new here and panicky!!

 

Good on you. You have tried, you've experienced, are are probably far richer in spirit than you were when arriving - financially would be a bonus, but hey, we can't have everything. It's not easy making any decision, but, it is better to have tried than being too scared to stick your neck out...

 

Best of wishes for whatever life throws in your direction next.

[Guest katsmajic]

Their back btw....

And massive welcome back too xxx

[Diane 100]

Their back btw....

And massive welcome back too xxx

 

Back here or back there?

[HEAPS GOOD !!! 76]

Depends where you are.....are you here or there..i dunno where i am...sometimes i seem to be here there and everywhere.....

 

They are here.....

 

 

HG

[Diane 100]

Oh wow! Welcome back then, the Monaghans!!

[tommo64 10]

Good to hear so many positive, supportive and balanced posts on this thread. Whether to stay or go is often as big a decision as whether or not to come here in the first place. It is very much a personal judgement call and ultimately about doing what we believe is best at that particular moment in time. For some, it is based on financial considerations, for others it is emotional and about family ties, or maybe a combination of both. On the whole, we have settled relatively well here, but the pull of family ties is still there and it is really difficult when there is a death or serious illness in the family. We recently lost our 16 year-old nephew in very tragic circumstances. My wife found this very hard especially, as it was her brother's son.

 

So I don't blame anyone for doing what they feel they have to. I would urge anyone thinking of going back to think long and hard before making that final decision though. There are many stories about those who go back to the UK, only to be reminded of why they came out here in the first place. Then they end up 'ping-ponging'. A very expensive hobby! Some friends of ours came here just 11 weeks ago and have decided to return home. Whilst I respect their decision, I really do wish they would give it a little more time. I'm sure most of us have felt despair and home sickness at some point before things have improved. I do wish them well, whatever they decide.

[Guest Guest75]

Yep ,they are back...glad someone else noticed :biglaugh:

[Diane 100]

I'd love to hear their story, if they get the chance to post up sometime.

[jarnasa 10]

Good Luck to you all. It is a hard decision to make but sooo understandable

[Guest Guest75]

I'd love to hear their story, if they get the chance to post up sometime.

 

 

I'll try an arm twist on them to post up about their return

[Guest Nick11]

Give em a little time Tyke...I don't think it has been the most pleasant of experiences. x