simon@sarah

21 year old son

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    Hi, PIA help is needed!

    We arrived in Sept 2011 with 3 sons, 16,18 n 21. The 18 year old has already gone back to uk, which broke my heart and now the 21 year old is showing signs of wanting to.

    He graduated in UK in Sports and Exercise Science just before we left and has got his dream job here..he is the strength and conditioning coach for the Panthers u16s n U18s and realises he wouldnt have a job anywhere near as good as that in UK.

    It is only 3 nights a week, and although he works in a bar as well to give him a bit more cash he is struggling. He is really missing his mates as he was a very social lad, loadsa mates and always out.

    He loved playing footie in the Uk and always played for a local team from young..so im trying to get him to join a team here, but he will struggle with his Panthers commitment..so does any know of a team that trains on either a Mon Wed or Fri and who play on a Sunday.

    If anyone has a son or daughter of similar age would be great to put them in touch (though he will kill me for interfering and would die if he knew i was putting this on, but I will do whatever I can to help him stay!). We are in Seaview Downs, but he has a car.

    Not sure how I would cope if 2 of my sons where in the UK, finding it hard some days to convince myself we have done the right thing and if it were to happen I would find it even harder!

    Thanks to anyone with any ideas

    Sarah

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    Guest ladyarkles

    Hi Sarah,

     

    Sorry to hear that you are having a hard time at the moment.

    I can't help you with the footie stuff, but I do understand how you feel.

    I've got a 22 yr old and a 25 yr old in the UK that I really miss, even though they are "Bloody grown up now, mother, so stop fussing!" LOL

     

    Hope you manage to hook up with someone that can give you the info you need.

     

    ~ Rachel

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    Hi, I really feel for you,

    We are coming in July with a 15 yr old daughter and sons aged 17 and 20. The 20 yr old has already told us he probably won't be staying long but the 17 yr old wants to do uni so needs us to support him through it and won't be able to just up and leave. It's so hard with older kids, it just makes you wish you emigrated years ago when they were little doesn't it ? If you get the football thing sorted out, my boys are footie mad and would def be interested, also good way for them to meet new friends. How do you like Seaview downs, I've been looking at houses in that area ?

    Lisa

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    Hi cant help you much wit de footie thing,but i do know wat ur going thru....we arrived oct 2011 and my son is 23...my daughter is 4...so its bloody hard,lol.He too is missing his mates something terrible and had lost his job in Ireland so decided to come wit us,my heart breaks for him here cos he cant find any work,he applies for anything he sees in de paper or on line,hes lucky if he even hears back from them! He just sits in his room all day,he will come to de beach and stuff at de weekends if were going but it must be so hard sitting wit ur mam and dad....he has been out a few times at nite wit a few lads he met but wit no job we cant afford to support his social life,so hes stuck in!! He too wanted to go home at christmas but didnt (thank god)..and like u he wud kill me if he thought i was posting on here,so how do you make contact? We are in golden grove and he doesnt hav a car yet,i pray every nite that someone will just give him a break and offer him some work,we made this huge move for him and our little girl,and i no he had lost his job at home but he still had his mates to talk too...id settle better if he did,just wish i could help him more!!

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    Hi Rachel,

     

    It is the hardest thing going, letting you kids go!! Im sure had i had to leave any behind when we boarded the plane I wouldnt have been able to climb them stairs!!

     

    Hope yours visit as I do mine!

     

    Sarah

     

    Hi Sarah,

     

    Sorry to hear that you are having a hard time at the moment.

    I can't help you with the footie stuff, but I do understand how you feel.

    I've got a 22 yr old and a 25 yr old in the UK that I really miss, even though they are "Bloody grown up now, mother, so stop fussing!" LOL

     

    Hope you manage to hook up with someone that can give you the info you need.

     

    ~ Rachel

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    Hi Lisa

    It isnt easy bringing teenagers over, yep would have been much easier when they were all school age, but that wasnt to be. Iv come over with the boys stepdad so at least Lewis who returned to the Uk had his dad to go back to.

    Seaview Downs is a lovely area, and is so central when you have older kids..Westfield shopping centre and the Aquatic centre are 10mins up the road. The city is easily accessible by train, the nearest station being again about 10mins away. It is quite an expensive area to buy, being close to the beach,city and Glenelg so not sure we would ever be able to buy in the area, but as that is a long time away, it isnt something I worry about now. My 16 yr old goes to Seaview High which he can walk to and although it doesnt have the greatest reputation, he loves it and has settled brilliantly, which to me makes it the best school ever!

    I notice your from Bedfordshire, we abouts..we are from Kempston.

    Sarah

     

    Hi, I really feel for you,

    We are coming in July with a 15 yr old daughter and sons aged 17 and 20. The 20 yr old has already told us he probably won't be staying long but the 17 yr old wants to do uni so needs us to support him through it and won't be able to just up and leave. It's so hard with older kids, it just makes you wish you emigrated years ago when they were little doesn't it ? If you get the football thing sorted out, my boys are footie mad and would def be interested, also good way for them to meet new friends. How do you like Seaview downs, I've been looking at houses in that area ?

    Lisa

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    Thanks..that sounds ideal..iv passed the link onto my son, just needs a rocket up his bum now to do something about it! AAARRRGGGH!!!!!!

    Sarah

     

    hi southern knights at o'sullivans beach are desperate for football players, they train wed and fri and play on a sunday, pre season has just started

     

    http://sacommunity.org/org/205941-Southern_Knights_Football_Club

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    Hi. It is def the hardest age to bring them over, my son has been lucky with work but is still broke all the time because of how expensive everything is here. I wish I could wave a wand, it is soo hard for them to meet people, spec if they arent working. Does your son like footie, I spoke to my cousins husband who emigrated 30yrs ago at the age of 16 and he said joining a local soccer club was his initial lifeline, and it wont cost anything for him to get involved, cept a pair of boots. Facebook is a great thing until you are trying to help them settle, seeing all the pics and comments made by his old mates in the UK makes it even harder.

    I hope your son manages to get work and settle.

    PM if you ever want to chat,im with you on the settling, it would be so much easier if they were settled..i do wonder if we have done the right thing, but have decided to give it 2 years and see.

    Good luck.

    Sarah

     

    Hi cant help you much wit de footie thing,but i do know wat ur going thru....we arrived oct 2011 and my son is 23...my daughter is 4...so its bloody hard,lol.He too is missing his mates something terrible and had lost his job in Ireland so decided to come wit us,my heart breaks for him here cos he cant find any work,he applies for anything he sees in de paper or on line,hes lucky if he even hears back from them! He just sits in his room all day,he will come to de beach and stuff at de weekends if were going but it must be so hard sitting wit ur mam and dad....he has been out a few times at nite wit a few lads he met but wit no job we cant afford to support his social life,so hes stuck in!! He too wanted to go home at christmas but didnt (thank god)..and like u he wud kill me if he thought i was posting on here,so how do you make contact? We are in golden grove and he doesnt hav a car yet,i pray every nite that someone will just give him a break and offer him some work,we made this huge move for him and our little girl,and i no he had lost his job at home but he still had his mates to talk too...id settle better if he did,just wish i could help him more!!

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    Hi Lisa

    It isnt easy bringing teenagers over, yep would have been much easier when they were all school age, but that wasnt to be. Iv come over with the boys stepdad so at least Lewis who returned to the Uk had his dad to go back to.

    Seaview Downs is a lovely area, and is so central when you have older kids..Westfield shopping centre and the Aquatic centre are 10mins up the road. The city is easily accessible by train, the nearest station being again about 10mins away. It is quite an expensive area to buy, being close to the beach,city and Glenelg so not sure we would ever be able to buy in the area, but as that is a long time away, it isnt something I worry about now. My 16 yr old goes to Seaview High which he can walk to and although it doesnt have the greatest reputation, he loves it and has settled brilliantly, which to me makes it the best school ever!

    I notice your from Bedfordshire, we abouts..we are from Kempston.

    Sarah

    Hi Sarah,

    We live in Dunstable. Do you know it ? Not exactly a hive of excitement !

    Just can't wait to sell the house and give it all a go. I am sure every single one of us that emigrates wonders if we have done the right thing. I agree with you re school, if the kids are happy then we will be happy.

    How long are you going to wait before buying a house ? I am also in agreement with what you say about giving it at least two years. At least you know your son is with his Dad, and not trying to fend for himself.

    Lisa

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    Hi Sarah, I'm 21 and living in Tennyson. I am in my final year of uni in England but my parents live in Adelaide so I am staying with them for the next six weeks and trying to decide which country I want to live in when I graduate! I too am looking for people my age to socialise with, and to check out the night life with, so feel free to put your son in contact with me. I would also die of embarrassment if I saw my mum posting on these forums for me!!! :P

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    Guest ECLM

    I'm 20 and finishing my degree here but desperately missing my lad mates from uni in the uk and people from home. It's been pretty hard to find anyone to socialise with at uni (weirdly enough) so it'd be great to meet someone from the uk.

     

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    Hi Sarah,

    We live in Dunstable. Do you know it ? Not exactly a hive of excitement !

    Just can't wait to sell the house and give it all a go. I am sure every single one of us that emigrates wonders if we have done the right thing. I agree with you re school, if the kids are happy then we will be happy.

    How long are you going to wait before buying a house ? I am also in agreement with what you say about giving it at least two years. At least you know your son is with his Dad, and not trying to fend for himself.

     

     

    Hi Lisa

     

    This post just became active again..really sorry, hadnt seen your reply til now! Yep i know Dunstable, not that far from where we were really. How close are you to coming to Oz. We wont buy probably for 2 years, we are renting from friends and so have no inspections etc and the house is ideal so will wait til youngest has finished school and then look to buy as prob wont be able to afford where we are now so dont want to move schools, having just got him settled. Thomas seems alot more settled now, and i passed all the footie info onto him but typically didnt take up any off the suggestions..as the saying goes...you can take a horse to water.............................!!!

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    Hi Sarah, I'm 21 and living in Tennyson. I am in my final year of uni in England but my parents live in Adelaide so I am staying with them for the next six weeks and trying to decide which country I want to live in when I graduate! I too am looking for people my age to socialise with, and to check out the night life with, so feel free to put your son in contact with me. I would also die of embarrassment if I saw my mum posting on these forums for me!!! :P

     

    Hi Elle, as before, only just seen your reply, sorry, not even sure if your still in Adelaide...let me know if you are and if your on facebook, will pass your info onto Tom.

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    I'm 20 and finishing my degree here but desperately missing my lad mates from uni in the uk and people from home. It's been pretty hard to find anyone to socialise with at uni (weirdly enough) so it'd be great to meet someone from the uk.

     

    Ella

    Hi Ella, PM me your fb name and i will pass it onto Thomas...wont make any promises as he is a nitemare to pin down and do stuff, but will do my best, as having seen Tom miss his mates i know where you are coming from.

    Sarah

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    Hi Sarah,

    We live in Dunstable. Do you know it ? Not exactly a hive of excitement !

    Just can't wait to sell the house and give it all a go. I am sure every single one of us that emigrates wonders if we have done the right thing. I agree with you re school, if the kids are happy then we will be happy.

    How long are you going to wait before buying a house ? I am also in agreement with what you say about giving it at least two years. At least you know your son is with his Dad, and not trying to fend for himself.

     

     

    Hi Lisa

     

    This post just became active again..really sorry, hadnt seen your reply til now! Yep i know Dunstable, not that far from where we were really. How close are you to coming to Oz. We wont buy probably for 2 years, we are renting from friends and so have no inspections etc and the house is ideal so will wait til youngest has finished school and then look to buy as prob wont be able to afford where we are now so dont want to move schools, having just got him settled. Thomas seems alot more settled now, and i passed all the footie info onto him but typically didnt take up any off the suggestions..as the saying goes...you can take a horse to water.............................!!!

    Hi again,

    Our flights are booked for 28th July, time seems to be ticking down really quickly now . Looks like we are about a year behind you ! Things sound like they are calming down for you a bit now ? How did you find the weather when you arrived ? We are leaving in the UKs summer coming into Ozs winter but that could mean anything especially the UK 'summer' !

    Lisa

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    Hi sarah i really feel for you it must be such a worry:( has he thought of life saving? we live in seaford rise and its really popular and excellant for meeting people, i also have left my two sons in the uk age 20 and 23, it nearly broke me leaving them and i miss them so much but im here with their stepdad too so at least they have someone in uk. i just look forward to when they come here to visit:) good luck with your son i hope he settles. claire

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    my 18 year old daughter says theres a football (soccer) club in west beach and they play every sunday, dont know the age catorgries but there seems to be loads playing!

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    Hi again,

    Our flights are booked for 28th July, time seems to be ticking down really quickly now . Looks like we are about a year behind you ! Things sound like they are calming down for you a bit now ? How did you find the weather when you arrived ? We are leaving in the UKs summer coming into Ozs winter but that could mean anything especially the UK 'summer' !

    Lisa

     

    Hi Lisa

    The time will fly, esp the last few weeks..and for me they were awful...watching 2 eldest saying goodbye to their girlfriends and mates was horrendous..and the journey to the airport was the quietest ever. But now we are here couldnt imagine living back in the UK..miss everyone loads but not the place, it is gorgeous here, when the sun is shining each weekend is like a mini holiday. Having said that it was cold when we arrived, esp in the house in the evenings, we put clothes on to go to bed and your nose would be like a block of ice!! houses just arent built for winter, so before this one kicks in we are off out to buy decent quilts and some heaters!! Any advice needed let me know and will try and help.

    Sarah

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    Hi sarah i really feel for you it must be such a worry:( has he thought of life saving? we live in seaford rise and its really popular and excellant for meeting people, i also have left my two sons in the uk age 20 and 23, it nearly broke me leaving them and i miss them so much but im here with their stepdad too so at least they have someone in uk. i just look forward to when they come here to visit:) good luck with your son i hope he settles. claire

    Hi Claire

    Thanks for the reply. Thomas was a life guard in the UK, but has shown no interest in joining a surf life saving club...he works loads to be honest and prob wouldnt be able to commit to it anyway. He has met a group through PIA and seems happier in last few weeks though still not convinced he will be here this time next year. How did you cope with leaving your sons...im not sure i couldve got on the plane....but as you say it def helps having their dad back in the UK. My 18 year old is coming out in Oct and already cant wait..hope your sons will be visiting you soon.xx

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    Guest lauren_1990

    i know how he feels, im 21 and struggling with not having many friends but i used to be so social and out with friends all the time. i'm happy to chat with him :)

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    i know how he feels, im 21 and struggling with not having many friends but i used to be so social and out with friends all the time. i'm happy to chat with him :)

     

    Hi Lauren have sent you a PM

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    Guest llilipom

    Hi Sarah,

    i am sorry to hear about your son .I went through the same thing when we arrived in Adelaide from Surrey UK IN Feb 2010,my boys are now 23 and 21 .Believe me its not easy the youngest has got his bag packed he is going home in july to visit his friends. I am just praying he comes back. They both have jobs they work for the same company , never a day passes without them talking about going back to England ,The eldest one plays football so he is bit distracted at times .

    Hang in there just hoping your sons will find happiness in this state.

    pm me i can introduce my sons to your sons they might hit it off and share their experiences .

     

    lil

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    Hi Sarah,

     

    Have replied your pm sorry for late response

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