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Hi guys

 

I just wanted to tell my story for you guys who are thinking of coming back to the UK. My now husband and I went to Australia on a working holiday visa in Aug 2009, we travelled for 2 months and then settled in Adelaide for the rest of our time to live and work and see if we wanted to immigrate (a luxury I know). For the first 4 months in Adelaide I loved it and had pretty much come to the conclusion that we should move to SA permanently, but then my birthday came in March and all of a sudden I had no friends to celebrate it with as the few I had made were busy. I was devestated as I have always had lots of friends round to celebrate with and, if I'm honest, make me feel loved.

 

After my birthday I became so home sick all I wanted was to come home. I created this perfect place in my mind where everything was wonderful and I had friends constantly around me and I was never lonely. I couldnt wait to get home and was over the moon when our visa ended and we came home to get married. For the first 3 weeks it was perfect and great to be home. Our friends all wanted to see because we were back and a novelty. But then things started going back to normal and I started to remember all the reasons why I had prefered Australia before I got home sick and to be honest its just got worse and worse. 3 months later I was pinning for Australia worse than I ever did for England. Having been homesick for England and then return I realised that was all it was, homesickness.

 

Our visa's were granted for permanent residence in March and although I'm still freaking out about being away from family and friends I now have a balanced view of going and coming back. None of you are some crazy person who, on the spure of the moment, decided to move your family to the other side of the world. You thought long and hard and worked tirelessly to get there because in your heart you knew it was for the best.

 

England is a very depressing place to be right now. As i sit here we have had almost consistent rain for 3 months, no exaggeration!! I know its only weather but everyone is still in winter mode, no ones socialising and everyone has that gloom about them that comes with winter. Along with the weather we have the highest unemployement figures for years and everything is ridiculously expensive.

 

Youve moved so far out of your comfort zone your bound to have a period of thinking you've made a mistake. Remember us humans like stability and routine not massive great big changes lol.

 

Homesickness is a bugger and can change your whole mind set not always in a balanced way. I just wanted to say if you're missing England come back for a few weeks, look for a job, buy some petrol and settle in for the weather because a lot of your ideals of the country your missing will suddenly return to being the reasons you wanted to leave.

 

Whatever you decide good luck x

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I absolutely second everything you have just said, we went through all the homesickness situations too, well to be honest we didnt, I did (Lisa) steven was really happy and i just wanted to come home, now im beginning to wonder where home is for me, im much more depressed here than I was in Adelaide, i potentially had some great friends and to be honest pushed them away, this was mainly because they were new migrants also and they were much more positive than me, I didnt want to drag them down with me. However now im reapplying for the pr now as i do currently have enough points but may not next year. I still wont be able to move out straight away as i promised my daughter she could finish school,(dont want to make any problems with the kids this time) my friends who i hardly every see think its because im not happy in my house which is too small.(surely i would just move house) my aussie friend who i currently work with told me to write a journal so i can remember why im not happy here and any family/friends issues basically regarding never seeing anyone, i remember last time pining for friends that i actually only saw once or twice a year looking back it was ridiculous and a mistake that has financially cost me. for the next few years we will be having no decent holidays because we are saving like mad to make sure this time we are prepared. I actually speak more often to my friends in Adelaide than I do to my friends back here, life is so bizarre and whether we get back to Adelaide i just dont know but i will certainly give it my all, at least this time i know what im getting us all into. Good luck with your plans x

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OP Not sure when you posted but wow its hard to believe we are both living in the same country (UK)the way you are describing it.I am not disbelieving you,but for one it has'nt rained non stop where I am for 3 mths.Its definately not depressing,and food is cheap as is most other things!Best of luck with your return to Oz.

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OP Not sure when you posted but wow its hard to believe we are both living in the same country (UK)the way you are describing it.I am not disbelieving you,but for one it has'nt rained non stop where I am for 3 mths.Its definately not depressing,and food is cheap as is most other things!Best of luck with your return to Oz.

 

The OP posted this back in July last year. So the raining for 3 months was pretty much spot on alas :wacko: It rained a lot over the summer in the UK. We hardly had any decent summer weather. I remember we went to north Wales at the end of May and the week after we left, the whole area where we had been staying flooded badly.

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OP Not sure when you posted but wow its hard to believe we are both living in the same country (UK)the way you are describing it.I am not disbelieving you,but for one it has'nt rained non stop where I am for 3 mths.Its definately not depressing,and food is cheap as is most other things!Best of luck with your return to Oz.

 

 

Ha ha, food is cheap if you don't mind eating horse... :biglaugh:

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Ha ha, food is cheap if you don't mind eating horse... :biglaugh:

I'm a vegetarian so would'nt know!Do you know 100% whats in your food?I seem to recall a story in Adelaide a few years ago when someone went to a well known chicken place (chain not independant)and pulled a finger licken good mouse out of their bucket!

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The OP posted this back in July last year. So the raining for 3 months was pretty much spot on alas :wacko: It rained a lot over the summer in the UK. We hardly had any decent summer weather. I remember we went to north Wales at the end of May and the week after we left, the whole area where we had been staying flooded badly.

Yep I do recall that snifter,with all due respect,I knew about the floods,but the OP said they had almost consistant rain where they lived.I spend alot of time in my garden and yes we had rain at times,but I don't recall spending that summer indoors.Think it depends where you are in the UK!I must live in a lucky little pocket!:wink:

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My lasting memory of the UK was packing up to come to Adelaide last (UK) summer - I couldn't clean the bikes, the tents, or anything because it would not stop raining. We had one bbq - in March.

 

We are still new to life in Oz, and I think about our life in the UK quite often, how lovely the Devon countryside was, how much I miss my mum, etc - and then I think of the horribly long winter, falling over on ice whilst trying to get to work, the beaches being crowded on the days when the weather was good, and it reminds me of all the good different things that are here.

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lol,that made me laugh about eating horse !!! just left the u.k and arrived here yesterday.The jokes about horsemeat at the moment in the u.k are wild !!! The food in the u.k has become alot more expensive and petrol prices are ridiculous !! and it has rained and rained and bloody rained, and snowed and snowed ad bloody snowed !!!

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Don't forget the wind - been very blustery up here in Scotland for most of this week. Today has been lovely though, lovely and cold.

 

Less than 4 weeks to Adelaide.

 

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Hi Lily

 

My post was written last March so a while ago now. Thought the cold you've had this year is worse than the rain so I stand by my point on weather lol

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