Leaving children behind...

[Guest dp n dd]

Hiya,

 

we're hoping to 'get off' in the summer to Adelaide (hope its nice - never been 2 Oz).

 

Thing is we're taking 2 of our kids, & my oldest is coming out for a working holiday. But Jeanettes son (9) is DEFINATELY not coming!

He's going to stay with his dad n grandparents.

 

Has anyone else had to face up to this kind of scenario?

Its going to be a massive wrench and being realistic could ruin everything.

 

HELP! :?

 

P & J

[Guest betty22]

Hi P&J,

 

Could you not persuade the little lad (with his dad permission of course) to be included on the application, come out with you and then make a decision, Even if he just validates and then goes back to UK he still has 5 years to make up his mind(presuming you are on a PR Visa)

 

A difficult decision.

Best of luck to you

Liz

[Guest dglamoore]

Hi P & J

 

welcome to the site :lol:

 

I agree with Liz about your little one - could you not get him to come over for a months trial and then agree he can go back if he does not take to it? He may love it when he arrives

 

Also might be an idea to get him chatting to some of the kids in the kids section on here - maybe he is just worried about making new friends and scared and leaving what is familiar to him.

 

Best of luck

Lisa

[Guest dp n dd]

Hiya,

 

thanks for your replies, much appreciated

 

The thing is, the lads a bit cautious about new things,

our 'plan' is to introduce him to the delights of Oz gradually,

 

and hopefully he'll fall for it - he is coming over for a holiday

as soon as we get sorted.

 

He's been very ill as a young child & was spoiled somewhat

by the grannies! Still is, thats partly why he's stayin

 

He's had to have meds anyway so if he did decide, hopefully it wouldn't be a huge application project. Does anyone know different?

 

Its now or never for us to go, I'm 39 n J's 38 so we haven't got 10 yrs to spare to wait. The other kids are ready for it - so this is the big sacrifice we're having to make. :cry:

 

cheers again P & J

[Guest RandC]

I totally sympathise, our eldest daughter has now announced she won't be coming and every time I imagine getting on the plane without her even though she's old enough to be left behind, I fill up. Can't imagine what it must feel like with a 9 year old

 

hope it all works out

 

Cari

[Guest dp n dd]

Hi Cara

 

I do the same. On mothers day i thought this will be my last mothers day with him and fill up but keep hoping and praying 1 day he will come and stay in oz with me.

 

I am going to apply for shares in the kleenex company

 

But also communication is loads better now and dont think there will be a day that i wont speak to him or see him (on web cam ) and at the end of the day i can always come back.

 

Be strong & good luck

 

p & j