Guest allie

Now the terror is setting in....

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    Guest allie

    Hi all

     

    We are moving on an 457 sponsored visa....initially it is for two years but my hubby has the option to extend his contract and then go for permanent residency. I was totally fine with the move until today. It suddenly hit me that i wont be here for my dads's 65th celebrations in oct....my beautiful dog will be going to live with my parents in a fortnight and we will be moving to a country that we have never even seen before and leaving behind our jobs. My hubby is fine as he is getting his ideal job in oz but im going to be a teacher starting right at the beginning again (been there, done that and not looking forward to repeating it!)

     

    The shipping companies are all coming by this week and we can expect our furniture to be packed up within a fortnight. Our house is already on the rental market and we are just about to hand in our 4 week notice at work...the fear is setting in absolutely:unsure:

     

    Is this normal? I thought that i was all set and really positive but now all i can think of are the things that can go wrong and all the bad things that could happen! I find myself obsessd about things like finding new friends, fitting in in oz and missing my family. I know that these things will sort themselves out but at the mo it is all that i can think about!:arghh:

     

     

    Any advice would be much appreciated!

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    Guest norah battie

    so normal..........we are here two years now and you would have me kicking and screaming to go on a plane!!!!....I am a teacher too and that was the worst thing for me going back to the bottom after 15 years....Hi my name is Monica and I'm your relief teacher......very hard...BUT...it gave me a good chance to look around soak up information and learn learn learn about the system.....very quickly I got a years part time contract...turned others down because I had the advantage of knowing where I wanted to be. After two years my career is on the move...I am now an advanced skilled teacher and am going onto a leadership course.

    So be positive....we knew no one and now I am inviting 100 friends to a party....we socialise every weekend and have a great bunch of friends....we had no jobs to come to....a house on the internet and two little boys in tow!!

     

    Fate really is a wonderful thing. I am so grateful for the opportunity. What we always said was if we dont like it then we'll come back...its an adventure.

    I wrote down on a big piece of paper with pictures what we wanted too achieve in the first two years....kept us very positive. Yes there will be hard times....and oh no what are we doing times but they build you as a character and I am proud to call Adelaide my home

    All the very best

     

    Monica

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    Guest Guest75

    Hi Allie

     

    It's so normal it's untrue!

     

    I'd think you were weird if you did not have doubts and worries.

    Considering the bad things that could happen will mentally prepare you for them in the very,very slim chance they do happen.......... It's called realism!

    Rather this than head in clouds and exceptions far too high!

     

    Read back through posts on here and it all becomes apparent.

     

     

    Share on this forum as well - plenty of support here as a lot of us have gone through it:):)

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    ps we are Scottish too.....

     

    With a Yorkshire forum name?????:biglaugh::biglaugh:

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    Guest norah battie

    yeah I know.....better than mcHaggis!!!!!

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    Guest allie

    Thanks Monica, sometimes i just get bogged down in the negative! It is great to know that my time spent teaching here might just be recognised but it doesnt feel like it when the reg board are demanding a letter from uni stating that i have at least 49 hours teaching experience!!!!! 49 hours is a quiet week...:D

     

    Where in scotland are you from? Think i will def miss the diet irn bru but i hear its available in some shops!

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    Guest allie

    thanks tyke..im sure it is normal :) just very starange to get my head around at the moment!

     

     

    ps i like the yorkshire style name - conjures images of wrinkly tights!;)

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    Guest norah battie

    I was the same being negative but I think its nerves!!!!!I found all the teaching red tape a nightmare and wait till you come and apply for jobs...they are not interested until you do teach here and then you get taken on and on again and again. We are from Glasgow.......haven't had irn bru since coming here...don't miss anything just close friends but one is coming out in December. We are now applying for permanency which will make me feel more secure here.

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    thanks tyke..im sure it is normal :) just very starange to get my head around at the moment!

     

     

    ps i like the yorkshire style name - conjures images of wrinkly tights!;)

     

    Hope you are referring to Norah!

     

    "Tyke" is another name for a Yorkshire man.

     

    I'd struggle with wrinkly tights and my pink budgie smugglers.:biglaugh:

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    Guest allie
    I was the same being negative but I think its nerves!!!!!I found all the teaching red tape a nightmare and wait till you come and apply for jobs...they are not interested until you do teach here and then you get taken on and on again and again. We are from Glasgow.......haven't had irn bru since coming here...don't miss anything just close friends but one is coming out in December. We are now applying for permanency which will make me feel more secure here.

     

     

    No irn bru for two years??! dont know how the hub will cope with that! I have been told that volunteering in a school is a good way to get an aussie reference and increase the chances of supply work. Think i might try that and see how i go...fingers crossed but you have def made me feel more positive so a big thank you to you!!

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    Guest allie
    Hope you are referring to Norah!

     

    "Tyke" is another name for a Yorkshire man.

     

    I'd struggle with wrinkly tights and my pink budgie smugglers.:biglaugh:

     

     

    course i was rferring to norah and the infamous tan tights!! im sure the online norah battie has lovely smooth tights!!

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    Very normal. We came over from Scotland on 457 sponsored visa 2 years ago next month. And my employer is now paying for our PR which he has said will be a breeze aparentley. We were very nervous about coming over with 2 kids, then we found out we were expecting our 3rd the week before we left, so that really didn't help with all the family saying the would never see new baby. But in the end, after some teething problems we have now settled and are building a house (with slab being laid this tuesday!!! Woohoo) which has made us really feel settled. I work on oil rigs overseas 5 weeks on and 5 weeks off, and now when i refer to going home at the end of my hitch, i mean Adelaide. And wouldn't like to try to go back to Uk now with all the horror stories i hear from guys working here who live in UK.

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    course i was rferring to norah and the infamous tan tights!! im sure the online norah battie has lovely smooth tights!!

     

    absolutely!!!

     

    where are you from and where have you been teaching in Scotland.......My husband had to go back in March when his mum died....he said he would have got back on the plane after 1 day!!!....you'll love it here

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    Hi, we are on a 457 visa too, sponsored for 4 years, Rich my husband is a dr has the sponsorship and i'm still to get registered with the nursing board as it t akes forever! We have been here for 6 months now and it is the best thing we have ever done!

    We still have our house in the UK and miss our family, but they have/are coming out to visit and we have made more friends here than we could ever have doner in England.

    We have built a new house an d move in in 2 weeks and everything is perfect. We felt exactly the same and right up to moving we wondered if it was the right thing to do.

     

    But, our kids aboslutely love it here and everyone's social life is so much better, we spend more time outdoors enjoying what Adelaide has to offer and go to the beach most days. I'm sure that when you arrive you'll be just fine. We are in Aldingaa beach. Where are you planning to move to?Love Julia xx

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    Hi Allie,

     

    We aren't due to go until next year and at present I can't wait to go but even at this point my head is starting to plan out things to do and take.

     

    I really feel for you and sure this will be me in about 8 months time.

     

    It's great you have work.

     

    W're looking at this process at the minute but until visa confirmation, it's hard.

     

    I'm sure when you get there you'll have so much to do that for the first month, you'll have that much to do that you won't be able to think about anything else.

     

    Take care and enjoy, you'll be fine and you always have Poms In Adelaide to talk to.x

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    Guest allie
    absolutely!!!

     

    where are you from and where have you been teaching in Scotland.......My husband had to go back in March when his mum died....he said he would have got back on the plane after 1 day!!!....you'll love it here

     

     

    we're from glasgow :) i teach in wishaw and really cant wait to resign! i cant imagine loving anywhere like i do here but i guess il soon find out! it looks like most people who move over to adelaide love it so im hoping that we will too!

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    Hi, we are on a 457 visa too, sponsored for 4 years, Rich my husband is a dr has the sponsorship and i'm still to get registered with the nursing board as it t akes forever! We have been here for 6 months now and it is the best thing we have ever done!

    We still have our house in the UK and miss our family, but they have/are coming out to visit and we have made more friends here than we could ever have doner in England.

    We have built a new house an d move in in 2 weeks and everything is perfect. We felt exactly the same and right up to moving we wondered if it was the right thing to do.

     

    But, our kids aboslutely love it here and everyone's social life is so much better, we spend more time outdoors enjoying what Adelaide has to offer and go to the beach most days. I'm sure that when you arrive you'll be just fine. We are in Aldingaa beach. Where are you planning to move to?Love Julia xx

     

     

    Hi julia :)

     

    W are planning on living by the coast anywhere from hallett cove up to brighton. we want to live near the beach but still be close to flinders uni where my OH will be working :) it looks lovely! You sound like you are having a great time and it is always good to hear the positives!

     

    allie x

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    Hi Allie,

     

    We aren't due to go until next year and at present I can't wait to go but even at this point my head is starting to plan out things to do and take.

     

    I really feel for you and sure this will be me in about 8 months time.

     

    It's great you have work.

     

    W're looking at this process at the minute but until visa confirmation, it's hard.

     

    I'm sure when you get there you'll have so much to do that for the first month, you'll have that much to do that you won't be able to think about anything else.

     

    Take care and enjoy, you'll be fine and you always have Poms In Adelaide to talk to.x

     

     

    Yep my head is all ovr the place at the moment! im kinda reassured now that it is totally normal for me to feel that way though...i have days where i am really xcited and then days when i wonder what on earth we are doing! Im in a better frame of mind today and it rally has helped to hear the exoerinces of people who have done it and love it!

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    You mentioned your house was on the rental market, so I assume that means you're not selling it?

     

    If you're able to keep your house in UK and rent it out that's excellent because you're leaving the door open should you feel the need to move back home, as many do.

     

    I hate to be negative too but I must tell you that emigrating is a very scary thing and it simply doesn't work for everyone. I've moved back to Britain and back to Adelaide again and since the first time I moved to Australia I've never felt settled (including when I moved back to Britain). My whole fmaily is a total mess and I can see no realistic prospect of it ever being complete again.

     

    I have had to deal (and still am trying to deal) with these and other massive issues since I first emigrated 20 years ago at the age of 15, and frankly it's a complete nightmare to which I am now certain there is no real solution (trust me I have tried every possible avenue for the last 2 decades to find one).

     

    For some people that's how it is.

     

    For others though, it can be quite different. Some people settle very quickly in their new country and never feel the need to go back. Depends on lots and lots of things.

     

    I agree that it's good that you've at least considered all the things you might miss. Nothing can quite fully prepare you for how you feel when you actually leave Britain. but having thought things through (both the positives and the negatives) you'll be as prepared as you can and that's a good thing.

     

    If moving to Adelaide is really what you want, I wish you all the best and I genuinely hope it doesn't turn out like it has for me. As I said, it's good that you've been able to leave the door open to return.

     

    I'm sorry if this post sounds negative and as if I'm trying to put you off moving here (which it's probably too late for now anyway) but I sincerely hope that anyone considering emigrating is not going to find themselves going through what I have gone through (and still go through). There are many good things about Adelaide, and even many good things about the experience of living in another country. It's just that for some people it results in a permanent state of feeling unsettled and can destroy families, as it has for me.

     

    It's not just me by the way. Many others feel the same and I know this from reading their posts in the britishexpats forum (which has a massive section dedicated to people wanting to move back to Britain, as does this forum).

     

    Anyway once again sorry to be negative. I do genuinely hope it works out for you, honestly. Just wanted to make sure you know what you're getting into, that's all.

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    Guest norah battie
    Hi julia :)

     

    W are planning on living by the coast anywhere from hallett cove up to brighton. we want to live near the beach but still be close to flinders uni where my OH will be working :) it looks lovely! You sound like you are having a great time and it is always good to hear the positives!

     

    allie x

     

    were in Sheidow Park......look us up when you get here.........:biglaugh:

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    Guest norah battie
    we're from glasgow :) i teach in wishaw and really cant wait to resign! i cant imagine loving anywhere like i do here but i guess il soon find out! it looks like most people who move over to adelaide love it so im hoping that we will too!

     

    where abouts in Wisha!!!!?!?????

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    Guest guest3462

    Hi.

     

    Rich works at flinders hospital which is right next door to flinders uni. It take him about 30 mins in rush hour to get there or back. Inc if the expressway is shut!

    Aldinga beach is further south than Hallett Cove by about 15 mins and is a lot quieter. It is also a lot cheaper to buy or build (like we have) your new home. Though, both Hallett cove and Brighton are lovely, Brighton is muc hmore expensive to by property or land.

    I love Aldinga and would recommend it to anyone. Please feel free to give us a shout hen you arrive, we'd be happy to give you the lo down on the area and introduve oyu to our friends xxx Good luck with the move xx

     

    Hi julia :)

     

    W are planning on living by the coast anywhere from hallett cove up to brighton. we want to live near the beach but still be close to flinders uni where my OH will be working :) it looks lovely! You sound like you are having a great time and it is always good to hear the positives!

     

    allie x

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    Guest batleys

    we are due to go out in september we have rented out our house and sold all of our furniture i now only own my clothes and about 40 pair of shoes ( trust me i have reduced these ) i was feeling fine untill the last couple of days , being at mums and spending more time with her is making me think off all the things we are going to miss. The small things like laughing at silly things. I just keep telling myself it is not the end but the start of a new life, and when i say new life i mean that as i am currently in my first week of ivf treatment, last go before we go. which i am now panicing about getting insurance when we get there if preggers, would love to meet up with you when we get there , cross one thing of the list meeting friends .

     

    Lucy 29 & chris 38

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    were in Sheidow Park......look us up when you get here.........:biglaugh:

     

     

    We're building at the moment in Hallet Cove too, and renting in Brighton, so same goes here. And can't wait to get out of our rental and have our own place!!

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