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    Guest dp n dd

    Hiya,

     

    we're hoping to 'get off' in the summer to Adelaide (hope its nice - never been 2 Oz).

     

    Thing is we're taking 2 of our kids, & my oldest is coming out for a working holiday. But Jeanettes son (9) is DEFINATELY not coming!

    He's going to stay with his dad n grandparents.

     

    Has anyone else had to face up to this kind of scenario?

    Its going to be a massive wrench and being realistic could ruin everything.

     

    HELP! :?

     

    P & J

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    Guest betty22

    Hi P&J,

     

    Could you not persuade the little lad (with his dad permission of course) to be included on the application, come out with you and then make a decision, Even if he just validates and then goes back to UK he still has 5 years to make up his mind(presuming you are on a PR Visa)

     

    A difficult decision.

    Best of luck to you

    Liz

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    Guest dglamoore

    Hi P & J

     

    welcome to the site :lol:

     

    I agree with Liz about your little one - could you not get him to come over for a months trial and then agree he can go back if he does not take to it? He may love it when he arrives :D

     

    Also might be an idea to get him chatting to some of the kids in the kids section on here - maybe he is just worried about making new friends and scared and leaving what is familiar to him.

     

    Best of luck

    Lisa

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    Guest dp n dd

    Hiya,

     

    thanks for your replies, much appreciated :)

     

    The thing is, the lads a bit cautious about new things,

    our 'plan' is to introduce him to the delights of Oz gradually,

     

    and hopefully he'll fall for it - he is coming over for a holiday

    as soon as we get sorted.

     

    He's been very ill as a young child & was spoiled somewhat

    by the grannies! Still is, thats partly why he's stayin :D

     

    He's had to have meds anyway so if he did decide, hopefully it wouldn't be a huge application project. Does anyone know different?

     

    Its now or never for us to go, I'm 39 n J's 38 so we haven't got 10 yrs to spare to wait. The other kids are ready for it - so this is the big sacrifice we're having to make. :cry:

     

    cheers again P & J

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    Guest RandC

    I totally sympathise, our eldest daughter has now announced she won't be coming and every time I imagine getting on the plane without her even though she's old enough to be left behind, I fill up. Can't imagine what it must feel like with a 9 year old :(

     

    hope it all works out

     

    Cari

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    Guest dp n dd

    Hi Cara

     

    I do the same. On mothers day i thought this will be my last mothers day with him and fill up but keep hoping and praying 1 day he will come and stay in oz with me.

     

    I am going to apply for shares in the kleenex company :(

     

    But also communication is loads better now and dont think there will be a day that i wont speak to him or see him (on web cam ) and at the end of the day i can always come back.

     

    Be strong & good luck

     

    p & j

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