**** I understand what your saying but my circumstance is totally different, both my parents think we have done the right thing moving here, they were both all for it, not once did either of them say a negative word. We lived 3 hours away from my parents in the UK, so they were never a big part of mine or the childrens life. I speak to mum every 3 weeks and she is always happy that we are doing so well, it's the fact that they cant be bothered to come and see us, as i stated before mum made comment that we may never see them again if we dont go back to visit ( Which of course we will some time) I am just amazed they are not interested in seeing us and the grandchildren in our new environment, i love my parents dearly, especially my mum and it hurts to think the way they think, we have been here nearly 2 years and i haven't missed them as such, as we didn't see much of them anyway but i always assumed they would visit!!!!! *****
Hello Simon
Yes I can see how different it is for you especially as you have young children. It is natural to want them to know their grandparents. I have three sons and ten grandchildren in the UK and the relationship I have with my grandchildren is very precious. It is sad that your parents are denying themselves the chance to have this kind of relationship.
I can only suggest that your children try to keep the relationship going by posting things back to the UK. A picture they did at school, a copy of an essay they wrote and of course photographs are a few of the things they could include. It is easy to forget in this day of hi-tech equipment that us oldies would much prefer a hard copy of things rather than an attachment to an email. We do not all have the skills or equipment to print things out. If the postage cost is not too high a scrap book of their summer activities and achievements would be a lovely thing to send. The children could have fun putting it all together and your parents could hopefully find great enjoyment in looking at it all time and again. The kind of things that would interest me apart from the children of course, would be the flowers you can grow in your garden and the local wildlife - just send what you think may be of interest to them.
I hope you manage to persuade them that you need them to visit - that it is very important to you and your family.
Good luck in your life in Australia.
Carol
PS Although Simon didn't find my post relevant or helpful I hope that others may read it and understand a little how very difficult and painful it is to be left behind. I think it helps to be able to see all sides of a situation. I admire you all, it must take great courage to live the dream.