Guest The Standrings

Don't want to be a billy no mates!!!

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    Guest The Standrings

    Hi

    I guess I am just putting a post one here to seek a bit of reassurance. We are in the proccess of applying for a 176 visa and have a CO, but everything is on hold as my 2nd baby is due in 7 weeks (woo!!!). Once baby is born we are hoping to get our medicals and police checks done straight away (in fact i think Darren may be booking them while I am in labour ha ha!) and hopefully our visa will come through quickly. We have already sold our house, so are hoping to come over by December. As I will now have two children 2 and under (eeeekk!) I won't be going back to work for a while. I'm really worried about losing my independence and being a billy no mates!! Just putting the feelers out now (well in advance I know!) to see how easily people found it to make friends. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks

    E:confused:mma

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    Hi Emma

     

    Its a bit daunting about how you're going to make new friends in any new country.....but I have to say, I think some of the best friends that I ever made - were ones that I met at playgroups etc and when my girls were young.

     

    I would say to submerge yourself in those MOther & Baby groups - you get to meet other mums who are in the same position as you and from all walks of life.

     

    I loved that part of my life( although, sometimes very stressful!)....enjoy!

     

     

    Good luck with the birth of baby no 2 and your visa.

     

    Sarahx

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    Guest moviemummy

    Good luck with the new baby and enjoy your 2 under 2. Mine were 20 months apart. They are great kids and having a closeish age gap was, for me any way, the best thing.

     

    All the best with the rest of the visa process and your move.

     

    L x

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    You have to accept that you will be a billy no mates for the first few weeks until you start to meet new people and make friends. You also have to accept that those friendships will take time to grow, and will not instantly replace the very old friends you're leaving behind. This is part and parcel of moving.

     

    That said, you can make things easier for yourself. Ensure you have some form of transport during the day when your OH is at work, be it car or making sure you live v. close to a public transport route. Get out and meet people, join mother/baby groups, take your kids to the park or the beach, where there'll be other mum and kids around for you to meet. don't just sit at home all day.

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    Guest Nick11

    That's a tought one. Initially when you arrive you make an effort to socialise..get to know everyone. Some folk will fall by the wayside, some folk you will not feel a connection with (no matter how hard you try), some folk will abuse your hospitality just to get a free meal!!! You will meet all sorts and go through a huge range of emotions. But you will meet a few folk who eventually become to feel like family. Hang onto them for dear life. They are the special ones xx

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    Guest caoimhe

    Put yourself out there straight away. I was very worried about my husband before we got here as hes ok in small groups but not great at meeting people on a grand scale. When we arrived even he agreed to accept every invitation going and as Nick 11 says some will gel with you some won't. You will be surprised how many people from this site will come to the rescue of a lonely person, We had some family here and therefore were lucky enough to meet friends through them, then we met friends through my kids starting soccer (my kids are older than yours) but a couple of really good friends we met from this site. We live on the other side of Adelaide from them so don't get to socialise often but they are there if I need them. Just remember it IS hard but you need to put yourself out there and except every invite going because during one of them you will meet those life long friends. I miss my friends from home so much but I know if I ever moved back there I would so miss my friends from here. Oh BTW we are only here 2.5 years. Good luck and if your ever stuck give me a shout. My kids are older but I always up for a chat with an adult x

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    Guest The Standrings

    Sorry it has taken so long to get back to everyone, but just like to say thanks you have set my hormonal mind at rest!!!! Thanks:wink:

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    Guest SusieOR

    We are heading over in Nov & I have 2 young girls... Caoife is 2 1/2 & Kiara is 6 months...

     

    Mother & baby groups all the way...!!!

     

    & you know what... if you live near me, we can meet up at a park somewhere & you can be my friend... LOL... it will be fine, I promise...

     

    In fact, I think there is a thread on Pomsinadelaide about mothers & babies meeting up over there... We will be fine...

     

    Sx

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    Guest The Standrings
    We are heading over in Nov & I have 2 young girls... Caoife is 2 1/2 & Kiara is 6 months...

     

    Mother & baby groups all the way...!!!

     

    & you know what... if you live near me, we can meet up at a park somewhere & you can be my friend... LOL... it will be fine, I promise...

     

    In fact, I think there is a thread on Pomsinadelaide about mothers & babies meeting up over there... We will be fine...

     

    Sx

     

    Hi Susie

    Wooo thanks for being my potential friend ha ha!! I definately intend to stalk out all those mother and baby groups, its just nice to know other people are quaking in fear like me ha! We will keep in touch and if we are near enough a meet up is a definate! Thanks!!

    xx:biggrin:

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